Are you divorced? OR Are your parents divorced?

Question

I am doing a project for my child development class on divorce and would like to get some answers from people.

Please answer any/all questions if possible:

How did you feel when your parents divorced?(be specific) how old were you?

Did you ever get over it? if so, how? OR are you glad they got divorced?

Did you understand what/why it was happening at the time?

What was the reason for divorce?

Do you have any issues regarding relationships/ trust/getting close to someone because of their divorce?

Did your parent's ever remarry? If so, how do you feel about step-siblings?

If YOU are divorced, what were your childrens reaction when you told them? how old were they?

Did you see an emotional change in your children?

Did your relationship change with your child (become closer/distant)

***I know there are alot of questions--I don't expect anyone to answer all of them-any response will help. If you would like to share any additional info, be my guest! THANKS

Answer 1

How did you feel when your parents divorced? At the time I didn't notice much. I was too young. I realized my father was gone, and I missed him terribly.

how old were you? 4



Did you ever get over it? if so, how? OR are you glad they got divorced? I got over with it. I've spent more time with divorced parents than I have with parents who are together. They still talk regularly, and are great friends. They shouldn't have gotten married in the first place, they aren't very compatible relationshipwise.



Did you understand what/why it was happening at the time? No.



What was the reason for divorce? My mother likes to have fixer uppers. Once she fixed him she didn't want to be with him any more.



Do you have any issues regarding relationships/ trust/getting close to someone because of their divorce? Not at all.



Did your parent's ever remarry? If so, how do you feel about step-siblings? No, and I don't like the idea of step siblings at all.

Answer 2

I am 26 and in the middle of a divorce with 2 children. I have been married for 7 and a half years, with her for 9. I would have to say the most miserable 9 of my life aside from my wonderful kids. I was young, stupid, and careless... With that being said, I wouldn't change a single thing. But by my not being happy with the person I was with, truly affected my kids. She had her issues; laziness, prescription drugs, dependency... I was the one taking care of food on the table, the house, the kids... Everything... I finally opened my eyes, got off my a*s and took care of business. She is now gone and we are happier than ever. Don't get me wrong, the kiddos miss her a lot and they cry every now and then. But they are doing ignorantly better. My oldest, 7, has vastly improved in school, got his grades way up. My youngest, 3, is has greatly improved her temperament. I'm also not saying I was the perfect husband, because I wasn't. But I was taken for granted and taken advantage of and driven to do things out of spite. I plan to remarry... sometime... But the path I have chosen was chosen for my children. Rarely is it "best" to stay for the kids. They see what’s going on. They see if you are miserable or not and they pick up on that.