Are they too old to share a room?

Question

My two cousions, boy 12 and a girl 11, share a bed room. Are they too old to do so??? There little sister, 5 months right now, will be joining them when she is 2. She is now sleeping in the parentss room? What do you think of this situation?

Answer 1

I think they are to old to share a room now. They are getting to the age that they will need their own space. Especially when the girl gets alittle older shes going to want a room all to herself. It would be a good idea for them to start looking into a larger home in the near future.

Answer 2

Since they are a boy and girl yes they are to old to be sharing a room. They are almost teenagers and need privacy. When they get dressed I wouldn't want the other to walk in. This is the time they go through big changes. The girl could start going through "girl things" at anytime. They will also need to check there state laws because in some states at a certain age it becomes illegal. What would they do if they wanted to have friends over? You don't want teenage boys sleeping in the same room as the girl.

Answer 3

It's not ideal but they have to make do with what they have. If they only have 2 bedrooms then it will have to work. They could arrange furniture in the room to kind of divide it into seperate areas. If they have 3 bedrooms and still have to share then I think that's crazy.

Answer 4

I think they don't need to have more than 1 child if they can't afford more than a 2 bedroom place! Thats ridiculous! When our 3rd baby gets here our kids will be 4years old, 1 year old, and newborn...and they all will have their own rooms. We kept this in mind when we bought our house. What do they intend on doing keeping them all in the same room untill they are grown?!

Answer 5

They are brother and sister, correct?  

I don't see the issue as long as they each have private time to get dressed, etc.  It's not like they are going to do anything inappropriate since they are bro and sis (well, if they were raised right anyhow).  

Would it be better if they had their own rooms?  Yes.  Is it wrong that they don't?  No.

Many other cultures have family beds, where the parents and all the children under 16 share the same bed.  

Not that I'm recommending anything of the sort, but I think people are often overly conscientious in our society.

Answer 6

Uh, that's gross. Things are going to start happening if they haven't already, and their parents can't expect them to take care of the 2 year old. I guess if they have their own beds, which I really hope they do, it's OK, but they still should have their own rooms in my opinion.

Answer 7

that is tooo many children in one room. they need to get a bigger house or stop haivng kids

Answer 8

Too old and illegal! At least it is in the UK.

Answer 9

stop having children

Answer 10

if the girl is entering the puberty stage with all the pube hair and developing b*****s then yes. Sharing a room may be an overrated experience for her. Sharing a bed at nighttime is not as bad though. And the girl can share with her sister when she comes of age. At least its not a boy. However if theres not enough space or money for another room then they can get room divider or change in the bathroom.

Answer 11

That may be Okay if they have a bathroom off the bedroom or within close access, for changing and stuff.

Some families do not have money for big houses. don't look for situations that aren't Okay to you and make them feel bad.

Maybe they could get a cool room divider. If you feel concerned you can buy them one yourself.

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Everyone says they should stop having kids- and maybe they should after this next one but ... the other ones are already here! What do you suggest now?

My kids could never share a room because they've been spoiled since birth but if their cousins had different living arrangements and they made comments- I would be FURIOUS.

Answer 12

yeah they are deffinately too old.

Answer 13

I actually think it's unlawful. Only children of the same s*x can room with each other.

Answer 14

Yes. Boys and girls need their own space. It's only fair that a child has a place to call their own. The girls can be in the same room together.. but, ultimately every child needs their own privacy.

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Answer 15

I think they it'll be crowded. The family would definitely benefit having a larger home. Hope they get one.  I don't think the boy and girl should be in the same room much longer.

Answer 16

i share with my brother sometimes. and hes 17 and im 15. but i dont always share. they need privacy.

Answer 17

it wud be differnt if it was like 2 girls or 2 boys at that age, but a boy and a girl in the same room at that age is not good at all......they need there own rooms now the new baby wud be fine with one of them.......even when the lil girl starts to grow up it wudent be good to have her in a room with a boy in it....it may sound sexist it some people but its true guys and girls just grow up differnt and at differnt rates thats just how it is

Answer 18

I think that you are asking this question because you have doubts, and that you should trust your instincts.

Answer 19

I think that families need to do the best they can.  If there are only 2 bedrooms, then they will obviously have to share. (Unless the parents are willing/able to sleep in the living room.)

I shared a room with my brother into my teens.  It wasn't ideal, but it wasn't really a big deal either. (We both wore pajamas to bed, and dressed/changed in the bathroom.)

Answer 20

Yea 12 and 11 year old especially a boy and a girl. Maybe the Boy should get his own room and the two girls share.

Answer 21

I think it's ok as long as the children are ok with it for now. By the time the baby is 2 the 2 girls should really be in a room of their own and the teenage boy ina room of his own or either try to invest in a couch bed so the boy can sleep their. There is no way he is going to want his younger sisters in the same room with him. But if that's the way it has to be then they can find all kinds of different ways to make one room  into two . Room dividers or wall spacers, cubbies can block the room or even dressers and the babies bed can make it into 2 different sections, but it's going to be crowded.

Answer 22

They're probably okay for another year or so - but they really need to give the oldest his own room and have a "girls" room.

Still, if money's tight sometimes parents feel they have no choice.

Another option might be to section off the room better.  Set up a big curtain across the room with a boy and girl side would be a temporary fix.  Even better, put up a simple wall to split the room in two.  I suppose if they could afford that they could afford to upgrade to a bigger house.

They really should upgrade!

Answer 23

yeah i think they are a little to old.

i think its okay for the two girls to sleep in the same bedroom but i think it would be better if the boy got his own room.