Are they just friends...or friends with benefits?

Question

OK..my husband moved to the phoenix area almost 2 months ago. He moved because of his job. Me and our 3 kids are supposed to join him around September 20th. He was staying in hotels and that was too expensive. He found a room to rent with a married couple and their 2 kids. It was fine for about 2 weeks. Then he calls me and says their marriage is in trouble and the wife moved out. He was allowed to stay there for another week till the electric got shut off. Fast forward 2 weeks....I get my cell phone bill. I find out MY husband has been calling this c*n+ at all hours of the day and night!!

I called him and confronted him about it. They both "needed someone to talk to" was his lame @$$ excuse. He says they are friends and thats all. I get a little snoopy and check her Myspace...guess who she has as her number one friend...MY F'ing husband!! I was Livid. I called and yelled. He took her completely off his friends list. But something tells me this was more than a "friendship"

Now I dont know if I want to uproot my kids(ages 5,3 and 1) to a new place-only to get divorced!

Should I give him the benefit of the doubt...or the boot out the door?

Answer 1

now u know there a little bit more than friends, but if he had sleep with her are u ready to leave there is no excuse for cheating but u love him and i know the kids would be hurt and also they don't like seeing there mother hurting. its a hard choice to make i think before make a move u should go alone for just a least 2 days and talk to him and see where u guys stand before moving and making a bad choice. good luck with everything and remember think really long before make any life changing decision we cant go back in time

Answer 2

I would put off moving there for now, tell him to get his $hit together and let you know where you stand,THEN you let him know where he stands with you.

Obviously something was going on, maybe that's why he went there for the "job" in the first place and why her marriage fell to h**l after he moved in.

Call her a$$ up and ask how long she's been involved with your husband you may find out a lot more info that will help you make your decision.

Best of luck to you

Answer 3

there's definitely something going on but can you blame him its so tempting with you being miles away and all i guess he thought he could get away with it and you would never find out

Answer 4

Sweetie it sounds like a mess here and if he was messing around with this woman you know he is going to deny it. So you may not ever get the truth out of him? He is giving you every indication that his relationship with this woman has been way to close for comfort and after all she was not happy in her own marriage and puts your husband on my space as her best friend. Who the h**l does this woman think that she is or that his wife would be ok with her friendship with him? It is not ok when you don't even know this woman or what her intentions are toward your husband?  I would probably think about emailing her through her my space and ask her what her real business is with your husband? She may lie for him to but if you play her right you might get some truthfull information out of her?

Answer 5

I think you know the answer to this and my guess is that HE was reason for the marriage problems. There is nothing OK with him talking to her like that or at those times. It's clearly a cross of boundaries whether they had s*x or not..and i'm guessing they did since it's been 2 months. I mean honestly does he talk to you all day and night?? And why did HE need someone to talk to and why wasn't it you if he needed to talk? That was a very dangerous situation to begin with and it was just asking for trouble. Any chance of finding out who the husband was?? I bet you could get an earful from him. If I were you I would take some time to visit him without the kids first. You need to talk some things over. I would also see this woman face to face. She took advantage of a situation and I'm placing bets she's getting her hooks into your husband. And he should be coming home to try and fix things as well. Also read a book called Not Just Friends. It will help you a lot with this.  

Answer 6

somethings going on..