Are skinny girls the new "outcast"? Alot of thin girls I know feel the same way?

Question

People are so hypocritical. If a big, curvy woman is unhappy with her size, people give her advice to embrace herself, love herself the way she is, and tell her that she is a "real" woman. But if a woman is unhappy with having a skinny (not anorexic) frame, people want to give her advice on how to change herself and how to gain weight. People will even get angry (I've seen it) if you love/embrace your skinniness/petiteness. Its almost like you're suppose to have love and compassion for big women but "skinny women are evil". Skinny women have just as much self-esteem issues as other women. I just think that its hypocritical that its okay for a big,curvy woman to love herself but if a skinny woman loves herself she's conceited. As a naturally skinny female, I've been teased about my size and people even think its impossible to be healthy and thin. What happened to wanting ALL WOMEN to be happy with how they are including skinny women instead of telling skinny women to eat more?

Answer 1

I have the physique of Kate Hudson - which I think is healthy (bigger waist than a model, but naturally thin).  I actually eat quite a lot of calories and love junk food.  But it's like impossible for people to believe that a person can be naturally thin.  My body isn't perfect (I have a small chest), so I wish they would just realize that just because I am thin doesn't mean that I love my body.  Also, I was born this way and I am sick of having to defend myself.

Answer 2

I am also naturally skinny, even when pregnant, I just get a belly straight out front that is barely big enough for the baby and then I drop the weight really easily.  Not sure if it is good genetics as my grandparents are all overweight/obese, as are most of my aunts, but my mom, my sisters, and I are all skinny.  I got to the point where I felt like I should apologize for being thin.  I'd get snide comments all the time.  Then I started observing people's eating and exercise habbits and I realized, I am not skinny just because, I am skinny because I eat right and exercise.  You will just have to ignore the unwanted input, but you are right, it is a double standard.

Answer 3

That's funny cause when I was in the US I've noticed too that people there are several sizes bigger on average than what I'm used to seeing, yet on the cover of every magazine especially the tabloids they are advertising some sort of diet or fitness programm.

I think that's stupid cause people seemed to be satisfied with themselves and big bulky girls had no problem attracting attention from boys unlike in Europe.

So if Americans like to be fat I don't see why the media has to push this whole Barbie image on them.

Maybe that's why people treat skinny persons a bit mean, cause they are a bit like the teacher's pet that nobody likes but the teacher(aka the Media) always sets her as an example to other.

I'm skinny and I felt this too. In Europe I am considered good looking, but in America the ideal beauty (not the tabloid Barbies) is a bit more plump.

Don't sweat it, just avoid the fittness topic that's all, I'm sure there are guys even in the XXL States of America that like slim girls like you.

Answer 4

Everyone tells me to eat more all the time.

No thank you. I'm happy with being skinny. Well at least, I'm happy with my exercise and diet plan. I enjoy being fit and active. I want to run a 31/2 hr marathon. You don't do that by having curves. I am either lucky that I have the frame that will allow me to do that, or that I have found something that I am naturally good at because of my frame.

I like women any way they are. All bodies are good. I enjoy drawing curvy bodies or muscular bodies or whatever.

Bodies are good whatever the shape and size.

Answer 5

what retards tell people they need to get fatter if there not like anorexic. thats just plain retarded. its really hard to keep a good figure and it looks really good. i have no problem with big girls and i have no problem with skinny girls, but when other people tell you to change even if u dont want to theni do think that you are dumb and that you need to be happy with yourself. kudos to you

Answer 6

The issue remains that some women are so skinny it is unhealthy and most often caused by not eating enough or other eating disorders.

If you know you are healthy and you are skinny then just be happy with yourself. Don't listen to other people and focus your attention on yourself, family, and friends.

Answer 7

yes and no!

for me it depends where u live or where u are!

but on the contrary! skinny girls do get more full of them selfs... but it is not alright to be mortaly obbese either!

and no one is an outcast! its horriible to think of someone that way!

Answer 8

I think it's because the healthy/thin and anorexic/walking skeleton line is so often crossed.  That, and super thin celebrities and models have created a world where 10 year olds are dieting and/or starving themselves.

Answer 9

i know what your saying. I am a plus size 21 year old, not obese. I love my curves, and have joined a gym to become more fit. I do wish I was smaller considering I have been a chunky one all of my life. But if your happy with how you look, men and women will love you for you.

