Are you as easily irritated by this as I am?

Question

or is it my own self pride? I can't stand for someone to tell me that I can't or I'm not going to become anything.....like if I say I want to be very skinny...or if I say I want to teach myself another language...some people say that I will not be able to do these things...and I get very irritated and I use that as a basis to distance myself away from these types of people......I think that if you're trying to make it somewhere..and someone doubts you with their mouth and eyes...it best to stay away from them.....and I also get irritated when someone assumes I'm something less than what I am...I've talked to one brother numerous times of what kind of job I do.....I'm pretty content with my job...and he's steady asking me if I'm interested in other jobs(that I am in no way interested in) I told him what I want to become...and what not....he doesn't seem to get it. Its like you telling someone that you're a teacher or something and they r sugeesting you apply to McDonalds....I'm exaggerating a bit...but that's basically what he's doing....like he's jealous or something because he's not content with where he is...so I've decided to kind of stay away from him too....am I right..or is this arrogance and self pride?

Answer 1

a long ago i was trapped with the sam efeelings. Sometimes it becomes so hard to with stand, you feel lik ekilling th ecommenting opponent. Sometime you feel like crying, smaching your head or his/her head but infact you cant/didnt do anything like this. Then i learnt to ingore the guys, now i simply ignore the comments & beleive in me. It took a reasonably long time to make my feel undisturbed after hearing these comments n any thing like this. Whenever i come across such confrontations i try to avoid or revert the topic; if not possible it takes only few minutes to step out of the situation. Dont bother to think what they will think of it.  

Answer 2

bottom line do what you need to do and do not listen to haters.  

Answer 3

you should never separate from your brothers in faith. you make excuses for them. i would simply not listen or when he's being disrespectful then you give the salaams and walk away, but if it becomes to much then it's ok to only give the salaams when you see him but not be in his company afterwards. some people just don't have good manners, even muslims. and remember you are on the deen of your friends

Answer 4

success is the best revenge!!

Answer 5

I would do the same thing. Its a good thing you are distancing yourself away from them because this avoids conflict and that way you wont be tempted to lash out at them, since everyone has their limits. Its best to just say Salaam and do your own thing. InshAllah you will be successful at whatever you want, nothing is impossible and it is wrong for other people to tell you otherwise. Anyone who discourages you, you should be polite and go your separate ways and prove them wrong!

Answer 6

Nope, you're right on this one. People should not doubt you or be unfaithful. Surround yourself with people that believe in you.

Answer 7

Elevate yourself

never let this world or anything inside of it disturb your peace for too long

there is time and then its gone and then its forgotten, surely we all will be also

Answer 8

It's not really arrogance and self-pride. It's not nice when people think they know you better than you know yourself.

It's pretty irritating.