Are my parents over protective?

Question

I am not allowed to have a boyfriend ,or even have guys call for that matter, until Im 16 but everyone in my school is allowed to right now. Im 13. I think I should be able to date at least when Im in high school. I think my parents are over protective. They say that its because the pressure to have s*x but honestly even think Im too young to have my first kiss. I dont get why they dont trust me. And dont say they trust me they just dont trust guys because its not like they are going to rape me or something.

Answer 1

I feel for you… I’m 14 years old and I can stay out…..ex parties much longer than my 17 year old sister can.

I think, is just that boys are seen as don’t worry he will be ok….but girls are seen as…. Oh no that’s my little girl…

Answer 2

I understand how you feel, but your parents are doing that only because they love you and doesn't want you to destroy your life during your teenage years, because once you make a mistake, like getting involved in s*x, there is no turning back, so you should really respect them for that. No offense, but I agree that 13 is a really young age for dating. I'm turning 16 and I'm STILL NOT ALLOWED to even communicate with any guys. There is this guy that makes me feel really special, and I'm trying to overcome that temptation right now, but you have to look at life from a different perspective and try to see that many guys your age out there, believe it or not, only wants to explore and are very inconsistent. My advice is to talk to your parents about how you feel about the matter, like I did, instead of hiding anything from them. Believe it or not, all parents listen and understand when you speak to them politely and maturely. So just live happily during those years, and avoid getting hurt mentally because you do not want to experience a breakup.. =]

Answer 3

Yes they are being overprotected, unless things canged since I was 13. Normally, at 13 all guys and girls do is hang out, hold hands and kiss on occasion. Nothing serious. Too be honest, when ur 16, that when they should be worried. And the thng about s*x, well, at ur age I would hope that is not a problem, I dont hear too many girls getting knocked up at 13. And, you sound like a good kid. My advice, dont neccesary ask ur parents and dont push them, but prove to them you are responsible, and wont do anything crazy, really at 13 i cant picture anything happening. Just be responsible and dont do s*x.

My point though at 16, guys can drive, and you get way more independent. Guys get distracted when they drive, and at that age, all they DO care about is girls. So if I could talk to ur parents, I would tell them that it is way worse when ur older, so mightve well have fun now.

Bottomline, ur only 13, nothing is gona happen, unless u make it happen (u know wht i mean).

Best of luck, ur at an awkward age so try to live it with ease.

PS - Unfortunately, like ppl said, girls have it rough, guys can pretty much do whtever they want, but girls are always worried about. Every guy is gona kill me for saying this, but ironically, i think, girls tend to be more responsible.

But looking as if I was a parent, I would really worry bout my teen daughter, but wouldnt even think twice bout my son, its the sad reality.

Again best of luck. =)

Answer 4

OK tell Ur parents if Ur grand parents use to limit them like they are limiting u and see wat happens

Answer 5

Yes, but not of you. Women like you are going to be 'over-expecting' of guys. Women need to learn not to be control freaks. Wait till 15 at least.

Answer 6

Your parents do have a point because alot of guys in high school just want to gte in your pants,

But make a compromise with them like i did.

Let them meet the guy, and get a promise ring & Sign a contract.

Talk it out with your parents, that's the best thing that you can do.

Answer 7

My personal opinion on this matter is that 13 is still very, very young.  You will have plenty of opportunities to date later.  I agree with you that maybe not even allowing guys to call your house may be a little over protective, but I see where your parents are going with this.

Simply because all your other friends are allowed to date or have male friends at your age doesn't mean that it is right for your parents to allow you to do the same.  Chances are when you are of university age and older, you will realize that 13 is still too young to date or to have any serious relationships with guys.  Your parents are over protective for a reason.  It may not necessarily mean that they don't trust your judgment on issues of s*x, but they don't know the intentions of the guys around you.

In order to keep you from doing something you may regret in the future, they attempt to shield you from even the possibility of starting a relationship right now.

I know it is difficult to listen to this right now, as you feel that you are no longer a child and should not be treated as one.  You have the right to feel that way, but keep in mind that your parents only have your well-being in mind.  Give it a few years (they will pass much quicker than you think) and you will be more ready for a relationship.

I'm sure that once you hit 16 your parents will want to keep pushing the day that you are able to date farther and farther back because to them you will always be their little girl, but you will get your chance to date soon enough.

Answer 8

compared to me, your parents aren't strict.

i wasn't allowed to have my first bf till now.

and i'm 17.

though my parents never found out about my other relationships but this guy i am with right now is the only guy they are aware of.

Answer 9

i totally know how you feel! My parents were soooo like that too! don't worry about it. Your parents probably think that having someone else to think about in your life isn't what you need right now. It means having to put your trust in some 13 or 14 year old boy. Now why would you wanna do that? ok stupid question. But i'm sure they're thinking if that guy disappoints you, it could have a bad affect on you. Not a terrible catastrophic effect, but just emotinally and mentally. They know you'll probably get over it, but they don't wanna see you go through that. oh and deep down they probably know the guy's not gonna rape you. lol.

I say just go with it. Flirt all you want! but hold out on the dating thing.

Answer 10

they r not over protective .Every parent is like that.

U should not worry and talk to them patiently .They will understand u.

good luck!!!!!!!!!

Answer 11

True your parents sound over protective but rightfully so. You only have one chance at life and they just want to see you succeed.

Trust your parents judgment that in 3 years, you'll have PLENTY of opportunities to have boyfriends. Talking to boys which ultimately leads to dating is an unnecessary distraction to your school studies.

I had my first boyfriend at 19 yrs old and it was overwhelming then.

Enjoy your teen years because once its over........its over.

Answer 12

I think that is a little too strict. you need to have some experience in dating or at least talking on the phone to guys. Not too many guys at the age of 13 are looking to have s*x with you right away. I think it's better to have your parents let you date someone now,and meet them and make sure that he's a nice guy, instead of you going out and sneaking around and hanging out with people you shouldn't be. I learned this the hard way. I was raped at the age of 13 by someone who was about to turn 20. so I think that as long as your parents meet the guy you want to date and approve, and you are supervised when you're together there isn't anything wrong with that, it's a lot better than sneaking around and getting raped at a young age. hope that helped :)

Answer 13

no

Answer 14

Honestly, I don't think so at all if I was your mom I wouldn't let you either sorry, I'm not being mean. I know its hard enough to fit in and try to be like everyone else. But you shouldn't be dating at that age. I wasn't even allowed to date at sixteen. I was only allowed to have a boy come over to my house and see me. Ofcourse around 15 and 16 I think is the right age to date. At that age when and if you are mature enough to think about the consequences of s*x.

You may be mature for your age now, but you are still so young. At that age I wasn't even thinking about dating. I had a boyfriend at school but that was it.