Are people really that shallow????

Question

this is a bout men in general, do they really care if a women is overweight or not? is it always about looks to them? I personally wouldnt go near a bloke who just went on face value so to speak, but my best mate is having a really hard time she doesnt seem to grasp that if they act like that theyre not worth it, she is pretty but a little overweight.... she worries too much but i have run out of advice to give her.men have been rude to her before but its really getting her down,

Answer 1

Okay, being a overweight girl, I can tell you people that it ain't easy. Yea, guys don't look at you, ant many of them are very rude or some of them are even shallow enough to think that overweight girls are an easy shag. But the thing that works the best for me is to still be hot after a nasty comment and give them a comeback that makes them think a bit (that is if they have brains bigger than their balls). What I think of myself, makes who I am! I'm overweight and more s**y than most skinny girls, at least I'm not S****y!!! If a man does not have respect for me, then no matter whether I'm skinny or not, He's not worth it!!!

Answer 2

well, if a girl tarts herself up to make men like her, would she not also be shallow?

Answer 3

good for you bergie



little boys with one brain (and it aint da one in there head) and a small d**k think fat girls are easy please skinny girls can be easy to. but so hwta if GIRLS are easy fat or thin guys get away with being tarts then so should we no MATTER what we look like  

Answer 4

Some are but lets be practical. There are two ways to attract a mate, one is to have the "look" that appeals the other is to be such a great person that an individual couldn't fail to find one attractive regardless of looks. Problem is they are mutually exclusive, most males will only attempt to pull the female he finds attractive, this without knowing her personality, it may turn out she's not for him in the personality dept. so he moves on but it was her looks that drew him in the first place. The fact that the one whose looks don't appeal may be the ideal woman should he take the time to get to know her, well that opportunity is missed because of that fact. Sure, some men find heavier girls attractive but the majority do not so therefore do not waste any time on actually getting to know them.

It seems that it is your friends weight that is getting her down more than her lack of a man, maybe you should ask her if she would like some support from you in losing some weight. Whilst you believe you are doing the right thing in blaming men for simply being shallow (some are) it may not be what she wants to hear.

Hope this helps, sorry I'm not male lol.  

Answer 5

This isn't just about shallow - a seriously overweight woman is a poor choice for breeding, as the kids are likely to be overweight as well.

And "a little bit overweight": is all too often women-speak for "looks like a cow".

Answer 6

yes we are as shallow as women blame the media but in the long run no personality means more for most not all but most.

so ultimatly it comes down to telling her ,change to siut and stop whining or get a GAF attitude to the *** wipes that want to put you down and enjoy being who she is  

Answer 7

If she's not comfortable with her weight then the best thing she can do is lose it.  It is totally irrelevant what men think really as your friend is clearly not comfortable.  Sounds as though she has quite low self esteem and it is probably needyness rather than her weight that actually puts men off.

Answer 8

I'm going through a difficult phase at the moment as a woman in her early thirties. I have put weight on slightly and feel very aware of it. I used to be size 10/12 but have ballooned up to size 14 and it doesn't really suit me. I can't seem to shift this weight and I have been ill which doesn't help. It does make you paranoid when the media points out cellulite and other weight issues with female celebs. Males appear to get away with it. I think that you should be happy with you and some people suit being their size (whichever it is) but I don't. It's very difficult to go through this at the moment.

Answer 9

Do men judge women by their looks? Yes.

Is this unfair? Possibly.

Have they always done this? Yes.

Is it likely to change any time soon? No.

I don't say it's right. I just point out that this is the way the world works and your friend had better get used to it and not take it personally. In the end it's her character and inner being that matters, not her looks, but we men are extremely shallow, as you've probably worked out.

Answer 10

Usually a woman who's only a little overweight manages to get around...seriously overweight just grosses people out though. I'm a guy, how many girls would date me if I had a pot belly?