Are people that are victims of abuse smarter than people that were never abused before?

Question

Do you think that people that are abuse victim smarter in every aspect of life, than those that are living an abuse free life? And why do you think like that?

Answer 1

Any criminal action is exception and you can not take the exception as a base for any result

Answer 2

Being abused does not give you intelligence.

It gives you experience to know to be wary of the real world and less trusting of others. But, in a general sense, I don't think it would necessarily make you "smarter".

Answer 3

I believe they aren`t more INTELLIGENT, but definately more sensitive and aware EMOTIONALLY. They are more in tune with people, as they have learned to watch the actions and emotions of others.

It`s unfortunate to say this way, but an abused person actually becomes a better person from any suffering and/or pain they have endured, they`ve truly "been there, done that" and are very much more empathetic than someone who doesn`t have a clue about real suffering.  

Answer 4

my unprofessional opinion is no. Through personal friends i have noticed that those who are victim to bad abuse suffer from mental problems that do not allow them to function properly in everyday life.

The problems affected their attendance at school on a regular basis, and they did not get the education that many other have the advantage of receiving

Answer 5

No. They just learned things the harder way LOL

Answer 6

I don't think smarter is the correct word to use in this setting of a question. I mean there are several types of abuse. Physical, mental,emotional,mental,sexual and ritualistic. So now if you were to ask do people learn more about life sense they have been abused I would have to say yes... because they have lived both sides of the coin so to speak and they learn from those bad experiences and learn to make better choices in the future. Now as a survivor of abuse I can honestly say I learned a lot about the way life is suppose to be as to the way it used to be. and I use the bad things in my life to try to help others in any way I can. Life is always an uncertain thing and a lot of people fear what they don't know about. But a abused person has a long drawn out time in their life where they have to figure out first how to get themselves out of it. then they are not sure about their decisions to come and then they have to relive those memories and grieve as to the reason why? So I would say the answer isn't yes but they become more wiser then those that have not been abused because they were forced to. I wish the best to you my friend and hope my answer helped you understand a little bit! Gentle Hugs   YES ONEAWSOME you pretty much hit the nail on the head with your answer i agree 100%

Answer 7

what? of course not. everyone has experiences from which they learn; they don't have to grow through a specific abuse to be aware of certain lessons. (appreciation, however, might come easier to those who have been deprived).  

Answer 8

  those have been abused

  know what to avoid

Answer 9

In regards to things in general---no! But in regards to knowing more about abuse and the "alert" signals-- definitely, Yes!

Those that have been abused are more leery about certain things.

If you are in doubt of an abusive person or situation, talk to a minister or a counselor.

Answer 10

in a way maybe.

Although, your question is comparable to asking if people who have dived are smarter than those who have not dived.

Answer 11

Because they question everything that happens in life, so in a sense of way, yes, abit smarter.

Answer 12

I don't think they are necessarily smarter but they may be more "street smart". They have been through a real life experience that others have not. They may be smarter in terms of how to protect themselves or now know the signs of abuse, etc.

Answer 13

No, for some walk out of an abusive relationship, only to walk right back into another abusive relationship

Answer 14

they become more suspicious of people.

Answer 15

In a way yes.We aren't nieve about things.We aren't in denial.We know what happens.And some of us choose to do some thing about it.Some of us are tougher,wiser,and know how to watch our own backs,who to pick as friends etc.And some of us are quick to lend a hand or advise when we know there is abuse going on.

Answer 16

Not necessarily. I was physically, emotionally and sexually abused as a child and now I'm in my early twenties and the only thing I've gained from my experiences are several mental health problems such as severe depression and PTSD. For myself, I wouldn't say that I'm smarter and from other abuse survivors that I've met, they're along the same lines as me. We're so preoccupied with trying to make ourselves better that we miss out on life, pretty much. Personally, I get so down in my depression and thinking about my past that it's hard for me to function in the present. It's sad, and I want to change but I don't know how yet. I think if you gain anything from being abused it is a tendency to want to protect yourself the best way you know how. For myself, since a man was the abuser, I know that I could easily fall for someone who would abuse me again, but because I'm aware of that, I tend to just stay away from men in general. I don't let them get too close. And that's not healthy either. I need to learn how to protect myself but still be able to live a normal life.

Answer 17

yes they are smarter because people who haven't been abused wouldn'tt know what to do when there being abused so you know now

Answer 18

I'm not sure smarter is the right word. They will obviously be less naive and alot more aware of the world around them. However i am jealous of people whom are naive and believe the world is a nice place. Ignorance is bliss :)