Are older women into younger guys? (ladies only please)?

Question

I'm 20 an for some odd reason I really don't find women my age attractive. Like i do, but i don't like dating them because there usually immature and all they want to do is drink and party. I find women around 28-42ish VERY attractive and I'm usually pretty good with women (like talking to them) but i really don't have the balls to talk to a woman that i find attractive if she's like 35 because i just figure no 35 year old is interested in a 20 year old. Ladies, would you date a guy my age? If not, Why? Thanks!!

Answer 1

I'm older than you, but very young looking!  If I'm attracted to a guy, I can't help the way I feel regardless of his age.  If the guy is younger than me, and he is usually in his 20s I have no problem with continuing my admiration for him.  However, I will not date a guy who is immature and unemployed.  He has got to be career oriented or on track to gainful employment.  I have no problem with helping him get employed if he wants my help, but a guy who is lazy and keeps score with the ladies is a huge turn off.  I applaud you for noticing the difference between older ladies and your younger counterpart.  In many ways what you're saying is true.  When I was in my 20s, I didn't know what I wanted to do with my life, but I wasn't a party girl and didn't enjoy drinking alcohol at all.  Now that I'm older, I am more focused, confident, wiser, wittier, and more appreciative of the lessons that I have learned from my "growing pains" years.

I am younger than 35, but I am not opposed to dating men 35 or older if I find them attractive and meeting all of my minimum dating criteria.  The most important thing for a young, mature guy like you to focus on is a career or a good paying job or jobs.  It shows a woman (young or older but young looking types) that you are responsible and can afford to go on a date with her.  The reality is that women don't want to date boys who don't have a job!  It's okay if you're in college, but not okay if you have no clue on what you want to do after graduation.  You should focus on graduating from college first and on getting yourself a job before you ask an older woman out.  

I guarantee you that you will be more confident and happy if you have a job and can fall back on that regardless of whether or not she says "yes" to going out on a date with you.  I know it sounds like you'll have to wait a bit longer to ask her out, but it will be worth it.  She will appreciate you more if you can prove to her that you are responsible and mature enough as other older men her age.

Remember, it's all about the competition!!  You will have a greater chance to win her heart than an older guy without a job and still lives at home.  Yes, there are 30 years old who are unemployed due to our bad economy and the scarcity of jobs.  This could work in your favor if you can get a secure and good paying job out of college because there will be a lot of competition out there for them.  

Answer 2

My boyfriend is 4 years younger than me.(21 & 25) I wouldn't have dated him, but he was persistent and we get along great! Age rarely comes up. I think that 20 and 35 might be a little harder but stranger things have happened. If you find someone attractive you should act as if you would normally though, regardless of their age. If she wouldn't date a 20 year old, I'm sure she'll let you know and you can move on.

Answer 3

Older women, hmm,

45-50+ yr olds like young men

Although

Women in there mid 20's - late 30's LOVE both

Its pretty confusing lolz

Answer 4

Sounds like you are looking for a mother figure or someone to carry you financially to me.

Im sure you can find plenty of older gals to bang.

Answer 5

I'm 32, and I JUST got out of a relationship someone who was 10 years my junior.  He and I never really saw a problem with others who might have had a problem with it, but when it came down to it, we didn't have that much in common.  The attraction was REALLY there with both of us and we both really met in the middle when it came to our ages (it was like we were both 25).  We had a lot in common and it worked out well at the start, BUT I soon began to notice, that he didn't have life experience as I had.  I had already gone through much of what he still needed to.  Sexually, I was able to prune him into whatever I wanted/needed because he was so eager and willing.  I MISS THAT SO MUCH.  Still, it's not worth waiting all that time because I'm pretty much ready to settle down.  Unless you are ready to get serious or unless she is just wanting to "play"...you'd be better off at dating all ages.  You need to have fun and experience life.  GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 6

Think again!  I'm 33 and my boyfriend is 24.  When we first dated I expected it to be purely physical and I was okay with that but somehow we grew together.  It'll be our one year anniversary in about two weeks.  Now 35 and 20 may be another story, but I'm sure you'll find plenty of fun out there as long as you're not looking for something long term yet.

Answer 7

I would definitely date a guy your age IF he was mature and of course had all of the other qualities I look for in a guy. I don't like to judge people based on age alone

Answer 8

well im 25 and im datin a 23 yr old. not that much of an age difference i kno, but he, like you, is mature and knows how to treat a woman :)

Answer 9

yea i would. just depends on the guy. but u seem like a guy that understands how ppl are so immature.  

Answer 10

Straight from the cougar's mouth lol.  The last two boyfriends I've had have been 10yrs younger and 6 years younger.  Go for it! Women usually don't have an issue with age, only maturity.  And some advice really quick, when stepping to an older woman make sure you state your dating intentions.  I liked to know if it was a fling or a romance, now I'm in the best relationship of my life with a 25 yr old (I'm 31 btw). Good luck sweetie!