Are you in a HAPPY marriage? What does it feel like?

Question

Like really, on an everyday basis, how do you feel when you go to bed, how do you feel when you wake up? Are you excited to come home to your spouse, do you have s*x a lot? I wanna hear from regular people that feel that their marriage is the best it can be, what is a normal day/week/month for you?

Do you work, have kids?

How do you feel when anohter man/woman hits on you?

Answer 1

Generally happy. On shifts, I get into bed while she is already sleeping. She has a stressful job, so there`s no waking her up. Normal time of week/month to have s*x varies , b/c of shifts.Only twice a week when I`m on shift, none the first week I`m on days b/c stoplight is not in my favor, 3 times the second week of days.Wish for more, but happy with what I have. We both work, have 1 boy 14 years old. Flattered when another woman acknowledges me, but would never act on it.

Answer 2

I am vary happy in my marriage I work and we also own a business so we are together all the time and when we are not we call each other  all the time I work third shift and he will not sleep in our bed when I am not home.and we do have two kids 11 and 12. I think setting aside alone time for you and your spouse is very important.

Answer 3

my marriage is awesome!! i can be myself around my husband, he does not judge me. i voice my opinion and he listens. i do the same for him. at night cant wait to be alone with him, the s*x is great!! after work im so anxious to see him and ask how his day went. we hang out a lot, i follow him and he follows me!! he is truly my soul mate and i know he feels the same cause he tells me all the time. its very flattering when someone does hit on me and on my husband. that means we still got it!!! lol!!!

Answer 4

I am a very happily married woman.  My husband and I have been married for 3-1/2 years.  This is my second marriage.  Although nothing isn't always perfect, we are very much in love with one another.  When it is the right person, you just know!  I feel great with him all of the time.  When we go to bed and when we wake up!  We do have a lot of s*x and it is AWESOME!  We both work and we have a total of 5 children (from previous marriages).  As far as when another man hits on me, I don't pay it any attention.  It feels good to know that I still have it for someone to notice but I only want my man.

Answer 5

I'm happy when I go to bed because I finally get to leave the world behind (temporarily) and just snuggle with my husband! That's my favorite part of the day. I hate waking up because we have to go to work, etc. and I don't get to see him much. I'm always really excited right before he comes home at 5pm. At about 4:30 I starting getting excited, and I make sure my cell is beside me. I usually fix him something to eat, too. I'm not working right now....I took a few weeks off to finish studying for my MCAT and will start back on Sept 7. But, when I'm the one coming home later, he always has food ready for me, or is really sweet to me because he missed me.

We have no kids. We take weekend getaways at least once a "season". We took a vacation over the summer, we are going away this weekend, and will probably plan something for the winter. Doing new, fun things together keeps you happier than you would ever think. Also, we have s*x about 2-3 times a week.

When another man hits on me, I think it's pretty funny. I usually laugh about it later. Most of the time, I just ignore them.

Answer 6

Um... I'm tired when i go to bed, and tired when I wake up, lol. But, I do hate going to bed alone (as does my hubby) and it REALLY sucks getting out of bed before him in the morning (I have to be at work earlier than him). I'm not sure I'd use the word "excited" for my coming home to him, but I'm certainly happy when he walks through the door. I drop whatever I'm doing, and go get a big hello kiss! We have s*x when we want to have s*x... dunno if that's " a lot." Both our libidos have tamed some, so we have s*x like 2 or 3 times a week I'd guess (with a few other "intimate acts" in between:) ). I'm not sure what you mean by normal day/week/month. We both work, come home, have dinner together, usually go out separate ways until the Daily Show comes on, and we spend most our weekend time together too. No, we don't have kids, and we aren't going to either. We don't want them. When another man hits on me, I suppose it's a bit flattering for a second, but them I just kindly tell him I'm sorry, but I'm a happily married woman.

Nothing is perfect, even we have our off days. But, I believe that we are doing great. We know it's us against the world, we are still very amorous and affectionate towards each other, and I'm always happy to see him.

Answer 7

  For some people my marriage is normal, No I don't feel happy anymore. I've been with my husband for 14 yrs married 12. The last 8 years my husband has been gone 4 yrs threw out the last 8yrs.  He is military and is on his third deployment right now and I feel like we've drifted away so much threw out the yrs. I never thought id feel that way about the situation but I honestly do. I have a wonderful husband that will do anything for me and I feel so proud to have that 1 man in my life and I know I would never find another like him in this world. He's a good provider a wonderful father and would help a perfect stranger broke down on the side of the rd. that needed assistance. He has a huge caring heart for others. So when he comes home I'll see how things go and let him adjust to a regular life again and see what happens. The military is his life and so is his family and I'm not going to make him chose or take away any of the things he loves we will find ways to work things out.

Answer 8

Marriage is great and not for everyone!

Me and my husband work hard and play harder. In order to enjoy each other so much we decided not to have kids right away.. We are partners and lovers and I married my best friend and I'm in love with him.. However, don't get me wrong.. i sometimes want to kill my husband!.  

Answer 9

I think this is a good question, and it is interesting to hear everybody's responses.  For me, a lot of it is a feeling of being comfortable.  I can tell him more than I've ever told anybody else and just be myself around him.  We like to hug a few times a day and are silly and joke around with each other several times a day as well.  We get into arguments when one or both of us in a bad mood, but afterwards we can talk things out, and we always end up understanding each others point of view.  We only make out once a week but that is enough for us.  It still makes me happy when a hot guy hits on me, but I know I would never pursue it.

