Are my parents right to treat me like a little kid?

Question

I am so mad right now I think steam is coming out of my ears. First of all, I am 20 years old, I go to community college and live at home. (I am moving to go to a university in 4 months). I'm a very good student and I go to school full-time, as well as work at my parent's store in all my free time. Now tonight my cousin that lives literally half a mile away is having a small party at his house and I wanted to go with my little sister (she's almost 14) I wasn't planning on drinking much because I have to go OPEN THE STORE at 5 AM!!! But then my parents flip out because I have plans to go to a friend's wedding tomorrow as well, talking some dumb c**p that I can only go out once a week. And I know they are mad because a couple of nights ago I hung out with old high school friends until about 3 am, but my dad was saying that if I go out tonight to never bother coming home!!! Do you think they are right in prohibiting me? Or are they overreacting? By the way I don't do drugs and I'm not a s***k, I just drink once in a while. Thank u for reading this and please give me some insight?

Answer 1

I don't think that they are right. My teenage kids have more freedom than you do. I can't believe that he resorted to threatening to throw you out for not doing as you are told. You are an adult, living at home or not they should treat you like more of one.  

Answer 2

Doesn't matter if it's right or wrong... their house, their rules.  Perhaps they are being a little unreasonable, but just try to tough it out for the next 4 months, and things will smooth over once you have your own space.

Answer 3

sounds like they are over reacting.  you may need to try negotiating some evening out time, but don't despair if it doesn't work for you--they may realize that you won't be around much longer and they are trying to hold tight to you.  

Worst case senario, you will be at uni in 4 months and have the freedom you crave.  Most likely you'll only be home one more summer before you graduate.  Very shortly you will be out on your own and won't have to put up with the control.

if however I'm wrong and you move back home after you graduate then your negotiation will come in by you paying rent  (even a token amount) to them.  If you are paying rent then they won't be able to put so many restrictions on you--you'll have the right to negotiate more privliges.

Answer 4

i think your parents need to lighten up. your young and seem very responsible, you should go out and treat yourself. its bad enough you have a full time course at college PLUS work, but oh you can't even go out and relax? but at the same time, its their house, so its their rules. i suggest you get a job elsewhere and provide for yourself so you can live in a dorm.

Answer 5

,I am a mother of two and I do think your parents are overreacting. I can see them saying to be home at a certain time but to say you are not to come back home is a little far put. I hope you luck, maybe it is time to cut the umbilicall cord.