Are you an EMPATH or INTUITIVE person, if so can you answer this question for 10 points please ?

Question

Hello. I have a friend, who is involved in an abusive relationship. This is

a mysterious situation though. She met a man, and let him move in

after only 30 days. Then things took a turn for the worse. He began to

check her emails, and her cell phone numbers to see who called. It

was so bad, that she got depressed, and even started smoking again.

This man is evil. He says that he is Catholic, but is not. I think he is

into crafts and voodoo spells. However, he has manipulated my friend

from the inside out. And she is afraid to leave him, because he may

have threatened her. The last time I spoke to her was June 25, 2008.

They were in an argument, and then the phone went dead. Later that

same night, she said she could not talk to me again. What do you

think is going on, and how is she feeling concerning her critical situation ?

Answer 1

Very likely threatened her with violence. She should report this to the police if this is the case. That way, if any violence did happen, it would be pre-meditated, and he would most likely be deported.

I think this guy is only interested in getting a visa - maybe even forcing a marriage on her.

Answer 2

Something has definitely scared your friend.  She may need more help than what you can give her. But, you cannot make her leave this man if she does not want to.  All you can do is let her know you are there to help her anyway you can.  I am so sorry you both are going thru this.  Please try to find her help...taking it is up to her.

Answer 3

You have to be very careful about contacting her, or sending people over there. He may be unstable. I suggest calling maybe a crisis line of your local mental health agency. That's the quickest way to get reliable information on how to proceed. Then, if you can somehow get in touch with her family and let them know what's going on, but to be careful about letting her know or her boyfriend.

It seems he really has threatened her. Even if she feels for him, how is her life going to be in the future? Watched over, and afraid of doing anything wrong. If there hasn't been any violence I'm thinking, by the way you describe the situation that there will be soon. Be careful, but don't give up on your friend. She needs to know someone loves her and understands, just be careful about it. Don't forget to contact a crisis line, or perhaps an woman's abuse, or any abuse line.

He may be from another country and that will probably get him out of her way faster, but first of all, it has to be her safety, then his removal from the country, if needed.

Hugs, love, and my prayers for you both!

Answer 4

This is a tough situation.  Your friend needs to get out of this relationship and you can advise her to do so.  If he is here for a green card, he isn't here legally.  You could turn him in to the police and immagration department.  Get her out of that situation as quickly as you can.  Her safety is your priority and as her "friend" you need to step in.

Answer 5

She is to terrified to leave him.  He has probably promised to kill her if she leaves him.  He is going to use and abuse her until she starts psychologically falling apart.  At which point something really bad will happen.  He has already taking complete controll over her and the only thing that can save her at this point is when it gets to be to much for her and she becomes desperate for help.  You probably can no longer reason with her at this point.  Not sure what to suggest, maybe you could make this guy from Africa just magically vanish.  I bet no one will miss him.  Maybe he will dump her once he gets a green card.

Answer 6

My advice to you isn't religious or supernatural.  Speaking as a person that has great concern for his friends and family, i would suggest asking a member of the police or a social worker.  Talk to somebody that has experience dealing with abusive and controlling boyfriends and work from there.

Answer 7

There are many good answers here and I may also add that he is a control freak and a desperate man! He doesn't want anything to go wrong with his plans and thus alienated your friend from the world in order to accomplish his plan. He doesn't want anything to go wrong and if she has friends they might foil them. My advice to you is NOT let this man control her life. Get involved before its too late,he has no good intentions for your friend!

Answer 8

didn't you like the answers we gave you the 1st time you asked this question??

Answer 9

Call the police?

Answer 10

sounds like to me the man is a control freak, and your friend may have a low self esteem. people like this man are good at what they do. im a strong willed person and even i feel for a man like this once. i felt like it was my fault, that i was doing something wrong. and the fact was the dude i was with was just plain crazy. no matter what is said to her she will take his side. i feel that she is very unhappy and headed for a mental break down. sooner or later this man will cheat on her and she most likely will take him back at least twice she will need a friend to lean on that wont lecture her or say i told you so. just be there to listen and remind her she is way better then that. with out some one to lean on she will remain his puppet i see this happing in the next 4 months, why do i think it will happen with in the next 4 months because these men are not happy with just one woman. they need to control several to feel complete.

Answer 11

I am sorry that this is happening to your friend.  By the sounds of it, yeah he is definately abusing her.  I would find a Private Investigator to check this dude out - especially if you think he is using your friend to get a green card.  Or why don't you go through Immagration and get them to do a background check on this guy.

At the same time you should really try and get your friend out of there, you need to make contact with her and build up her confidence to leave this guy.  Contact a womans refuge as well.  They can definately help you out.