Are you an INSIGHTFUL or INTUITIVE person or psychologist, if so can you answer this for 10 points ?

Question

Hello. My exgirlfriend met a guy. She let him move in after only 30 days. Things got worse. He started checking her emails, and cell

phone numbers. She became depressed, and even started smoking

again. She told me she could not talk to me anymore on June 25th,

2008. This was after she had an argument with this man. She left me

alone until......... Monday this past Monday. She added me as a contact on Yahoo Answers, once again. I read her questions, but she

did not email me. I see that she has had many problems with him still.

One of her questions were, "how do I change my email password".

I think she truly misses me and wants to talk but is afraid. What do

you think ? What is she thinking right now about me ? And how does

she feel about her life ?

Answer 1

I think she is screaming for help in the only way that she knows how. I have been in a relationship like this before. Abusive men will try to beat you down emotionally as much as they can, and make you feel like you are lucky to be with them. Sounds like her new boyfriend has a major control issue, and he is treating your ex like she is a possession. She probably feels even more trapped because he has moved in with her. He probably moved in with her to mooch ( I'm willing to bet that she is handling the majority of the finances) and to monitor her every move. She probably doesn't know how to get him out of her house. I would definitely encourage you to try to contact her, if anything just to make sure she is ok. Do you still care about her? Obviously you do if you are taking the time to ask for advice about her situation. If you can give her any hope and support from your friendship, this may give her the push and strength that she needs to end this abusive relationship in which there is obviously no trust from her boyfriend. Good Luck! Definitely keep checking on her, and make sure not to blow her off. She needs as much self-esteem help as she can get to rise above this situation.

Answer 2

Maybe she is looking for help. Apparently, you 2 parted on good terms. Does she have anywhere to go if she left him? The problem is, the longer she is with him, the worse things will be and the harder it will be for her to leave. If she has family, give them a call. They may be unaware about her situation and will offer her help.

Answer 3

Um, I think I would move on probably if I were you.  Trying to figure out what's going on in her head is an impossible task and your only going to drive you crazy.  She probably couldn't even answer that question.

To many games really.  Here's what I would do if you still like her.  Cut her off.  Let her make the effort.  If she's interested she will.  Right now your right where she wants you.

Got this other guy at home and keeping you nicely interested as a security back up plan just in case.

No dude, have some self respect.  Cut her free.  

Answer 4

honestly , i think you are the one who is still in love with her..

if she misses you and is in love with you still she would find a way to contact you it is not that difficult unless she is living with a murderer!

Answer 5

I think, but this is speculation, that she misses you and recalls the good times.  She likely does care for you too.

"how does she feel about her life ?" Trapped.

"But she seems to still be in love with me. What do you think?"  I need for details, like, Why did the two of you break up?  How long were you together before the breakup? And so on... And why do you things that she is still in love with you--something beyond mere hope and desire?

A lady can feel safe with a controlling man, but he usually become oppressive.  So the issue is, How oppressive until it becomes intolerable?

Rather than speculate in the near dark, you should meet with her and discuss it.  Best preparation, figure a way to help her out.  She has a guy living with her who is controlling and invasive.  How can the two of you change that.  To provide solutions will make getting back with your much more attractive.  

But also consider this, will the relationship work long term--or is getting back with her just a stopgap, a temporary solution to your romantic loneliness.