Are my mum and dad alcoholics?

Question

please help i cry about this every night

my mum and dad have alcohol EVERY NIGHT of EVERY WEEK of EVERY YEAR and they never end up completely drunk but you can tell they have drunk something. and on holiday they drink loads even in the day and do end up totally drunk at night. we usually go on holiday for two weeks so its horrible for me. i asked my mum to stop but she said that she bets every mum who has kids has a drink every night. is my mum and dad alcoholics? plz help!

Answer 1

Many people drink alcohol in response to stress which is all around. Parents are usually annoying to teenagers. There are real signals of alcoholism which include job absence, embarrassing behaviors, hangovers, etc.  It is hard to conclude from your note. It sounds like you would prefer if hey don't drink at all which is a preference on your part. They are the parents and providers - the bigger question is if they are neglecting you or putting you in unsafe conditions. Talk to a professional counselor with your concerns. It is possible you are being overly critical. Or you are entirely correct. If you are uncomfortable with the alcohol abuse you must leave and find a safer place to live. Do you have relatives you can stay with? Can you enroll in college or go away to school? You must be true to yourself and it is obvious you are unhappy but remember at your age it is natural to be critical. Maybe you just need some space.

Answer 2

nah they're not alcoholics dont worry

they just little their booze a bit more than usual

"i asked my mum to stop but she said that she bets every mum who has kids has a drink every night"

thats not true my mum like never drinks ever. But i know somebody who's an alcoholic and they're a lot worse than that dont worry your parents are fine :)

Answer 3

i think you have to relax a bit.

yes they are alcoholics - but are they still good parents to you? like, does your mother make dinner, take you places, does your father work each day, and etc?? Are they just relaxed and happy when they drink? perhaps  a bit less poised?

if so, it is not good for their health - but they are functional people. THey do not have violence problems. I think you should cut them some slack. I am an alcoholic too - i sometimes fantasise about a drink the way you would think about food when you are hungry. I like to have 2 glasses of wine each night. it is wonderful and relaxing.

But i work 6 days a week, enjoy a good social life, and never get 'drunk'  - only happy, like your parents do each night.

I understand them completely. It is a nice feeling = and as long as they do not become violent and are willing to accept they  might not live as long - like until they are 90, then it is acceptable.

some kids have parents who bash them when they are drunk - and who get off their faces drunk each day- who do not work, who also take drugs!. YOu have it ok, hon. Stop worrying. Your parents are adults - just let them do what makes them happy.

how old are you.. im guessing under 15. If you were over, it would not matter to you so much. You will realise that in life, people have lots of 'problems' and yours isnt so big. So relax, it is ok.

If they start to embarrass you while on holiday - go off somewhere else and do your own thing. its a bit sad - but it is life!

Answer 4

No I don't think they are alcoholics, they just like to unwind after a hard day at work.  I think if they were arguing when drinking, there could be underlying problems between the two of them, but from what you say, they seem to enjoy each others company at home, and if that involves them having wine or beer, that's fine.  I'm sure you're Mum cooks dinner for everyone and the house is not a mess.  And they both get up every morning to go and work.

I think that if your parents have time for you, then you have nothing to worry about.  

I'm sure they both love you very much, and I know this is hard for you to understand, but parents have lives too.

Answer 5

dont worry theyr not alcoholics they just enjoy a casual drink at nite a glass of wine a night is actualy quite healthy

if your really that worried about it sit them both down and say that it bothers you and could they please try and stop for U.

dont cry over it though because its nothing to worry about unless theyr getting drunk regularly. i hope your alright and hope u dont take this the rong way but if u ever need to talk then my msn is [e-mail]

im 18 and iv had a few alcoholics in my family thankfully its all ok now

good luck

Answer 6

i feel your pain. my parents go through a 30 pack almost every night. it's sickening. like right now, there both downstairs most likely drunk because they just came back from spending like 5 hours at the bar. i consider my parents alcoholics and if your parents drink every day/night and drink on holidays and refuse to stop when you ask them, yes, i would say they are alcoholics. my parents are the same way

Answer 7

this isn't really a thing to cry about every night... no i wouldn't say they are alcoholics. As long as they don't do stuff completely different than how they normally are then no. Like as long as they don't like abuse you cause theyre drunk, then no. Many of my friends parents drink every night. Getting drunk at new years or holiday isn't that abnormal either. You can tell them to let up a little, but its really hard to completely stop drinking.

Answer 8

sure sounds like it.  Call someone... where do you live so I can give you some resources... don't be afraid to email me at [e-mail]

Answer 9

most people think that alcoholics are tramps or  bums  or people living in the street but that is not the case , doctors lawyers even priests can be alcoholics , if you're parents drink each night and if  it makes you upset that you cry over it then they are alcoholics , but theres nothing you can do about it , you are powerless over there drinking and they might never stop ,they will only stop when they want to stop , you should check out alanon and alateen these are support groups in your community and on-line that help people living with alcoholics , you should find some understanding and support there , i wish you well

Answer 10

I don't think they are alcoholics, just heavy drinkers.

I'm a recovered alcoholic who had to go into re-hab a couple of years ago to recover, so I know a lot about alcoholism.

A lot of people have a few drinks every night to relax and wind down, by the way not all mums who have kids drink every night.

They do seem to be able to control their drinking, alcoholics are people who have lost this control, if they were alcoholics they would probably have a drink or two in the morning before going to work, I did.

If you are still worried, I would consider sharing your concerns with another adult , someone you can trust implicitly that won't laugh at you and tell your mum and dad, a priest, a favourite aunt, uncle or grandparents.

Answer 11

my parents drink every night and when they have one or two its not bad but when its more than that they get SOO annoying.  the things that they say are frustrating and obnoxious.  they obviously have an addiction if they're doing it everyday and sorry that would technically make them alcoholics.  maybe you should call one of those hotlines if its really bugging you or talk to a sibling/friend.

Answer 12

sounds as if their livers are having a hard time!