Are people who don't like to fight afraid to get hurt, or afraid to hurt others.?

Question

What do you think? I myself am one who does not want to hurt others.

Answer 1

I'm not too afraid of getting hurt, it's just that I really don't like hurting others and in the end I just end up feeling really guilty if I do, so I guess everyone gets hurt in some way or another.

Answer 2

wow never thought about that. but for me i automatically thought "because i'm afraid to get hurt." although i would hope that it would be a fear of hurting others. very thought provoking. thanks.

Answer 3

three reasons one i don't like hurting people, getting hurt, or getting in trouble.

Answer 4

Niether for me I'm just tired of going to jail :)

Answer 5

Everybody is afraid to get hurt. The bully who makes you and your friend bleed wouldn't be doing much because he'd know you guy could hurt him. The people who LIKE to fight aren't afraid to hurt others because they want to put themselves in a position of safety and are in essence, protecting themselves from getting hurt through fear. People who don't like to fight are afraid to hurt others because their hearts are strong. They look out for others. They wouldn't like getting hurt either but they will only hurt others if they are in dire need of self-defense (life or death situarion) or to stick up for others who are/about to get hurt by villanous types. The series of Batman is filled with people who are emotionally/physically/mentally harmed in earlier life. They all responded to this in violent ways. They wanted to pay back the world for what it did to them...except Bruce Wayne, who lost his parents and in mind thought it was his fault. Instead of revenge at the world, he chose to make sure the world would not feel the pain he suffered. Batman does fight, but so does his adversaries. The difference is Batman recovered and is heading not for vengeance or death, but for justice and reckoning. Of course there are wussies in the world who won't fight and won't get hurt. Problem is, there's always someone who will. Some who don't want to fight will hurt someone so many others won't hurt. Those people, are the everyday hero...

Answer 6

Neither, I just can find better ways of spending my time

Answer 7

Well yes many people have their reasons for not liking to get into fights, but most of the time for myself is end result. After u fight where does it lead from there, sure you earn respect and so forth but you must think of the problem you got yourself in (if you went along with it). The smartest thing to do is walk away 4rm the situation or talk it out. Cause either your going to end up killing this certain someone, getting beat up (or in the worse case killed), jail, and more. In the end i think "most" ppl who don't like to fight  are afraid to get hurt. Theres only a handful of ppl who really know how to fight compared to those who don't.

Answer 8

a little bit of both haha

Answer 9

Well I don't because I don't want to hurt others but I suppose everyone has different reasons.  I'm not sure what the reason is for most though.  I feel more strongly that it's because they don't want to hurt themself though.

Answer 10

Depends on the person...I personally don't want to hurt others. I'm not afraid of being hurt....considering, that probably wouldn't happen anyways, since I can handle my own. lol

Answer 11

I think many people who don't like to fight aren't afraid of anything. It's just that fighting doesn't really accomplish much.

There are much better ways to deal with jerks than beat them up. You can make them look stupid, for example. And then, there's always revenge.

Answer 12

Motivations no doubt depend on the situation. Some people are afraid of getting hurt, some of hurting others, some of getting in trouble (with the law, community members, etc.), some just feel its against their philosophies or religion, period.

Me personally, most of the time it just doesn't seem strategic!

(1) Folks very rarely change their behavior due to violence or threats of violence. Often in makes folks more determined to do whatever f***'d up think they're doing.

(2) Usually if you kick someone's a** whatever horrible they thing they did becomes minor compared to the fact that you just kicked their a**! It usually takes the focus away from where it should be -- their f***'d up behavior -- and refocuses it on, well, your f***'d up behavior! I'd rather not be the bigger a**hole :-)

Answer 13

Pry that and they got much better things to do. And this is coming from someone who constantly gets picked on by girls then when I get to my breaking point then they wish they would of left me alone.

Answer 14

I don't like to fight, but I'm trained to well enough that I'm not afraid of getting hurt, nor am I particularly concerned about hurting someone that wants to hurt me, and if someone pushes me past that edge, they earned whatever I give them.

I just think it's a waste of time, and looks undignified.

Answer 15

When I was growing up as a kid, I'd fight at the drop of a hat. I knew I would get hurt and I would hurt the other but nothing that wouldn't heal. When I became a teenager, I stopped. Because I knew I could Kill someone or someone could kill me. It's the difference in strength and weight. I saw more than one teenager go to the hospital.

Not only that, but I had to struggle to keep my temper under control. If I ever got mad, someone was going to die! I would go absolutely berserk. I would tear a place apart and try to kill whoever I could lay hands on. Besides I was too well versed in martial arts to let that happen very often.

Answer 16

My Profession, saw me fighting many times

I have hurt to and have been hurt toTraction

Not forgetting those missing hours and the bandages.

But that was Duty and now I am out of Duty I don't want hurt no more.

I HAVE SEEN, COMMITTED AND ENDURED TO MUCH.

Answer 17

i dont really care. ive gotten in fights and have gotten bones broken, been knocked unconsious, and almost killed.

but ive broken some bones, knocked some people out (never tried to kill)

its all in the fight. i did most with my friends andwe go all to hurt one another i love to fight its like s*x or somthing. its great

Answer 18

Sometimes it is  both and sometimes it is one of the two. But most people won't hurt others or seek revenge because it is against the law and they themselves will be in trouble.

Answer 19

Well, I really don't like to fight.

First of all, if there is a problem, there is always a solution. So it's always best to talk it out. I doubt that fighting could make it any better.

Also, violence can be really damaging. Some one has to end up hurt.

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Answer 20

I do not enjoy hurting others ( most of the time ), and I never enjoy getting hurt myself.  It takes alot for me to want to hit someone, but it has happened on occasion and I do not regret the incidents.  My deceased brother used to get in fights quite a bit ( fat in early years ), and although he used to dominate people (huge kid ) I always saw him crying during the fight, and I thought that was odd, but in reality he was exceptionally sensitive to violence and although he found it necessary to use all his force to defend himself, it made him sad doing so.  There is no pleasure in injuring others, or being injured yourself.

Answer 21

one or another would be both..There is another option existing...Grant them what they want, fight "because", not fight "that's why", and you be out of a club enjoying your personal Peace...which you may share if you are not affraid to be crucified  by remaining club members...

Answer 22

Sweet Yesus never like to fight anyone else, but he's been hurted by his enemies. and he never bother to make a strike back to defend his belief ( not to fight anyone else for your own sake of pride but faith. and don't be afraid of get hurt by another one/s for your faith ). that's what i think.

Answer 23

People who are afraid to get hurt will claim that they are afraid to hurt others. Those who are afraid to hurt others will say they are afraid to get hurt.

Answer 24

Well, I think fighting itself is not good as it involve hurting yourself as well as the other person... but it's also not true that you let others to hurt you and do anything which leave you hurt or in grief...

So, I think those who don't like to fight may be governed by the factors you discussed but it is their concious perception only but deep inside they don't love themselves and others. They neither give respect to their decisions and feelings nor to others... they consider-fighting- from view point of others like you...

but in itself the person who value himself and others know fighting is never a way to get the things done... what people do out of pleasure can't be made to do under compulsion...

so some people who don't like fighting can be those who value integrity, love and compassion above all and are emphatical in nature...