Are these reasons enough to live?

Question

1. Some possible job prospects (currently out of work)

2. My relationship with my mother ( I have no other relatives)

3. A semi relationship with a pretty good guy.

I can't help that I suffer from BPD & think about suicide a lot. My life would really have to hit the toilet for me to to do something like that but sometimes I wonder if this is all I have to look forward to, is it worth it? I know they say "life is what you make it" but the odds are slightly against me with my personality disorders the d**n Dr's diagnosed me with.

Please don't tell me to call 911 or go to counseling. #1 Harris County hospitals are NOT a place you want to be. & I AM in counseling but it seems so unfair I have to "work" through this disorder when I didn't ask for it & sure as heck don't want it. Please no rude responses either or preaching thanks. Just feedback?

Answer 1

Hi! To answer your question, you have a lot to live for. Some people don't HAVE a Mom. I do, and currently we are not really speaking, she's 88. Please, go out and get a hobby, take a class, go see a movie with a friend, go shopping, any one of these are fun. Don't focus on what you don't have, but what you DO have. You didn't mention your age, but you seem young. Try to have a little more confidence in yourself, be proud of yourself, I'm sure you're a beautiful person. Hope this helped.  God bless.

Answer 2

Those sound like reasons enough to stay alive and give yourself a chance to find even more reasons to live  

Answer 3

I am sorry that your therapist is not working out for you but I would continue to see her for the time being.

try doing some research on Google for DBT (dialectical behavioral therapy).  I found that to be extremely helpful in my case and there are books and websites dedicated to it.

Also, try to build things into your life that are enjoyable.  Join a club or group and try to be more social.  If your mother is your only relative then you need to strike out and make friends.  Join a church group, or a club.  Try Meetin.org for your city as a way to make friends.  Do something enjoyable.

I know it seems horribly unfair to have to work though a problem that you never asked for.  But please don't hurt yourself.  you may think that it wouldn't matter whether you lived or died but i am positive that your mom and your guy would feel differently.  when i was feeling depressed and suicidal someone told me something which helped.

"Your life is changing constantly, the person you are now is totally different then the person you were 5 years or 10 years ago.  Depression is temporary even though it doesn't feel that way.  Suicide is basically giving up on all of your future selves, saying that there is no future for you.  When the truth is, in 5 years things could be so radically different for you that you feel like a totally different person again.  Suicide denies all of your future realities.

Answer 4

There is always a reason to live although sometimes it sure doesn't feel this way.  Don't ever give up!  I have suffered 19+ years with Major Depression/Anxiety/suicidal thoughts - and I FINALLY feel better on Abilify.  Cognitive therapy has worked best for me.

DON'T GIVE UP BEFORE THE MIRACLE!  Yes, it may sound corny right now - but it is true.  One Day At A Time - as miserable as it may be.  Keep talking and reaching out for help!

Answer 5

It all depends on what your beliefs are on the afterlife.  If you believe in ghosts or heaven or reincarnation then you have to ask if your life is bad enough so that  taking that chance is worth it.  The only people I think who should even be considering suicide are physically deformed and or retarded or people living in intense physical pain.  emotional pain can get better over time with the right people to help you.  Hey since you dont work have you ever considered travelling?   sometimes just taking a break from the dull routine of life and seeing new things and meeting new people are just what you need.  I look forward to my own death in a strange kinda way but I would never force anything to happen before its time.  Im very curious to see for myself what happens after we die.  You sound like someone who has a hard time making friends and i know what thats like.  Sometimes other people just seem so boring.  thats a mean thing to say but i think it alot. lol.

Answer 6

Your life sounds good. I would be happy!

Answer 7

Your life is the choice YOU make it! Everyone has their own power inside! Do the best for yourself and I certainly hope your choice is good for you. Life can give you lemons. That's when you make lemonade!

Answer 8

Yeah, those seem like good enough reasons to me. I don't have BPD so I can't say that I know what you're going through but to me it seems like people with it can be as "normal" as anyone else once they get the right script. You have BPD but we all have something even if it's not diagnosed. I don't think that anyone's without a mental health issue of some kind.  

Answer 9

Not really.

The problem with Death is that it's so permanent, and it usually hurts quite a bit. If you are bored with Life, the alternative's pretty cold. Might as well stick it out.  

Answer 10

1) Hang in there you will find work, take any job no matter how below you, you think it might be it gives you a starting point and a reason to get out of bed in the morning.

2) People write books about the relationship women have with their mother. If it's a good relationship that is worth gold.

3) What is a semi relationship I hope that doesn't mean he just comes around for s*x when he is not with his wife or other girlfriend.

Life can be unfair and I have been there as well as have alot of other people but it's all about how we deal with it one of my favourite sayings is, " Life is 10% what you get and 90% how you take it."