Are these signs that a married coworker is going too far?

Question

1. Emails me (just me) all day at work, even from home, for months, all from his work email address, mostly about current events & kids around.

2. Asked me to lunch, once with coworker, once for a short lunch & I turned him down.

3. Made me a picture of him superimposed with my favorite celebrity & stuck it on my desk wall as a surprise.

4. Burning a CD for me of his fave music.

5. I met his wife and he didn't formally introduce us, but he did say I was a coworker of his.

6. He very innocently flirts when we do see each other and he isn't an office flirt.

I feel that this is safe, mainly because this has been going on so long & it appears he is happily married, so I've reciprocated the flirting as it is so innocent.

Answer 1

Things are not always as they appear to be (regarding his marriage appearing good).  There is strong evidence that shows good healthy work relationships can actually improve matrimonies, but this is not healthy at all.  Either he is using you to get something he doesn't get from home and you are allowing him to.  Or, he is using you to compensate for something that he lost earlier in life.  He started acting shady when you you met his wife, which means that mentally he felt scard, guilty, or something.  I say gradually chagne the relationship.  Only respond to his emails once a day initially and then start responding every other day and then every week.  Don't avoid him when at work, but don't flirt back when he does so.  if this doesn't work, then you may have to address it with him directly.  Defining and clarifying exactly what your relationship is.

Answer 2

tooo  far!!!!!!!!! stop it

Answer 3

He's looking for something from you.  Tell him not to do these things as your not interested in a married man.  This isn't innocent stuff....Wake up!

Answer 4

He is going too far - giving you far too much attention.  He is making it out to look like he is happily married so you dont suspect.  Stop the "innocent" flirtations - (which are with you and only you - does that not tell you something) - do not go out to lunch or anywhere with him - and do not answer his emails.  End this thing now.

Answer 5

Carri u should be ashamed of yourself, there is NO INNOCENT flirting with a married man and I believe u know it!

Don't reply to the emails, just delete and let this guy figure out if he wants to be married or wants to get laid.

U need to get new friends that are not invovled to hang around with at work and after.  The fact your asking, you already know it is!  Grow up don't mess with this slime ball nor be a part of office gossip.  Get a life without this boZO.

Answer 6

Read the book "Not Just Friends" by, Dr. Shirley Glass before you both go too far.

Answer 7

Far enough. You should be able to be friends and not need to flirt. Put yourself in his wife's place..would you want your husband/boyfriend doing this for/with someone else? That should answer the question.