Are "Thank You" cards really necessary after wedding?

Question

Are "Thank You" cards really necessary after wedding?

Answer 1

Well, obviously it's not necessary in the sense that God will strike you down if you don't send thank-you notes, but it is proper etiquette to always send a thank-you note to someone who gives you a gift.

They're not even hard to do. Just buy a cheap pack of thank-you cards, and write in them: "Dear [so-and-so], thank-you so much for your gift of a [gift]. It will get put to good use. Love, [groom and bride]." If you want to get fancy, include a wedding picture in the card. Very easy.

If you're worried about losing track of who has given you what, get the maid of honour (or some other kind volunteer) to make a list of who gave what when she collects the gifts for you, or when you're opening them.

Answer 2

I would say yes

Answer 3

If you don't send them

everyone will talk BAD about

you!!  DO IT~better late than never!

Answer 4

if you do nothing else sent thank you cards.  

Answer 5

YES! Of course!! These people took the time to attend your wedding and more than likely select and purchase a gift. The least that they should receive from you is a nicely written thank you.  

Answer 6

YES!!!  You must do this.  I went to a wedding once and the bride only got around to sending out half the thank you cards. I did not receive one. What a slap in the face!  

Not only did I buy them things they asked for on their registry, but I also was the last guest to leave the reception because I was helping clean up.  

I think it is extremey rude not to send out thank you cards.  

Answer 7

Of course you should thank your guests, etc... for their kind gifts and/or serves, although I have seen at some weddings that I've attended...a special thank you scroll at each place setting, which saved time and stamps, yet a bit impersonal.

Answer 8

um most of us were taught from a young age to say things like please, excuse me, thank you, etc.  

someone went out of their way and showed you kindness and attended your wedding and spent money on a gift for you... unless you don't appreciate any of that and are selfish and greedy than why wouldn't you thank the person?

Answer 9

for those who got you something

Answer 10

Nope. Neither is attending the wedding in the first place.

hmmm... I see a correlation here.  

Answer 11

Only if you appreciate friends and don't want your name scratched off from humanity.  It's the right thing to do.  Put a little effort into it.  It's worth tons.

Answer 12

Are you WANTING to TREMENDOUSLY offend people that came to your wedding and spent their time and money to look/dress nice, possibly pay for travel/lodging, and a gift as well?? Do you want to look like an insensitive money/gift grubbing tool?? Do you want to prove to your family and friends that you are an ungrateful *sshole??

Then no, thank you cards aren't necessary... *rolls eyes*

Answer 13

Not only should you send thank-you cards to those who gave you gifts, but to those who attended the wedding ceremony and/or reception.  You should also send thank-yous to anyone who was involved with the preparation of the wedding (parents of both bride and groom, florist, bakery that made the cake, church or reception hall where the ceremony and reception were held, etc.).  You should keep them short but formal, preferably handwritten.  You can buy thank-you templates, but it's still best to provide a personal hand-written note in each one.

Answer 14

Yes, they are, and it's best if you can get them out fairly soon after the wedding.  I knew a girl who didn't write any thank you cards for her wedding and it didn't go over well.  Of course she was only 19 so she was too young to get married anyway.  

But getting back to your question - it is necessary to formally thank people for the gifts they gave you.

Answer 15

Lets put it this way...My niece's wedding was in January of this year, no one has received a thank you card from her and yes people are talking and not in a good way.  Unless you plan to open the gift right there in front of the person and thank them personally then you should send a card acknowledging the fact that you received it.

Answer 16

I def. think so.  After all of the gifts and support throughout the months of planning and rehearsals.... a thank you would def. be appreciated to most people.  

Answer 17

Yes

Answer 18

Yes.. for anyone that gives you a gift, vendors, and anyone that helped to bring the day together.

You have, depending on which etiquette book you read, 3 to 6 months to send out the TY cards.

Answer 19

Of course, its only etiquette after all. You dont have to immediately sit down and write all these out but as long as its within 6 weeks or so after your wedding.

Answer 20

YES. If you've receive gifts then you need to acknowledge the receipt of those gifts. Be sure to write a personal note for each guest who sent you a gift since they took the time and their hard earned money to select a gift just for you. Now it's your turn to take the time to thank them.

Answer 21

They aren't "necessary" but you will probably be harshly judged and criticized if you don't send them.  It's just a nice way to thank people for their generous gift and support.  

Plus, you have like 2-3 months after your wedding to get them all mailed before people will start wondering where they are.  So just do a few per day and you will be done in no time!