Are you considered rude if you are blunt?

Question

i'm a very blunt person. i tell it like it is. some ppl have told me they really appreciate it because i'll tell the truth about anything they ask but some ppl say its rude and they would rather have me lie. what do you think? am i in the wrong or am i doing okay?

Answer 1

The problem is that some people don't understand the difference between being blunt and being tactless.  You can be straight forward and truthful without being a jerk.  On the other hand, we live in an overly PC society, and some people get offended because you told them the truth and they're so used to everybody sugarcoating things.  So I say, yeah, be straight with people, just make sure that you aren't being unnecessarily mean or saying it in such a way, like with your tone of voice, that it sounds like you're being mean, and you'll be fine.  I'm considered to be straightforward, but i don't think anyone's ever called me blunt or rude.

Answer 2

i think it depends on the person and the situation. some people consider if to be very rude but others appreciate it.  

Answer 3

No, it's not always the case.  Although, being gifted with such talent, one needs to remember that no everyone interprets the message the same way, so you have to use discretion when being blunt, otherwise you can be considered rude, and it would be rude not to consider the feelings of another person, unless you don't like them, then it's perfectly alright : )

Answer 4

I don't think you're wrong. My boyfriend is exactly the same way. Sometimes it comes as across as rude or unfeeling, but I always know what his true opinion is. I prefer the truth, good or bad.

Answer 5

Well think about it, there are many truths out there and every truth can be used to intimidate or hurt.  The truth is not always appropriate. Although going into detail discussing your day to day bodily functions at the supper table is the truth, I would say its rude.  To look over a see a challenged person and call him a cripple or retarded is the truth but it is discusting, rude, dispicable and tasteless.  Most truths are peoples opinions, -- philosophicly one mans truth is not necessariy another mans truth.  Some people believe God is a truth, and others who don't believe consider it a lie.  To tell it "like it is seldom is the truth" it is generaly ones opinion forced down anothers throat.  

Don't lie, but don't force your truth on others.  

If I ask you a question any question would you tell me?  Would you tell me your telephone number, your address, where you will be at a certain time.  Will you tell me your checking account or credit card numbers.  Will you tell me in detail how you look nude?  Don't do any of those things as its dangerous and inappropriate.  See, you don't tell it like it is.

One of the worse things I every witness was someone telling the truth.  As a young man (soldier) layed on the ground, wounded he asked how he was doing and another told him he was going to die.  I never forgot that day.  This man who answered was not a doctor, but what he said was true.  The young man's hope was taken from him.  The worse thing you can do is to take someones hope and dreams from them.  If you have to tell a lie, then do so if it means someone will have hope, and a dream.

Answer 6

probably. there are times when you should keep your mouth shut. not to be ugly, just how life is.  

Answer 7

i tell itlike it is and girls love me for that plus even if it hurts their feelings i always try to make them laugh and yea... so no rude is going up to a teacher and saying ur fat as h**l and walking away lmao

Answer 8

It depends.  Blunt for the sake of "blunt" could be considered rude.  It usually depends on what prededed the "blunt."  There are people who only understand blunt statements (sadly).

Answer 9

it depends on what you are being blunt about and who you are being blunt to.

Answer 10

Rude and blunt are two different things. Blunt people are more considerate than people who lie, to come across as kind. If your friend is wearing a hideous shirt, and they ask your honest opinion, and you lie, they go out and embarass themselves publicly. If you tell the truth, then they don't suffer any humiliation!

Honesty is a good thing, is it not? Blunt is just another word for kind and honest.

To answer your question, you are not rude because you are blunt, unless you tell the truth is a s****. way, or with a harsh tone. Then you're rude.

Hope I helped!

Answer 11

There is telling the truth and then there is being an ***. Most people who claim that they "tell it like it is" use this as an excuse to make tacky and unnecessary remarks. I'm sure people who know you well are ready for the type of answer you'll give but you have to learn to be a balanced person.

Some people may think your an ***, while you think they are too sensitive. Either way, they probably won't listen to what you are saying.  

Answer 12

There are times, if you are married, when you definitely should not be blunt.  Bluntness does not work well with people who are not blunt. Honesty is an honorable trait, but only when dealing with honest people. Perhaps you haven't met anyone that will use your honesty to lie about you or to twist facts in their favor.  

Answer 13

Be honest.  Although most people only want honesty if it parallels their opinion.    

Answer 14

A spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down.  Some people who "tell it like it is" don't care about others feelings and that is rude.  It doesn't mean that you need to lie, it just means that you should be sensitive of others feelings.  That's my opinion and I'm sticking to it.

Answer 15

nothing wrong with being blunt. it can come off as rude sometimes, and it could even be rude at times, but it's better than lying in my opinion. then again, you always have the option of saying nothing at all.  

Answer 16

You can tell the truth without being blunt. For examples, say your friend asks you if you like their outfit, and you think it's ugly.

You could say:

A) No, your outfit is ugly

OR

B) I don't think that is the most flattering outfit on you, I'd try something else.

Option B. is still getting your point across without sounding like a jerk. You will run into people who admire you for being blunt, and others will think you are rude, so it just depends on who you wanna please.

I personally get kind of offended when people are overly blunt and\or offer their opinions when they aren't asked. But I am sensitve to people's remarks so that's just me.

Answer 17

being blunt and being honest are not the same thing.  being blunt is giving someone a difficult piece of information in an uncaring harsh way which is rude.  

just because someone has asked for your opinion, doesn't mean that you have to be harsh and cruel about it. you can be honest and be up front without being mean.  if you know something that may hurt someone, and if it is your place to tell them, then choose the right time and the right way to let them know.  

sometimes lying and/or keeping your thoughts to yourself is necessary to be kind.

Answer 18

Why not strike a balance by being truthful in the most nicest and politest way possible? Then you'd be called honest, while still maintaining ur classiness, not blunt and not rude.

More than WHAT u say, what's important is HOW u say it.

And one can be honest without offensive/derogatory/hurting language as well.

I feel people want the truth (even if they feel they don't want it).

But if in doubt, b4 u say anything, ask their permission and make sure they are open to it. Ur hesitation will send the signal that u r a polite and thoughtful person.

Overall, use ur judgment in any situation. Do whatever feels right and proper to you.

Another point to remember is - make sure u r not into someone else's business. Most people don't like that.

Answer 19

I think there's a big difference between blunt and direct. If you are being emotional and insulting someone that's blunt. If you are sharing information in a non-threatening way - that's direct and I think it's good and healthy.  

Answer 20

In some cases its better to lie then tell the truth.

Answer 21

there are ways to tell people things without being rude, its called tact and it sounds like you need more of it.

Answer 22

You can be blunt without being rude, and if that fits you, then you aren't in the wrong at all. But some people go over the line and are rude. Of course, the other aspect is that some people are oversensitive and see rudeness where none is intended. You'll just have to go over a few incidents in your mind and decide for yourself whether you've been blunt or been rude. Without more information, no one can make that call for you.  

Answer 23

I love blunt people.  I'm the same way.  DO NOT CHANGE.  Why be dishonest when you can tell the truth.  The truth is your opinion.  

My friend came up with a saying,  "You are so blunt I could smoke you"