Are you an EMPATH or INTUITIVE person, if so can you please answer this question for 10 points ?

Question

Hello world. Well love is forever they say. Well listen to this. I have a

friend, a very intelligent and beautiful young lady. She met this guy,

and he moved in with her only after 30 days. Then things took a turn

for the worse. She became depressed, and started smoking again.

She called me up while she was in the middle of a fight, with this man.

Then later on, she told me that she could not talk to me again. He is

an abusive person, this guy. He checks her emails, and cell phone numbers, too. She cannot go too far over then work and college.

He is from AFRICA, and is a student there with her. But strange things

are going on. There is word about him getting a green card through her. But anyway, can you see what is happening here ? What do you

think is going on ? And how does she feel about the situation that she

is involved in today right now ?

Answer 1

You asked this Q in philosophy, anyway the answer is she is a liar.

Answer 2

It sounds like this guy is manipulating and controlling your friend to get what he wants.  He probably told her to not talk to you, or have anything to do with you.  If I were you, and you care about this girl, you need to get to her talk to her and tell her that you are there for her if she needs help out of this. Perhaps she is scared to do anything he would not agree with.  You need to at least try.  

Thanks for reading!

Answer 3

She need a place to get away to where she will feel safe. If she is attending school with him she might have to drop out temporarily.

This will only get worse. She is probably afraid to cross him. Does she have a female friend who can talk to her without making him jealous and suspicious?

Answer 4

I know of a very similar situation. She was from Africa. She left her children to come to America with him. Then after she arrived with him things changed. She was dumped, and used as is your friend. She went to a woman's shelter to get away and survive on her own. Since the marriage was her way to get a green card things were looking bleak for her dream of a better life to bring her children too. She was able to maintain a visa to continue her college degree and moved in the dorm. She also worked part time to send money back to her children and for her needs.  

Answer 5

There is a huge difference between love and infatuation. Sounds like your friend's boyfriend is no longer infatuated with her. She needs to get away from him as soon as possible and have no further contact. Otherwise this will only get worse.

Answer 6

I have one question.  Why did you put the word Africa in capitals?   Are you hinting at anything here?  Is this the intention of your question?   Something does not feel right about this.  I have this gut feeling that the truth is being distorted for some reason or another.

Answer 7

Love does not cause harm.

It's as easy as that.

Answer 8

I think she is afraid that this guy will hurt her if she talks to you. Or maybe he is suffocating her with all the fighting and violation of privacy and that is why she is depressed and began smoking again. Maybe you should alert a friend or family member about this problem. Maybe they can help her and get her to leave this man.  

Answer 9

Let the situation run its course. You have tried and she seems to enjoy playing victim. That is her journey, let it be and move on, concert your attentions towards more productive ventures.

Some people are gluttons for punishment, dont be one of them.

Answer 10

to me it sounds like a number of things, one thing i feel for sure is that its not good. she should get away from him soon as possible. he sounds like a very jealous person, and not giving her freedom is wrong. i already have a thousand answers goin through my mind. i dont think she's happy, i mean, who would be with a guy like that. if she's depressed then its obvious proof. he's sounds very controlling and maybe in need of mental health. if you are planing on helping her you need to contact her in a way that her "boyfriend" will not find out. maybe on her way to college or in college. get facts straight as possible, this is what i'd do anyway.

i hope best of luck to the both of you.

Answer 11

well in my opinion your friend doesn't seem intelligent if she is still in this relationship.  If what you say is really happen to her she need to leave him cause her depression will get worse and may cause her to do something bad. and if your where any kinda friend you would discuss this with her... and an  abusive person can turn very quickly into something worse. as for you to say he is African that really didn't matter... i just believe your friend needs out of that relationship. end of story .. what i don't understand is why are you asking this if you really already know the answers to your questions.  

Answer 12

First, every story is told from someone's point of view.  In this case, yours.  I am curious about how you found out so much information about her and her situation if she is not allowed to talk to you anymore.  Do you have feelings for her and is this in any way adding any negative slants to the story?  Does she have unresolved feelings for you and that is driving a wedge in their relationship?  If all of the statements are accurate, either she is afraid to leave him for some reason or she is benefitting from the situation somehow.  If you are in a situation that allows you to help her and she wants this, perhaps its a good time to offer that now.