Are you amazed by how far you have come since having baby?

Question

I am amazed by how far I have come!

First, I was just your average teenager who didn't care what she did, had no responsibilities.

Then, when I found out I was pregnant freaked out and didn't know how I would care for my daughter. Was excited, but scared.

Then came the day I had my daughter, all my worries were gone and I just fell in love with her. When I had her I knew absolutely nothing about babies or how to care for them.

Now that she is 13 months I look back and think how stupid I was for doing some of the things I did. I have learned so much through the last 13 months!

Her dad: Well, he has come a long way too!

First, he was, well, we won't even go there.

Then when I told him I was pregnant he said he would be here for me and the baby. I never believed him.

After she was born, he was still there for us, fell in love with his daughter. And he too knew nothing about babies!

After 13 months he has surprisingly stuck by us the entire time! He has leared so much and changed a lot since the day she was born!

Anyways, are you amazed by how far you have come and changed?

Answer 1

yes. I was a self involved party girl who got knocked up by my now husband. I was freaking out, knew nothing about babies or how to be a mom. Then when I met my daughter it was like the sun came out over my life. She is my everything, and has made me appreciate my husband so much more. I am all about being a mommy and taking care of her, and am surprised at how far listening to my instincts has brought me. Having her also surprisingly really improved the relationship I have with my own mom. She was mad when I got pregnant and has ended up being my biggest source of support. My daughter has really made my family closer, my marriage stronger and keeps me motivated and strong. I never thought I wanted kids, and now being a mother is the greatest joy I could ever think of.  

Answer 2

d**n i feel like you feel, me that same happened to me, i dint know what to do, i knew i was going to be a single mother, but here i am. trying to do my best for my son finishing high school just for him, achieving my goals

Answer 3

congradulations, im glad you have this self-realization, and i hope it has a positive influence on your life.

as for me, im 16 so i cant really answer this question, i dont have a baby. but thinking about how far my own mother has come.

she truely is a survivor.  

Answer 4

still learning! LOL but i do find it amazing how all of the sudden you don't even think of yourself hardly at all, it's all about the baby...and it's great!!

Answer 5

Oh honey - I was 37 when I had my 1st and 44 with my 3rd (last).... but I was surprisingly like you.  I knew nothing about babies, nothing for real anyways.  I had no idea how much they turned your life around and upside down and every which way.  But you were not stupid.  Life is about experience and learning and growing and it seems like you're going the right way.  

Here is what I have learned from my kids:

1.  Having a baby teaches you what true love is

2.  You gain new respect for your own and all parents out there

3.  You realize your own mortality and think about the future in ways you could not imagine before.

4.  You start to understand what was will never be again but what will be is yet to be realized.  Life is possibilites.  

Congratulations and I am so happy to know that there are parents like you and your boyfriend out there.  

Answer 6

Congratulations!  At 31 I knew nothing about babies either, so you are ahead of the game there. :)  

I am amazed at how far I've come...I was almost scared to touch him when he was born and now I feel so confident.   I love, love, love being a mom!  Best of luck to you!!

Answer 7

Congrats Ava's Mommy...you sound like you've matured soooo much with the birth of your beautiful baby girl.  I too have been forever changed with the birth and life of my 3 boys, 6, 3, and 8 months.  Life is such a miracle...only a mother/father will ever know.  Good luck and enjoy your lil one.

Answer 8

i agree. Being a teenager is really tough when you find out your pregnant. But once my daughter came into my life, well, my whole world revolved around her. even know shes only 2 months now. i never thought i was ready. i didn't know if i could handle taking care of another person. i can't even imagine i've come this far. And well Daddy. hes still a handful. But he has been with me through thick and thin. and i hope he will forever.

and congrats to you!

Answer 9

im amazed i havent killed my kids yet lol. im  23 and i have 3 girls a 5month old a 2 year old and a 3 year old. trust me you will understand what i am talking about in a few years. they are lucky they are alive right now grrr but i love them

Answer 10

I am very amazed about how far I have come too!  I was a total party girl. Very, very selfish and very wish washy. I am also a recovering cocaine addict. Clean for 4 years. i didn't get pregnant with my first until I was 28. So when it happened I was ready for a change. My babies daddy has come along ways too. It is amazing how much a child changes everything. We went from partying every night and eating out everyday to very responsible people and I am now a betty crocker wanna be. LOL!!!!!! My children have changed my entire world and have taught me true,unconditional love,understanding and hopes and dreams. My hubby had never changed a diaper before the birth of our son and now he's like a super dad.

Answer 11

I agree, the day my baby came out, I was a different person. It amazes me that some of my cousins and friends still act like they are childless, when they have more kids than me!!  I never thought I would be this 'grown-up' and Im gonna be 27 in 2 months!!

Answer 12

Absolutely, she's the best accident I ever had.  I like the person I have become now that I'm a Mom.

Answer 13

Yes I Agree!!! I'm a totally different person now and my spirit is at ease and peaceful at home with my first born son. I used to love going out and now I just Love to stay home with the Family. Love Daddy, Baby and Doggie. I look at my son and just Stare at him...How lucky and how far I've come.  

Answer 14

I can completely relate with you. I had my first when I was 17 and my family life around me was crumbling at the time. My mother was addicted to serious drugs (cocaine to be precise), and baby's father, out of the picture. I was terrified. I made a choice right then that I was going to have this baby, get myself out of the situation I was in at home, and make a wonderful life for us both. Thinks were put into perspective very quickly and clearly right then.

Still pregnant, I packed up and moved cross-country to California. I knew I needed to get far away from where I was and make a new life for myself and my child. I struggled awhile, but things were calmer there. I got myself settled and worked hard to provide a fairly comfortable lifestyle. I had my daughter, Sophie, and she changed me entirely, I feel like she really saved me, or pushed me to save myself.

Now I am 23, Sophie is almost 6, I've been married for 3 years to a wonderful man, and we have another 18 month old boy, Rowan. We are very well-off financially- we own a beautiful home, we have luxuries I never would have dreamed of, we travel and live a very nice life. People look at me and comment on how well off we are, and so young nonetheless, and I tell them I am still shocked by it myself, it didn't start off like this.

Things changed dramatically for me when I had my daughter. I still can't believe it.  

Answer 15

Sure thing!  Being a mom changes WHO you are, from the inside out.

A new little person holds your heartstrings now!