Are you in for whats in the inside or looks?please help me :(?

Question

ok...this might sound a little bad, ok really bad for me to say this and everybody is probably going to hate me here & not even bother to answer, but i really need help, ok i have a wonderful, amazing, really sweet sincere boyfriend that i absolutly love with all my whole heart. & we've been together for 3 1/2 months & its just been a beautiful love story that i will admire & i will aways remember and cherish forever...he's my everything BUT he's been away for 2 weeks & yes i miss him A LOT! & during these 2 weeks i've been depressed & not happy over this summer vacation & now i know its cause i miss my friends & cus of boredom. And u no when ur depressed u always think everything thats negative well at least i do (do u when ur depressed?)soo... theres this 1 thought that i've been thinking.. i'm always thinking that he's not that good looking but whenever we're together he's always attrative and i DO LOVE HIM, is this wrong? or hav i been thinking this cus of all the depression i hav?

Answer 1

I've been in your situation. It happens. I liked a guy so much that it didn't even matter what he looked like. We had the best time together and got along really well.  That was hot enough for me.If you have that chemistry it doesn't matter...

although, all my friends think this guy is ugly and I can do way better, I still like him anyway! They don't know him like I do. :)

Answer 2

no not wrong i think inside is most important cuz when you're older its the outside that ends up looking different not your insides

Answer 3

Its Just because ur upset and miss him and yeah cuz ur depressed

ik i get the same way but when u see him again everything will be ok i promise.  and if u love him like u say u do he will always look good no matter what...

and if he don't who cares u still love him and thats all that count..

i hope u fell better

Answer 4

uh, I think you like your boyfriend I think you may be completely normal. I wouldn't worry about things. All the weird feelings and stuff, I'd just attribute that to hormones and other adolescent developmental factors.

Answer 5

cmon girl get real with yourself don't be hoier than thou. It doesn't matter if he's not attractive to you now, but it might later if that is going to be an important trait to you admit it to yourself. better sooner than later

Answer 6

No...It's not wrong. But perhaps you need to think about this very hard. I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years and even I get doubts. But I love him with all my heart and he loves me. You'll learn in time, if it IS true love, that beauty is what YOU see in a person. It doesn't matter what others think. He's YOURS...

Answer 7

I have a friend who truly loves another freind of mine but doesnt think hes good looking at all. She cant even imagine kissing him. I dont think its wrongm but i think it makes things hard. But it sounds like your ok.

Answer 8

Love makes us think that people are attractive, because to us, they are.  The inside is what's important, but looks certainly don't hurt.  Once he's back, you'll realize that if you really love him, it doesn't matter what he looks like.  :)

Answer 9

I think it because of depression. By the way you should look at the inner beauty of a person

Answer 10

I'd say it is what is on the inside for sure. Personally, I think that people can't neccessarily help the way they look, and that that shouldn't matter, just their personality. I am sure your boyfriend is a very sweet guy, and given the way you feel I bet you love him. Good luck, and I hope you feel better soon!

Answer 11

it sounds like he makes you happy. ur depressed because u haven't seen him. if you don't think he's attractive due to your depression (not seeing him) it's wrong for sure. he is attractive because you love him. anything or anyone anybody loves is always attractive to the mind.

Answer 12

first off, theres no way you love someone youve only been with for 3 or so months. you hardly know someone at 3 months. it took 9 mnths to even say that to my bf (been together for years and years now)

and if you truely loved him, you wouldnt even have to think about his attractivness to you at all. it would be unquestionable.

Answer 13

well everyone has this dream partner in his/her dreams and stuff... and when we know a certain person as our dream person.. or mind starts comparing it with that dream man and he is not as charming as your dream man so these thoughts came up.... but you are really lucky to have a boyfriend as such and you know that... just think of beautiful moments you've spent together... because its really hard that we get a cent % dream man...

Answer 14

It's know, not no.

Answer 15

well. i will say you have to be attracted to the person physically in order to be with them! What is on the inside is also important, do they respect u care for u , r they there for u when u need them the most, this is everything i think about when i am in a relationship and considering if i should move forward or just call it quits!

Answer 16

YOUR A DREPRESSED AND SAD LITTLE GIRL WHO CRAVES HIS ATTENTION MABEY THAT'S Y WHEN YOU WITH HIM, YOU LIKE HIM SO MUCH THAT YOU DON'T NOTICE IT! AND YOU DON'T CARE THAT HE'S UGLY I THINK YOU ACTUALLY LIKE HIM AND NOT JUST FOR HIS LOOKS!!

Answer 17

my sister had the same ?'s growing up.  if he is not good looking to you then you mite need to think if you really want to be with him cuz it is important to have physical attraction for the one you love! It is not wrong to love a guy at all just make sure you base it on who he is and what you know about him..don't rush into it cuz if he is only showing you a bit of himself... which only 3 months you won't know everything....just take your time and get to know him and you will naturally fall in love with him deeper as time goes on if he is right for you

Answer 18

I think you like him lots. I've got a big tall bf that no one ever gave a look to, according to him. I think you are over-thinking the situation. What could be better than being with a guy that you think is really attractive? I think you are a little depressed and lonely because he is gone. Find things to do while he is gone, rent movies, write out your feelings, be with your friends. From what you have written, I would give this one a chance and a half.

Answer 19

ive thought that too and i felt terrible about it.

and not everyone hates you on here. im answering your question because i understand where your coming from.

you justt need to put those thoughts aside and concentrate on how much you love him.

Answer 20

Well, maybe he's just not all that attractive. Let's face it, some guys just aren't. I'll actually put my boyfriend into that camp, lol. I mean, of course I find him physically attractive... just not... visually attractive. I never pretended that he was, lol. And yes, when I'm depressed, I tend to get bitter about it. But it's not all about looks, ya know. Even if your guy was butt ugly, if you really loved him, it wouldn't matter. It's about how he treats you, and the way you feel when you're with him. So don't sweat it, and just hang in there till you can see your boyfriend again!

Answer 21

I don't really understand the question but..

You need to be physically attracted to him for the realtionship to go anywhere.

Answer 22

Hey, there's nothing wrong with the way you're feeling, I think you love him no matter what he looks like on the outside. Of course he might not have looked impressive to you at first, but that's certainly changed.

That's besides the point, you can see the guy he is on the inside & right now, try to clear away all thoughts of doubt from your mind & just keep going.

...MAYBE you're just thinking that he's not good looking when you're away from him...because you can't really stand the thought of not being with him.

...Just don't think negative.