Are you as strict with your children as your parents were with you?

Question

For those who had strict parents.

Why or why not? How has your decision affected you and your children?

Answer 1

More...   Probably because my parents smoked a lot of dope and were drunk all the time so I just did what I wanted...  I think its better to be a decision maker of what children think they want to do.

Answer 2

I would say No, I am more strict than they were. However, I do not Beat My Children with a Metal Coat Hanger Either!!!! I try to give the child Room to make His/Her Own Decisions first. If they are Good Decisions-I tell them. If they are Not So Good, I make suggestions and let them Figure out the Faulty Decisions for themselves.

Answer 3

Definitely more strict.  My parents were very laid-back and thought everyone should do their own thing.  My husband has a much more traditional approach to child-rearing, and though I would be a lot less strict with them if left to myself, I find it is a lot easier when he lays down the law to them about things, they actually listen to him whereas they seldom listen to me.

Answer 4

I would be more compassionate and humane.

Answer 5

I'm not a parent, but what I've observed is that my parents are the opposite of how my grandparents are.

My grandparents are very stingy and not very financially supportive except in terms of education.

My dad kind of spoils us. Always makes sure we have money when going out with friends so that we're not the ones who have to borrow from them and pay them back later. Yet he's the same way when it comes to money in education. He says choose any school you want, paying for it is my problem/

Answer 6

I'm not a parent, but I know I'll be just as strict with the punishments, but not as strict about certain things.  My parents came here from India, so they had a very different view on things.  They didn't really understand curfews, grounding, or anything like that.  They often resorted to corporal punishment, which I think is very good and should be more widely used.

I will be strict about schoolwork.  I don't care what the excuse is, but a kid's only job is to get good grades, and I don't think that's very difficult.  I will be strict about being respectful.  If I hear that my kids are disrespecting teachers, neighbors, or other students I guarantee they'll never do it again.  

I will though, treat parenting as more of a loving friendship than business, for lack of a better word.  My parents have never said ''I love you" ever.  It's obvious that they do, but it would have been nice to hear every so often.  I will be less strict about dating.  For a while I felt awkard about dating, especially white girls.  I never want my kids to feel ashamed for loving someone, regardless of their background.

Answer 7

my mother was a n**i(not literally).....I started rebelling at ten and it just went down hill from there.  My father however was great.

No I have rules and guide lines with my daughter...but I'm not yelling at her if she colors the sky purple instead of blue. (she is five)

Answer 8

growing up my parents were so strict. it was crazy, i was always trying to fight them and was bad. my children i am way more kicked back and they seem to be good children.

Answer 9

yes i am strict ,,,,,, the rules are fair  the application firm  

the children are adult now and they are great  no trouble  and that's due to them not I