Are you controlling a person if you give him/her too much freedom, with the intent of getting more benefit..?

Question

.... than he or she actually get ?

Thanks so much .

Answer 1

It's not about selfish pursuit of careers and personal desires... It's about letting kids enjoy the world in the same way that we did when we were younger.

Answer 2

It depends on what kind of relationship you are with this other person.  The only thing that I do see as an advantage to you and this advantage on that other person is if in the outcome you're the only winner and that person gets hurt.  Equality should play a role in this freedom without anybody getting their feelings hurts. If you love or care about this person (partner, child, etc) you shouldn't be given too much freedom just to get something out of it.  

Answer 3

No.  If you're giving them the freedom, no matter what your intent, you are not controlling them.  Even though you may think you can predict the outcome.  

Answer 4

I am a controlling person in situations where persons I am responsible for behave in an irresponsible manner. To allow or accord freedom with an expectation of benefit is a misnomer. To be able to liberate and find one’s own freedom therein is the master play of life and living successfully.

Political, freedom, diplomatic licence, exercising free will are all illusory. The people are an unruly mob, wilful and effortlessly malleable, as all irreligious and uncultured peoples are. Should our neo Hitler gather momentum in his quest for world salivation one simply sends in the h***s trolls. Turn-up the voodoo tormenting Hitler resulting in his babbling like a fool whilst the pigs on the payroll can smugly and arrogantly defy each pearl of wisdom in the presumptuousness of having destroyed a God.

Free will contained within a glass fish bowl, is as free as the Creator whose glories and libations it extols. What is free will, freedom, what is truth, wisdom, why and for whom and what purpose does man exist. If you had in your hands the one through whom you were able to govern the universal world, not even God and his pitifully divided house of religion and races could undo Satan. The evil trinity are loyal to none but the slavish subservient and can only fantasise of the creation of a master league that Hitler conjure with the raising of an eyebrow. Amen.

Answer 5

In a way you are because you have an expectation from your benefit~~! I can only say that I am not a controlling person nor do I like being controlled for the wrong reasons~~! Just let go and allow this person the privacy and freedom they deserve and maybe then you will reap the rewards you have sought after~~!

Answer 6

it's not controlling, as you have no control over whether you will get the benefit you want out of the situation, it's up to the individual to either give back, as you have done to them or take advantage of it.

it's more like sacrifice than control,in the hope that they will do the same for you, we are all guilty of this.