Are you a bully or were during your school years?

Question

If so, are you proud of what you were? Why did you become a bully? My son is becoming one because he was victim of it. What can I do to avoid that?

Answer 1

I became one when I was younger. Mainly because other kids decided to start picking on me (I was always the new kid, every year it was a new school) had just come from a very unfriendly school previously and had enough, so they did something to me i made sure they paid. i was pretty happy with kids who picked on me suddenly becoming scared. I still had friends who had been there before the picking started, and I still talk to them today. I switched schools again, and things settled back down and I went back to my quiet peaceful self. Some kids are natural bullies (like my best friend the meanest kid ive ever met at only 5 years old, and now at 23, she's still pretty mean - havent been best friends since we bothed moved when we were 8 yrs old, and me - i went back to being nice like ive always been ... but I will speak up as I learned to do)

not really sure what to do about current situation, but what about switching him to another school? a fresh start? new friends, new scenery.maybe suggest other ways to deal with his situation such as using words (witty words that is - thats usually the best) At another school i went to the teacher hated me so going to her was useless. i once got my items stolen from my cubby, she ignored it and shooed me away, but someone else got a book stolen and other items from other students and theirs were big deals and she gave me a huge thing of books that werent mine tried telling her they werent all mine but she didnt want to hear anything more of it and made me take them home (we brought books in to share with everyone in our class library - mine were apparently "too hard" for the other 4th graders - which was a lie)

then somehow I was named the theif and my mom got a good talking to when it was the teacher who practically framed me, and I think I knew who stole the items, cuz I saw this kid looking inside of people's cubbies once, and I mentioned who i thought it was and again i was ignored.

so maybe try asking what the other kids are doing and if hes gone to the teacher and what the teacher has done. if the teacher has done nothing and if hes the only one that gets in trouble, give the teacher h**l and report them as well to the principal and the school board. teachers also shouldnt pick on students.

maybe also try getting him involved in a sports team or a club of some sort to get his mind off those people bugging him.

Answer 2

My son was bullied.So one day his father goes at school with him and the other kids never bulled again (I think its because he is trained muscular and macho type...)

Answer 3

I was both- depending on who the other kid was... there is such a pecking order in grade school.

I still feel bad about two of the kids I was mean to and often wonder what happened to them.

Jay and Shawn sorry for being such a jerk to you!

Answer 4

no i was bullied... I became a mean person, and i taught my kids to take no c**p from anyone. I was also abused as an adult, and that hardened me to what I am today...

Answer 5

Send him to Karate-

you will be surprised at what that type of discipline can do for a kid- also involve him in other activities where he can make other friends. I bet he's lonely.

Answer 6

I was one. I'm not proud of it now. I don't have a reason for being one I was just a little terror. Just remind your son how it felt when someone treated him bad. Also remind him that other kids don't like bullies and they won't have many friends if he keeps this up.