Are you doing the dollar dance why or why not?

Question

Are you doing the dollar dance why or why not?

Answer 1

No! Beyond tacky!

Answer 2

Yes, I am, because it's part of Hispanic tradition, and my fiance's Spanish family would be rather disappointed if we didn't.  Besides, it's a fun way to get some much-needed honeymoon cash!!

Answer 3

Yes we are doing it because it is a tradition in the area of the country that I live. You only give a dollar anyway and guests don't have to do it. I don't mind it as a guest, I think its cute and fun.

Answer 4

Yes.  We are modifying it though to be just cards with advice since it's not a tradition with my family but a huge one with his.  If guests want to slip their money into the envelope they can...this way both are honored and nobody is offended.

Dollar dances get a bad rep because alot of greedy brides now are using them as an excuse to squeeze more cash from unprepared guests.  Similar to brides who charge an extra dollar for the drinks on their cash bars, open gifts AT the reception, or throw up attended wishing wells and dollar trees to shame a guest into giving....

What people fail to understand while they are being judgemental and narrow minded is that dollar dances are a long standing tradition for many weddings, especially if the family is Eastern European.  Guests come prepared for the dollar dances and usually the money given is the gift, not something additional to the boxed household items that other cultures give.  Generally, if you havn't seen it for at least 3 family weddings it is NOT a tradition for you and should be skipped.

Now if it's intiated by the guests then go ahead.  Just make sure the majority of them are Ok with it.

Answer 5

No way, it's classless and tacky!  And guests DO NOT enjoy it, you'll notice that this is the time when people take their bathroom/smoke breaks, get a fresh drink from the bar, etc.  It's horribly rude and makes it look like you're begging for money.

Answer 6

I would never even consider a dollar dance.  As a previous poster proved...it really is just about the money (they made $500)!

Dollar dances are the most disrespectful wedding event!  They are just a way to get your guests to part way with their money (more than they already have buying you a gift and attending your wedding).

I don't care what culture you are from, or what area of the country or world you are from, they just aren't acceptable.  Your guests do not like them, appreciate them, or think they are appropriate.

Answer 7

I did not plan on it... but the guests suprised us with one.

Answer 8

The region I grew up in and the family I have....don't do dollar dances.

Answer 9

We did the dollar dance at my wedding last year. We got $500 from it so I say do it. Its fun. All of my guests enjoyed it.

Answer 10

Im not but thats because it's not a tradition in my culture. I dont understand all the thumbs down if people are saying that is their tradition if something is part of a tradition is not tacky.  You may personally not like it because that's your presence but it's not tacky

Answer 11

We didn't plan on it but ended up doing one and it was SO MUCH fun!  We didn't 'pin' it to us.  We had a dance later that nught so we had changed our clothes.  I had on a cute pair of jeans with my "Bride" shirt and people just put money in our pocket, some of the people actually danced twice with me LOL!  people weren't lined up watching us so it wasn't akward at all,  I do not think that it is tacky, I think it depends on where you live.   Where we live it is normal.  

  We ended up with about $250.  which is pretty good bc we had a wedding of about 100 people and we only recieved 2 wedding gifts

Answer 12

We didn't do it.  It's a personal decision, but I feel like since the guests (probabaly) purchased a gift and spent $$ to be there, asking them for more didn't sit well with me.  And frankly, I think they are ridiculous.  But hey....that's why every wedding is different and unique!

There are better, funnier, less tacky ways to get the crowd going.

Answer 13

my son got married in June, some people tried to start a dollar dance, but we stopped it very quickly, I think its very very tacky

Answer 14

No, guests already will be brinignig gifts, why go and ask for more!

Answer 15

Ugh, that's the tackiest tradition in the world. I'm not a stripper - I don't dance for money, especially not on my wedding day.

Answer 16

I personally dont want one cause i dont want to poke holes on my dress or look like a money tree and wedding gifts are already good enough for me...but my family will be outraged without one...its tradition...I told my mom that i didnt want one, and she rolled her eyes at me and said "ya right...okay okay we will see"...with a grin.  but a good sport as i am...i am going to go with the flow...as long as my family has a good time doing this tradition...im happy as well.

Answer 17

NO!

I did not.  I think they are god awful tacky.

It's basically begging for money from people who are already bringing you a gift.

To me, if you are that hard pressed for cash, don't hide it and just charge a darn cover to your wedding.

Edit** All guests do not love a dollar dance.  Many of us are mortified by even the thought of one.  It's a socially awkward situation.  I already gave you a substantial gift,  is the extra $5 or $20 really that important?  If you're that hard up, just tell us-don't do a freakin' dollar dance.

Gee, thumbs down for NOT being tacky...I can live with that.

Answer 18

We had one. It was a nice way to visit with our guests that we may not have had the time to visit with otherwise. Many people think it is tacky, but you dont have to make everyone give you a dolllar! Let guests dance with you even if they dont want to give you money. It is just a way for your friends and family to share intimate time with you. I have seen a few different takes on this tradition also. One version is when the groom has to put on an apron, the women throwing money at his feet and he has to sweep it up with a broom and dust pan. I personally prefer the traditional version so you get the time to talk to your guests. Just remember that it is YOUR wedding and you can do whatever you like!

Answer 19

No, we aren't having dancing at all, but even if we were we wouldn't because neither of us like this tradition.