Are we really friends? Or is this pretend?

Question

Well lifes different for all, but how are you sure your friends with someone, i know everything about this person, well knew, and they know everything about me... but ever since it has become the end off my schooling (yr12) we have grown apart.. but the funny thing is.. when we do catch a chance to talk.. its like "ohh ive been busy im sorry we will catch up later" and well how are u suppose to respond to that? should i just wait around until they have the time..?

p.s. i dont like being pushy.. but like knowing where i stand.

Answer 1

I'm exactly the same as you.  If this has been going on with you for sometime, the next time you get a chance to see your friend, just cut to the chase, and say what you really feel.  it helps.  trust me.  Your friend will never know how you're feeling otherwise.  

Answer 2

Most friendships from school change over time, and some break down altogether.  The social context of school itself (you both had to be there, saw each other, went to activities associated with the school) is no longer there.  And that was really a big variable strengthening (or cultivating) your friendship.

If I were you, I would phone or e-mail her and ask her about the situation.  

In a sense, you are going to have to reinvent your friendship.  She is going to have to understand what you want from it and you are going to have to understand what she wants from it.  Remember, it is and cannot be as it once was for you both.  It has changed because the both of you have changed over time.

My suggestion is to contact her but also build new friendships with others who have no contact with your old school days.

Good luck to you both.