Are there ANY statistics showing the rate of adoptions?

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that are closed by

1 Adoptive parents

2 first parents

3 a third party

AFTER previously being an open adoption?

I keep seeing people post that "in most cases" the aparents close, a previously promised open adoption.

How true is this? And how often is an open adoption, closed but parties other than the aparents?

If you have personal experience with an open adoption being closed please share?

Answer 1

My son's open adoption wasn't closed by his aparents or myself. It was closed by social services, something about his aparents being foster parents as well and that an open adoption could bring harm to the foster children in their home. I have NO idea what that means, no clue how it relates to my son and I and I can't even begin to comprehend how him having contact with me could affect any other child in their home. There was no abuse, no neglect, he was not apprehended and I have never shown them any reason to believe that I am a risk to anyone let alone a child I don't even know.  None of us, his aparent or myself, ever wanted an open adoption that included me being in their home, we had talked about meeting occasionally at a neutral place and letters and pictures being sent back and forth. I would love to know how I could be a risk to anyone when all visits would include his parents and all letters would be sent through the adoption worker. All the same they slammed the adoption shut the second I signed the papers.

I commend them for continuing to foster, they are truly good parents, foster/adoptive and bio. They are just as stuck in a foul system as the kids are... I can't see an end to this madness... social workers thinking they know what is best based only on a set system of guidelines and rules without looking at the induviduals invloved. UGH!

Sorry, foster care has me a bit miffed lately.

Answer 2

i would be interested to know also.  we are the aparents in an open adoption and honor the openess and encourage it.  until i started reading on here i didn't realize how rare that is.  and it's sad.  

i have a friend who has also adopted and plans on closing the adoption once the child turns 1.  let's just say i've about lost the friendship due to my strong beliefs of keeping it open as long as no physical or emotional harm comes to the child.  they agreed to an open adoption with visits and are just going to go back on their end of the agreement once the child turns 1.  their reasons are because they feel it will become too confusing for the child.  

myself i think the best way to raise a child is with honesty and openess.  and have no clue how to get my friend to understand this.

Answer 3

While I do not have statistics, I can speak from experience.  Our adoption was supposed to be an open adoption.  We signed an open adoption agreement with our son's bio-parents when we took custody of him.  

However, it was our son's bio parents who chose not to honor that agreement.  They wanted nothing to do with him once we took custody of him.  We have been fortunate to have a very open relationship with his bio-grandparents so he still has that "contact" with his first family in some respect.  But it is our understanding that the bio parents have chosen to have nothing to do with him and actually deny his existence.  

In some ways, it has been a relief to me that the bio-parents have chosen not to be involved because of my son's situation prior to and after he was born (i.e. neglect/abuse).  However, on the other hand, it saddens me that they have chosen to walk away from this wonderful child.  I worry that some day he will be bothered by two losses - the first being the adoption and the 2nd being the choice his bio-parents have made to walk away from the open adoption.  Fortunately, we have his bio-grandparents to help with those explanations and help to give him a better understanding of things.