As for what it FEELS like, mostly it's just comforting to have him around the house and a little bit lonely when he's gone.  Every now and then, I will get a major tingle running through my entire body when he touches me, but we are past the point in the relationship where that is a frequent ocurrance.  It's more usually just a feeling of warmth when I am in his arms.

Answer 10

My Mother (83) and Father (88) have been married 66 years and are still alive.

Father has serious dementia and in a senior care home.

Mother sees him everyday. She goes to the home at 12:00 when father is eating. She lays on his bed and falls asleep. He finishes eating and comes back to the room and lays beside her for about an hour (remember this is a single bed).

He sort of knows she is his wife, but confused because they are apart.

Everyday he proposes to her, that they should get married.

Now that's true love!

Answer 11

We are not really married yet but we have been together almost 6 years, been living together for 5.5 years and have 2 kids so we say we're married.  We do have plans to get married but it's expensive and it costs money we don't have.

My husband and I argue but we do love each other very much but it isn't the "puppy love" like in the beginning, this is a forever kind of love.  It's a kind of love like, I love you and I know that you know it, but give me my space and let me do my thing.

Usually my 5 month old son wakes me up once he's hungry and a few minutes later my 2.5 year old daughter comes into our bedroom and lays between her daddy and I.  Then a few minutes later she starts to get hyper and starts slapping her daddy and tells him to wake up.

Since I had a baby 5 months ago my s*x drive right now is kind of non-existent, it's coming back but it isn't what is used to be.  I felt this way after having my daughter, it comes back but until then I'm just kind of like, "eh ..." - LOL

My husband and I own our own business, he is the laborer (along with our employees) and I do all the office work, and during the weekend I have a 2nd job as a waitress.  I love my kids and I love being with them but those two days a week I get to have adult interaction and meet all kinds of people so it is fun.

Answer 12

Hello --

I'm 37 and my wife is 38.  We met when we were 17/18 yrs old, so have known each other 20 yrs.  We been married almost 14yrs and we have two children, ages 8 and 4 (both boys).  We are done having more children.  I have to be honest, I'm bored in the marriage and I finally had the guts to tell me why this a few days ago.  She handled it better than I thought, but I explained to her that we continue to do the same routine and our s*x life needs to improve.  The kids were finally removed from our bed 2 months ago, so as you can see, our s*x life suffered very bad. No, to answer your question, I haven't been too excited to come home at night.  We have s*x maybe once a month on average now and I'd like that to be at least 2-3 a week, if possible.  

A normal day/week/month for us is getting up around 730-8, getting the kids ready, showers and getting dressed and getting out the door.  My wife is a stay-at home Mom, where I'm a marketing director for a big company.  Weekends are more laid back where we sit around in the morning.  

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Answer 13

We are not legally married but me and Mr Humpty have been together for .......well met at 17 and am now 34.....aagh 17 years! live together for 13 of those, so pretty well married in all but name.  We love each other, have 2 girls, house etc.  yes, s*x is still very hot ( gets better the more you do it....you learn  what feels good...do that alot!!.....have months when s*x is scarce..some months every night....3 times snight...)

You have to make the effort to be a partner, give and expect compromise, talk all the time, have a bit of me time.  

i still love coming home to MR Humpty, we go out occasionally when money allows, and make our own entertainment when it doesn't!

When another man hits on me, I blush and feel embarrassed!  It doesn't happen much anymore, but it used to. I used to think " what can this person give me that Humpty doesn't?" usually they were pretty grim anyway!

happy marriage feels like your favourite outfit, warm and  comfortable.

It isn't all fireworks and red roses. That is for hollywood and for little girls playing dressup. it's like having a best friend you can have s*x with....and will get spiders outof the bath for you!

Answer 14

i am pretty happy about my marriage . i wouldnt say it is the best or the worst but i will say it is pretty good . and yeah sometimes it feels good to go to bed together but soemtimes hubby  has to go in the guest room . and same as waking up . it depends . anyway yeah even when we are fighting i always get excited to come to either kiss him or yell one more time at him . but i always like the fact i am gonna see him a mn  . we do have s*x often i mean really we can be at it sometimes twice a day or 3 times a week or more or less or sometimes nothing at all .  yes we have kids  a15 month old daughter and one more on the way . we love our kids and they both get so much attention , even the unborn one . we talk to him , sing or bugg him and kiss him too good night . and when another man hits on me sometimes i laugh at them thinking you wish , sometimes i feel flattered that i could still get attention , sometimes i get pissed . it all depends but i dont care .

    dont ever believe marriage is easy and sweet and smiles all the time . married people are the ones that can have the more fun and the stupidest fights . but over all i love and love my family and i would do anything for them . we ve been together for 7years , dated 2 years and married for 5

Answer 15

This is what a happy marriage is.

I hate it when she argues all the time.

I hate it when she does laundry and washes my whites in colors and I get pink socks.

I hate it when she wants to watch CSI and I want to watch the Beverly Hillbilly's.

When she left me for one month, I missed her yelling at me.

I missed her hair pins in my tackle box.

I missed the smell of her cooking.

I missed the bras hanging on the shower curtain.

I missed seeing her little poodle slippers she wears at night.and most of all I missed her.

She came back and we are happily in love and in a wonderful marriage and these things that I have just mentioned are what makes marriages work.

Answer 16

Marriage is great.....but i have been divorced in the past and it was misserable...but I am re-married and it is great he is my best friend and I can jump his bones whenever I want to.....he adores my kids and I his.......we cant wait to get home and make dinner and play...I am the luckiest woman alive.........