Answer 10

Its not that society is turning it's back on skinny women, it’s the idea that many women are killing themselves to be skinny. Anytime  a woman (or  a man because they do it too) will starve herself, or vomit the food she's eaten to fit into a size 00 jeans, people look at her in disgusted because there is no need for anyone to harm themselves that way to "fit in". America is so sick of the pressure that is being put on young women and men to look a certain way. And they're embracing a lot of the young women and men who're self-conscious about their size.

For example, I was always the 'thick chick' of my group of friends. I've always had the b***s, thighs, and butt. And we would joke about it, because I was always comfortable with having curves and the enhancements that a lot of the girls wish they could have. I started to develop really early, and back then, people didn’t understand that having a big @$$ didn’t mean you where fat. I even had to fight a few girls for calling me out my name because I had a little more to offer then they did. Even when I played sports, in dance, drama and band I would always 'stick out' from the rest. I was ashamed of my body because I didn’t look like everyone else. But over time I found that there were a lot of girls who wished they had what I had (and still have). It took me took me the longest time to realize that there was no need for me to cover myself in shame.

The reason why shows like "Look good Naked" and "Tyra Banks" are now focusing on the girls who have curves is because they're trying to show women that we don't have to fit the mold that society try’s to cast us in. It's ok to be happy with who you are and what you look like, because it was lot of the 'skinny b!tches' that tried (or do) make the curvy girls feel bad about themselves. I think that a lot of people are starting to realize that there is a lot more to being healthy then just being 'skinny'. And America is starting to understand the difference between cardio vascular and muscular endurance, Tone and muscular definition vs. your body physically eating itself inside so you can fit into a size 5, and the difference between being over weight and under weight (healthy height to weight ratio).

And I have to admit it. At times when I see skinny women boast about fitting into a size 2 it makes me wanna stuff a baggle down their throat and tell them to shut the h**l up. But then again, if that's what makes her happy, so be it. I'll eat my English muffin and banana before I hit the free weights. I'm happy with me, and you should feel the same. Regardless of what anyone has to say about your size.

Edit: I want to correct Sonya Blade up there. Skinny people can suffer from a number of aliments that obsess people can. Example, hyper tension, thyroid disorders, diabetes, cancer, neuro-logical disorders. All these things can affect people who’s diet is not consistent with a healthy life style. This is why people have problems with self image. People think that if you’re skinny you’re healthy. That’s not always the case. I had an aunt who was skinny as a toothpick and died of clogged arteries. She figured that she wasn’t gaining weight so she had to be healthy. Being slim doesn’t mean you’re in shape. I’ve seen people weight a buck 05 soak and wet cant’ do a push up much less run a mile to save their lives. It’s all about how you (the individual) take care of themselves.

Answer 11

I am curvy not fat not skinny curvy! dose that make me just right?

Don't worry about it Hun stick your nose in the air and tell the world your happy healthy and gorgeous!

The only time someone can disrespect you is if you let them!

Answer 12

Probably because they're jealous. A lot of women that want that type of body and will never have it are extremely jealous. Or thats just their opinion. Lots of people tell curvy women to lose weight, just as much as they tell them to love their body. I'll admit, I am having trouble adjusting to my body. I was a dancer for 13 years and was always a size 4. When I had to stop, my body changed drastically. But, I have realized I'm never going to have that body again, and that I can be happy with the way it looks now. The important part is being healthy, and loving your body the way it is when you can do no more. It is hard,  but it is possible.

Answer 13

If you think you have it bad- try being an older woman and having people tell you you are abnormal because once you hit 50 you didn't chunk up.   I'm thin and I'm not apologizing to anyone.   I like myself as I am.

Answer 14

There is nothing wrong with being skinny, and I have honestly never met a skinny person made fun of. People jokingly call my best friend anorexic, but they really are just joking (h**l, her boyfriend calls her anorexic, and her boyfriend is skinnier then she is!). I think you are looking into what people say far to deeply. There are quite a lot of anorexic people out there nowadays, and people may just be worried for your health. Don't worry about it though. If you know you are fine, then that is enough. If people say anything about it, just tell them you are the right weight for your size, and leave it at that.

Answer 15

I could not have said it better myself.  I am simply naturally thin (not having any children yet, helps too) as well.  I look healthy, not even near anorexic, I have nice muscle tone and even still have enough fat to look like a woman, but I constantly get remarks or dirty looks from other women....99% I do not know.

Answer 16

very true