Are some people natrually mean?

Question

i'm 14 years old, and i feel like im natraully really mean and a b!+ch. i feel so mean sometimes, and i try to be nice, but it just dosent work.

some of the things i do is,

- when im w/ close friends or my mom i'll tell them comments about random people at the mall, or whatever [the comments are sometimes rude]

-when someone says something dumb or askes me a stupid question i give them a saracastic answer [that is usually rude]

- i get annoyed very very easily.

all of my friends think im hilarious..like the things i say to people or about people, but i sometimes feel bad, but i honestly think im natrually mean. i try to be nice & i want to be a nice person, that pretty much everyone likes & wants to be around, but i dont know how!!

how can i be a nice person? am i just natraully mean?

one thing i have a problem doing is thinking before i talk, sometimes my mouth opens & words come out & i didnt even know what was gonna come out until i say it!!

help???

Answer 1

You are a nice person who protects herself by using sarcasm. The irritability may be hereditary, but you can fix it later by taking anti-depressants. Anyway, I was a lot like you and felt I could not be nice. With more maturity, I was able to give up some defensive behaviors, like sarcasm. I was now able to protect myself in other ways, such as avoiding people, ignoring them, detaching from stupidity, accepting that many people are a mess, not caring that much, etc. You already know two things that can be improved immediately: (1) force yourself to think before you talk; and (2) when you're about to say something sarcastic, ask yourself whether it's a good idea. Because sarcasm is ultimately going to get you into dramas that you don't need.

Answer 2

you need to mature and control what you say.

im the same age as you and girls have hormones and a lot of those hormones can cause them to get mad and be mean.

no, i dont think ppl can be naturally mean. i think theres something making them angry and it causes them to be mean.

you need to be a little more tolerable with people.

and the way you treat others is how you will be treated. so dont be surprised if you get treated rudely.

Answer 3

Yeah you need help, try a psychiatrist.