Are you an INSIGHTFUL or INTUITIVE person, if so can you answer this for 10 points ?

Question

Hello Sociology. I have a friend that I care for very much. She met this

guy, and they moved in after only 30 days. Things got worse. He started checking her emails, and cell phone numbers, too. She became depressed, and even started smoking again. Then she was told that she could not talk to me anymore, on June 25th. This was on

the telephone after she got in a fight with him. I have not heard from her since. What do you think is going on here ? The man is from

Africa. They go to the same university. There may be something about

a green card or something. Can anyone here see what is going on ?

And what is she feeling right now about her situation ?

Answer 1

He sounds like a very controlling person. It depends on where he grew up, but it may be a cultural issue as well. If woman were treated as objects where he lived, then that's all he knows and will reflect that in his actions. She probably feels torn. She obviously has strong feelings for him...b.c they moved in together so quickly...and wants to please him. If she's unhappy, then it's up to her to leave. If she does manage to get out of the relationship and he still bothers her, then she can go to the police and get a restraining order.  

Answer 2

well, she is definitly fortunate to have u. U need to find a way to talk to her, she might be in trouble worse than u think. if the latter of this question is true. some will control a person till they get what they want and then jst take off on them. the thing is to read between the line of what ur friend will say about her situation.

if she is in denial then u need to attack her with the mention of all the things she used to like and is not "allowed" to do anymore.

describe her what u see now. let her know though that u are willing to help or stay out for good. if u are seeing an illegal act unfolding u need to report it. bring awareness without an outright accusation. seems to me u have some sense so, u will know, by the way this will be reacted upon what u are onto. then u can go in a full offensive if ur friend needs saving.

on the other hand, she is ur friend, but it's her life. u may be only be able to do so much. u have to be ok with that too.

not all people want a saving.

good luck to u and hope ur friend will come out of it

ps: she might be blinded by what ever method of brainwash the guy is using. no p***s is worth that. lol.

sorry, but she might be feeling misunderstood by her friends, and afraid to lose the guy. stuck in between. but the friends are more likely to give their pursuit than the guy. if he sees she has strong "allies" then he might make himself disappear. so dont give up. if u really think there is a good amount of reason to take action as a 3rd party, by all means do not give up.

bad people need to know they're being watched.

Answer 3

  it sounds like she 's hokked up with adominant personality, she needs to get out of the relationship if she can and put him on the  " out list" being from Africa he's probably used to being the dominant figure in the family.

Answer 4

I like to think I could be insightful or intuitive but actually I am just another person who loves to help people.

Your friend has found someone who is threatened by your relationship with his girlfriend. Perhaps he is controlling and doing all of these negative things your friend claims, then again you only know what she is telling you is going on. It sounds to me that your friendship wasn't as important to her as it is to you.

Your friendship was putting  a strain on her romantic relationship, so she ended in with you. Life is about choices, your friend may be making the wrong choices for her but it is still her choice.  

Answer 5

Heyy this isn't from my empath mind, this is from my logical side.

You have to be living with an American citizen for a certain amount of time to get a green card. He's using her to get his green card.

Therefore he doesn't care how he treats her, so uses threats to keep her from moving out.

Answer 6

Haven't you asked this before?  

You are obsessed with her.

Answer 7

He seems controlling and maybe she is afraid to call you due to him having power over her. There is no way to tell about his green card.

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