Are the first two years the hardest?

Question

I heard that somewhere and it's been verified by other married couples... Bitter at the start sweeter at the end.. Agree/Disagree.. thoughts?

Answer 1

nah it sucks the whole way through but that's what makes it last for ever

Answer 2

I've been married 4 years and I think marriage (and relationships in general) are constant learning processes.  It's amazing how when you move in you learn a bunch about eachother, and when you get married you learn even more.  Once when my husband was my boyfriend he dumped strawberries in the sink but never turned the disposal on.. a couple of days later i was doing dishes and there was a spoon in the disposal hole.  So I had to put my hand in rotten strawberries to get the spoon out.  Gross!  That was the first gross thing he did to me.. and the learning hasn't stopped! ha!  Anyways, you will always have silly little arguments but you get more comfortable with eachother as time goes on and are able to be more open.  Mine still can make me nuts sometimes but i'm not afraid to tell him.  That makes our relationship alot better than when we first got together.  Not to mention the longer you have been together, the more memories you have. Just don't rush into things like a house or credit cards- bad news!  Take care of your education, then work on the house and babies.

Answer 3

I am tempted to think that it's the last 40 years that are the hardest!

Answer 4

the first two years ARE the hardest. So far.

and so are the second two and the third two and the next two.

Answer 5

lots of adjustments, expectations, disappointments the first 5 years.

unfortunately,  children in the first 3 years really complicates things.

Answer 6

Every year is the hardest!! LOL  

My own personal experience?  Years 1-4 a little rocky.  Year 5....h**l!!!!!  Year 6....still trying to recover from h**l!

But, you know....everyone is different.  LOL

Answer 7

well i don´t know about that cause i think the first years should be easier. usually you don´t have kids yet. no money worries and you enjoy your love. so it sounds strange to me to see what you are saying. it would be nice if it were true but frankly? i don´t think so

Answer 8

No, I would have to disagree.  your life goes up and down just like it would if you were single.

Answer 9

YES!! VERY HARD!!!

Answer 10

All marriages have difficult times as well as great times.  However from my experience in my own marriage i wouldn't say the first few years were hard at all.  Maybe they were financially but not emotionally. We were best friends before we were married and had discussed our ideas on marriage, and are still best friends.

Answer 11

Marriage is what you make it so it really depends how much effort you put into the relationship itself.  My first marriage was sweet for the first 10 years and the fact that both of us worked long hours is the reason our marriage ended we just drifted apart, now we are more like brother and sister and he is re-married and I am getting married next year.

My new relationship is full of challenges but we are a much closer than my ex and I were so go figure!

Answer 12

Yes...for me it was. However there are still those temper tantrums of his. Not enough Xanax in the world I guess...

Answer 13

yeah cuz u grow stronger a better connection with u and ur partner

Answer 14

Yea for the first few years it's quite rocky and bitter.  Both sides fighting for what they want out of the relationship.. Takes a few years to settle into a good compromise that works for both parties in the relationship.

Answer 15

I've heard that it is the first five years that are the hardest.  That may be true, but you can waste alot of good years of your life waitng for something to get better when you could be in a relationship that's good from the start.

Answer 16

I disagree ... the first 2 years should be the honeymoon.

   h**l , I've done it 3 times ... lmao

Answer 17

yea they r

Answer 18

It all depends on the individual. What is rocky for me may not be for you and vise versa.... We get mad yell at one another and 5 mins later are in love all over again (this is after 9 years) so i think its the individuals (and how the individual deals with conflict) and not nescarily the years involved...

Answer 19

i'm to young to know

Answer 20

Generally the first year is the hardest.

It is an adjustment year. You both have been brought up thinking what you do at home, is the RIGHT way. Then you get together and butt heads for a little while and then spend time sorting out the better way FOR THE TWO OF YOU to do things.

If you haven't rushed in to your relationship, and have chosen well, you will work it out so you both are happy. It really isn't that hard - it just takes a bit of focus.

Answer 21

sure

Answer 22

I totally agree. Bitter in the beginning (means learning to adjust to differences n weaknesses). Sometimes, it can break a marriage apart n let 3rd party to enter. So, very very fragile beginning would means a solid, stable ending. Its how the couple handle the situation thats the utmost importance. Maturity n age also play the part in adapting to each other. .  

Answer 23

it was hard for me cause i wanted s*x every night but my wife kept saying no

Answer 24

Usually it's easier at the beginning of the marriage. It's difficult to get everything sorted. Everyone lives their lives differently, and after they move in they have to adjust to different things. Anyway everyone gets into fights, couples, friends, family, enemies, and strangers. Well that's all I have to say. Good Luck :-).

Answer 25

Every relationship is different. So go into it knowing that the first couple years are difficult for a lot of marriages, and make sure to put in a little extra effort to make it less stressful.

As for my husband and I, we did have a very rough couple years. But we worked through the bad stuff, and have been married for 4 years now.