Are my parents right? Two days ago, I asked my mom to check a vocal recording I made for pitch

Question

Two days ago, I asked my mom to check a vocal recording I made for pitch issues. She said it sounded good and said "You know you have to show Carmon this." (Carmon is my stepfather). I said "Okay..." but I didn't really want to show it to him. 2 days later, I'm even more sure that I don't want him to listen to it even though I would have just let him yesterday or 2 days ago. today he came to me and said "Can I listen to it now" and I said "Could we do it later" and he said "Ok, when?" and I said "Uhm, I'm not sure" and then he started yelling at me for saying that I wasn't sure. He was yelling about how it was disrespectful and inconsiderate to say that I didn't know when. He yelled so long that my mother eventually came and started yelling too. I said "I don't understand what you guys are saying" and so now I'm grounded for the rest of the weekend. I don't care about being grounded, but every time I say "I don't understand", they either say "Well go sit until you figure it out" or they say the same thing over again using different words. How is this proactive. I never want to be like them, but since I have to live with it for now, can some one give me a hint as to what they're trying to tell me?

Answer 1

It sounds as if you're a teenager with authority issues at home.  For the life of me I don't understand why we must be this way, as teenagers.  It only makes our life miserable.  It makes our parents lives miserable.  We always think we're right to rebel against everything they say and do  It's like a dog biting the hand that feeds them.

Your mother isn't wrong for asking you to let your step-father listen.  He's not wrong to want to listen.  You would be angry if he showed no interest in you.  As kids we make it hard on ourselves in our own homes.  

The catch is:  We only live at home, until we are able to make our own living.  Mean time, they're to be honored and thanked for feeding, clothing us and keeping a roof over our heads....not counting all the extras they do for us.  I'm sure step-dad enhances the lifestyle in your home.  Think about some of this.

Perhaps come to terms with the fact you're learning to become a productive adult.  Not a kid the rest of your life.  Being there with parents who care is an honor not prison.

Hope this helps with blessing for a new attitude<><:)

Answer 2

They're telling you you need to respect your stepfather. Once you do that, they will come around and start treating you with the respect you've earned.

ETA: the polite answer would have been, "What time is good for you? The reason I don't want to do it now is X reason so anytime after X would be fine, thanks."

Answer 3

You need to come to terms with what it is about Camron that you do not like or trust.  Are they married?  If so, give him the same respect you are expected to give an adult.  If they are not-same applies.  I suggest you talk to your mother privately and in confidence that she won't go back to him on how you feel about Camron and she should be understanding of your adjustment to him.  Her biggest desire if for you two to get along, her biggest fear is that the two men she adores will hate each other.  If you can find it in your heart to be the "bigger" man, than she will see clearer if the problem is with Camron or with you.  Don't take that to mean "set him up to be a total ******"  He probably is a good guy and he wants you to accept him into your life as well.  If he's good in your mom's eyes, try to find how he can also be seen the same in yours.  I know he has to be trying or else he wouldn't of yelled at you out of pure frustration.  He feels bad about it, but he is an adult and we demand respect-sorry.  Put the shoe on the other foot, what if you made every effort and he treated you or felt about you like you do to him.  One day you will move out and you will either look back with regret or fond memories of the short time he was in your life exclusively.  Don't burn your bridges!

Good luck.

Answer 4

I dont think they are right. It sounds like they dont really listen to you very much. Try talking to your mom when everything is cool- explain how this happens all the time and let her know how it makes you feel .  They probably dont realise.