Are you in foster care? Do people treat you like garbage for being a foster kid? Did people stereotype you?

Question

I used to be in foster care in almost all my life. I'm 24 now. I'm asking in the Teen section since many kids end up in foster care by their teen years.

Being a foster kid, I was always PUNISHED & overly sheltered. The foster family figured I needed to be MONITORED 24/7, even after I turned 18. They were very abusive, & they damaged my self-esteem by telling me that they should've left my nasty, filthy, dirty butt where they found me. I was only a couple of months old! Would you expect a 2-month old baby to take a bath? No. Why are they making it like it's MY fault I was dirty?

My birth family is & was abusive too. My birth family have no respect for me since they didn't know me all their lives, but somehow both the foster & biological family treat my twin sister better because she strives for popularity & I was the geek. My biological niece told me that she doesn't give a $hit about me because I had just recently came into her life.

Everyone hates me! What's your experience?

Answer 1

Goto the Adoption Section.  There are several of us from Foster Care there.

I was in care from age 7 until I aged out at 18.  It sucked.  I lived in many homes and group homes and no one cared about me.  My bio-parents had their rights terminated fairly quickly because they were abusive people.  No one adopted me, they just kept moving me and telling me I was bad.  Some foster homes were just as bad as my bio-parents.  Most only wanted me for the $$ or so I could do stuff for them.  I only had one family that was really interested in me and they moved and left me to be bounced to another foster home.

Now as an adult, I am a mess.  At 18, I was kicked out of the system with nothing.  No money, no family, no education.  I did not get on my feet until I was about 26.  And now, I still have lots of problems.

I think alot of foster kids get told all bad **** about them.  Because no one really cares about us.  Everyday I wish I was dead...

In real life, I never tell anyone I was a foster kid.  They say "What is wrong with you?"  or "What did you do?"....like a little kid did something to get into foster care??????

I am sorry for you.  It is good to be a geek.  You can make something of yourself!  Don't let them get to you.  

Send me a note if you want to talk...