Are turkish men after a visa?

Question

Ok someone clear this up for me once and for all...

My friend is very very pretty and she likes a turkish guy ... he is not pushy and in fact she does most of the chasing.He lives in Kusadasi

Is it true turkish men just want irish girls for a visa? Honest answer from turkish guys would be appreciated.

Isn't it easy for a turkish man to get a visa without marrying someone!!

God its really annoying when people say that !

Answer 1

There are no rules to men. I'm afraid inappropriate people exist in every nation (yesterday I came across a tourist version and got disgusted!) and before making a decision your friend should ask herself, would the guy really need HER for a visa?

It would be much easier to convince a not so pretty girl. If she is playing hard to get, wouldn't he just try his luck on another girl?

If they marry and move to Ireland, how will the guy earn his living? Does he really want to go and leave his life here behind? How much does he earn here? Even if everything is genuine, will they really be able to cross the cultural bridge?

I am suspicious of holiday affairs, but this one doesn't give the vibes of a fake affection. Still, your friend should be the judge.

Answer 2

look at the info - she does the chasing -

in spain years ago it was a joke they kissed the girls goodbye

at airport and watched who arrived next.

the real problem is the culture difference.

other contributors are right - once your married you may be expected to live a way of life you are  not used to - subservient to the man -

but where is it that this man says he wants a visa

just tell her to be careful and keep an eye on who pays

for what

if he mentions building a house and a deposit - kidnap her

and section her until she comes to her senses!

hard one

ps my daughter married an goan who after years of applications got his visa hated it here and went home>

Answer 3

nah

some may be doing it, but this guy doesnt sound like one of them

Answer 4

yes and s*x/..

Answer 5

id tell your friend to make it clear she wants to stay in Turkey and see his reaction

Answer 6

First your lady love, then your money and then a visa.

Answer 7

he may really be in love, but as a first impression, without substantial backup info; this case sounds fishy to me. i am a 43 yrs old turkish man. trust me!

Answer 8

I live in the Turkish Republic of Northern Cyprus. And without a doubt it is every waiter's dream to meet and marry a European or UK girl so they can go there where the streets are paved with gold. And it is really difficult for a Turk to get a visa as they have to prove that they have a certain amount of money and somewhere to stay in the UK.

Answer 9

Mike,

No offense. It does not make sense to ask "Are Turkish men after a visa?", just because you suspected from one guy. It would be more polite if you asked "Is this guy after visa?"

To answer your question, well, if he is "not pushy" and if "she" does most of the chasing, then it is obvious that he is not after a visa.

By the way, most of Turkish men&foreign women marriages happen with the woman obtaining a Turkish visa and settling in Turkey.

Answer 10

It may very well be this way 1st if he's a Kurd 2nd if he's not making good enough money and 3rd if he's not educated well enough to find a decent job.

your q: "Isnt it easy for Turkish men get a visa without marrying" is hilarious. I have several Schengen visas on my passport and I didnt even have to visit any consulate even once in my entire life. So no, not all Turkish men need a foreign marriage to visit any of the EU countries.

Answer 11

If they love each other, everything will work out. Some Turkish men just want a visa, but in this case hopefully, they are in love and will start a new life together.

I would not count on an honest answer from a Turkish guy. Really. Go with your instincts and usually they are right!! It is not easy for them to get visa's because their country is not part of European Union.. little complicating.

If 2 people love each other they they should not worry about what others are saying. You should ask your friend if she is worried about it.

Answer 12

Ive heard of this, but the turkish men normally go for the older western women. Like most arabic populations, the women seem to despise the men. Something to do with women being more 'property' than actual girlfriends.

Answer 13

Well she should ask him if they marry can she move to Turkey then see his response.

Answer 14

I am not turkish but I understand the culture.  Not all of them are bad.  My advice - BE CAREFUL!  Only your friend can work the answer to that question out without talking to a person and knowing them you cannot really tell.

If he is not pushy and too laid back it does not really sound like a turkish guy to me, more like someone luring someone into a trap slowly but thats just my opinion and I could be completely wrong.

The soceiety generally has the attitude women are made to serve the man.

Answer 15

Well....... I suggest your friend googles "Turkish Love Rats" and does some investigating on her own. Not all Turkish men are bad or "visa chasing" of course, it would be VERY ignorant to think this! In fact, I'm married to an absolutely wonderful Turkish man and I live in Turkey! However, men in resort towns are rather infamous for having multiple girlfriends and fleecing women who come to their resort/bar/club/whatever for their holidays. There are good ones working there too, but I've heard so many heartbreaking stories that it really does pay to be safe. Don't write them all off though... Turkish people in general are really wonderful. :)

And just FYI.... my husband was able to get a visa to visit me in Ireland (I'm American, but I was working in Ireland) before we were married. He applied for a visa and just had to show he had some money in the bank and a job....

Answer 16

It is wrong to generalise. Not everybody is like that.

Answer 17

don't judge everyone by the stories you hear, we read in magazines about all the women who have married a Turkish man and it has ended in disaster but, we don't hear of those who have a happy ending. Your friend will know, he will lose interest or he will constantly keep in touch. failing that she should just come right out and ask him, he maybe offended maybe not, but its the best way to learn. My other half is Turkish and we are OK. best of luck to her, but I'm sure with a friend like you looking after her she will make a choice that's best for her.the other thing is its hard to get a visa anyway either for holiday or work and marriage does not guarantee one.

p.s I'm Scottish.x

Answer 18

That's a bit general isn't it?  Maybe a few are, but not all

Answer 19

why just irish girls,whats wrong with the U/K Girls