Are you an insecure person ??

Question

The word INSECURE is thrown around an awful lot theses days, especially when people are talking about relationship problems.

But aren't we all a bit insecure?

be it about looks, wealth, status, competitiveness...

I doubt anyone is totally 100% cok-sure of themself ?

Answer 1

there is a difference in being insecure and knowing what the deal is.

I know im not a good looking guy, but i'm not insecure, its just a fact im ugly and i don't pretend like i am good looking.

I think a lot of times rich/good looking people will think that other people are insecure but they just don't know what's its like being in some one elses shoes.

but all in all i think im pretty secure, i think everyone who works in the financal sector will worry about their jobs.  but you just gotta roll with the punches.

Answer 2

I agree with you...i dont think anyone is 100%

You could feel insecure everyday or perhaps something makes you feel insecure even though you could be a very confident person....everyone experiences it at some point in there life.

I think it causes problems in relationships because its not only a insecurity issue, its a trust issue (it kind of sprawns from insecurity). If you feel ugly or bad about yourself your going to worry about your significant other looking at other people or being attracted to other people for reasons of looks, wealth, status...etc...

Too bad the word insecurity couldn't be washed away from our memories for even existing.

Answer 3

Why do you ask?...Are you saying I'm short????...uh!....You're saying I'm short and worthless aren't you!!!

(runs away crying)

Answer 4

no....but i was as a teenager & into my early 20's...but i think confidence comes with age...when you find your way in life - you relax & with that relaxation...comes confidence!

Answer 5

Good point. However, I think I know if im insecure or not. I have my days... It just sucks really to be insecure. But i've learn to deal with it I guess.

Answer 6

everyone has their problems. some people are insecure about their jobs but it is something out of their control. refering to insecurity on a personal level i think that once you learn to accept the things you can't change and acquire the ability, courage and tenacity to change things u CAN change, you will become as secure as the most secure human being. for example i can't change that i have big nostrils so i love them instead of hate them. in the case of dealing with human beings i used to feel uncomfortable but after reading several personal dev books and leadership books i have changed that 'insecure' part about me.

Pls contact me if you need any advice

Answer 7

Mostly not but I am not perfect and have my issues....................

Answer 8

i dont think that anybody is 100% secure. I think that a certain type of person is good at hiding their insecurities more so than others, therefore they release an aura of confidence. In my psychology class i tested my secure/insecureness, and my result was that i am certainly secure. However i would have to disagree and say that i am not 100% secure. I would say around 85%! I also think that it changes and changes and never stays the same.

Answer 9

yep

Answer 10

I was insecure when it came to just about everything for most of my life. I never felt I was worth anything.  I think my insecurity stemmed from not being wanted:  My mom told me that after 4 kids she didn't want any more, but that the doctor told her that if she got sterilized she would go crazy.  Well, the joke was on her because she had me (5th kid) and still went crazy.  I always sensed that Mom didn't want me.  I concluded that this was even more true when she said that my nephew looked just like me----she hated him since the day he was born--sound familiar?  She was always mean to him and he could never do right. He was blamed for everything his good brothers did.  (I always treat him X-TRA special and tell him and everyone that his is my FAVORITE).  Another time, she told me that she never wanted to have a friendship with me where I could "talk" to her--she was my mother and that is it.  Didn't make sense then either?  (I have a mother AND friendship relationship with my kids and they can "talk" to me.)  

As a kid I tried to be perfect--honor roll, college scholarship and I'm not going to say that it was never enough, but it was all ignored and barriers were constantly placed on my success by my parents.  Barriers they never placed on my 5 siblings (the 6th kid was born lucky as he was born a boy and not a "cabrona--*****--my childhood nickname :*)  They got free use of car, I had to buy mine.  They got help with tuition in college--I had to make up the difference that my scholarship didn't pay by working 40 hours a week and had to listen to college is a waste of time--that major is worthless, no one can really teach you---BUT if it was a sibling in college--I was forced to babysit, because they needed to go to class.  I was a teenager and young adult at the time who was just a pawn in a chess game that people used so that their important pieces could advance.  I didn't know better--I was used to either being really good or messing up and being physically and emotionally abused when I messed up so I didn't really have a choice.  I did what I had to to keep everyone else happy.  Sad things is later in life wheneve I or my dh needed help from the siblings that I helped, they always complained or refused to help.  Now, I stay away from them all.  

When they got married or had kids or bought a house, it was celebrated.  Me?  ah--just go to the justice of the peace, why didn't you have your kids close in age and well, if that's the house you want to buy.......Whatever.  Still, it all stays with you until you reach a breaking point or down right volcanic explosion.  For me it came and went with the years until I finally exploded in my early 30s.  It took me having a chronically ill baby and seeing that she was being treated with a lack of consideration to realize how selfish people around me had been and how I would always get beat down and how I would always give in to save the peace.  Knowing she needed me more than them allowed me to put them in their place and to start to built up my self-esteem and to let go of my insecurity....when I got all the birthday, mother's day, father's day, christmas gifts back that I ever bought my parents over the years (think 17 years worth) I was hurt, but at the same time I didn't care.  All that junk meant nothing to me--the only thing that could hurt me in life was seeing my baby hurt and to be ill.   She has gotten better and over the years I have worked on getting my self-esteem back.  Sure it is true that only YOU can give yourself a high-self esteem only YOU can stop yourself from feeling insecure, but it is really easy for a person to be born emotionally healthy and to be beat up emotionally over many decades so much that they end up feeling insecure, even if they are great students, good friends, good daughters, good girlfriends, good wives, good employees, and good mothers.

I'm not 100% sure of myself.  I'm insecure about where I live.  I take it as good and plan to make those changes so that I can be happy where I live.  I am using self-help books spanning many issues to help myself.  I am staying "breezy" in my relationships with my extended family and parents.  I don't share things that matter to me with them---then they can't try to beat me down about them.  I analyzed my past and have let go of a lot.  I still have a way to go, but I will be fine.  I won't ever give anyone that much emotional control over me.  That is not to say that I will be a cold person----it is actually the opposite----my whole family is cold, in control, aloof etc and I'm just a quirky weirdo, who has come to love hugs, being told and saying "I love you." and who dreams of better things.    

Answer 11

I'm utterly insecure. And completely agree with what you said. We are all a bit insecure yes. But I guess some people can be more insecure than others. Like for me, all of my confidence comes from what other people think of me, which isn't good. So my confidence can go up and down up and down! It's horrible. And nobody is 100% sure of themselves. I guess it's horrible that insecurity exists. I mean, who cares what other people think? A lot of us.  

Answer 12

not at all..

Answer 13

Not at all.  I'm confident, secure, independent, outgoing, out spoken, sincere, honest, dependable, sarcastic, funny, witty, intelligent and drop dead average.  I've got a perfect relationship with the man that god made just for me.  We compliment one another perfectly.  I don't worry about who out there is more attractive, thinner, prettier, funnier, taller etc.  I am a solid catch :)