Are you independent or codependent?

Question

In other words are you independent and love yourself or dont like yourself? Or codependent and still love yourself or dont love youself.

Answer 1

Independent I think. Hang on I'd best ask the missus.

Answer 2

The vast majority of people here will say they are independent, because most everyone thinks they are. One thing a Psychic will open with, is flattering a victim by saying, "You are a very independent person." Works every time. And then they follow up with, "And you are a very giving person too." Because most people make that claim as well.

Answer 3

I am both. I love myself and others. More independent than co-dependent. I do not like giving "control" over choices, or being financially or physically dependent on others. It took me most of the first five years of marriage to really realize how interdependent a married couple is....and now that I see how we are woven into each others lives, supporting each other in life, that its okay to be a little dependent on someone else if they have earned it and are reliable.

Relationships are a lot like dancers....both partners come with their individual talents and style and through practice, repetition, and relying on each other, each partner brings out the best in each other. Sometimes you need to lead, sometimes to follow, but keeping in sync with each other and working as a team is the key.

Answer 4

I'm independent,and my feelings about myself are mixed.

Answer 5

I'm an independent thinker who is also married and teamwork is it because I exchanged vows with a man.  I also have several roles and relationships in my life therefore, I am, by fact, not just a wife stop.  Since I am an independent thinker, I realize that on the subject of *any* relationship both people need certain skills in order to solve disagreements and achieve a positive goal.   Obviously *a relationship* is not limited to a married couple.  

So, I learned that I had choices way back in my childhood including the choice to notice what does and what does not work.  Did I learn these skills from my parents ..well, yes and no and despite where and who it took my paying attention also.  Teamwork includes problem solving which includes the ability to think, listen (pay attention), and communicate honestly.   That does not happen when a person is all about themselves despite rumors.   There will always be people trying to redefine roles, or in terminal cases some become obsessed with seeing themselves able to undefine nature, marriage, family roles, relationships and they can't do it.  Why?  Because it's not natural to be all about oneself..we are all in this together and much closer in some relationships, however, imagine only having the ability to be "codependent" on oneself and then to get out that one has to figure out who had that big idea.  

Have you ever heard the saying "too much of anything is never a good thing"?

Answer 6

i am independant and i cant keep my hands off of me!! haha

Answer 7

independant and love myself n others

Answer 8

I am part of a multiple system (DID). So yes- no and all stages in between. The system i s independently co-dependent.

I have learned to love all selves and myself.

Answer 9

I am independent and love myself. It makes for a wonderful life! :)

Answer 10

Interesting...I was codependent!!!! But I learned being codependent and in a serious relationship just leaves you feeling used and abused. Now I am Independent!!! Hard change... lots of reality checks but all for the better!!

Answer 11

I have never needed anyone,I started as a child I am comfortable ,I enjoy company .I can stand in a crowd of many friends and still feel anyone if I have something on my mind.I can still be the life of the party.When I walk away I am alone and content.

Others bring discontent with them,a facade of joy to be shortly lived.The negative strives within the cluster.

Answer 12

no-one is independent. unless you live on an island by yourself. We all rely on others.

co-dependent is not the opposite of independent.

Most healthy people are defined as interdependent. Meaning they have a healthy engagement in society.

Answer 13

VERY INDEPENDENT

Answer 14

Behavioural progress is something that changes slowly, but with awareness can change life profoundly.  Depending on the circumstances old behaviours can take over like a addiction so I fluctuate between my independence and co-depence but have come a long way.

Answer 15

independent is relaying on yourself and you don't need someone to make you happy....

codependent is wen you need someone to always be with you and you don't feel rught if your alone or without your significant other ...



i myself are alittle of both ... more independent

Answer 16

Depends... if you are self assured and aren't afraid to express it then you are likely somewhat independent. I say somewhat because of the following... If your expression is in any way dependent on what anyone else thinks or feels, then you are (to some degree) co-dependent. Co-dependency is having to have or wanting the approval or acceptance of one or more person(s) in order to feel accepted, a part of or justified. We are all co-dependent to some degree or another at some level of interaction or another. To be totally independent would mean to be completely and absolutely indifferent to any other influence outside of ones self. It would spell a person's social demise and would be completely unhealthy. A person would not only have to NOT have love for anyone else but would most likely end up not caring much for themselves.

I am co-dependent.

Answer 17

Neither one of the above I am interdependent.. meaning I am married..  every married person shares responsibilities and also feelings, decisions in a marriage both partners are equals...still they are interdependent...each of them is contributing towards living together financially and emotionally.

I can be interdependent and love myself and my partner and vice versa...x

Answer 18

I am very independent and feel more free when I am...

In fact, I can only spend a certain amount of time around people who are co-dependent before I become too annoyed.

And, I have little patience for people who play the victim role.

I wonder if it's because I'm a Pisces?

Answer 19

both

i love having a spouse, and someone to love and love me, but since that didnt work out...(abuse)  then i LOVE and have learned to be on my own

and just take care of my little ones...However i dread the day they leave the nest...so maybe i get lonely at times, still....8 years and i still quite like being the BOSS of my own affairs

Answer 20

INDEPENDENT and loving it all!

Answer 21

I quite codependedt. Hehe but i do feel good. Although i have to learn to be independent. But having someone to help you is good sometimes.  :  )

Answer 22

chris crocker is pissed.

Answer 23

im    I N D E P E N D E N T !!!!!!

Answer 24

I am independent but do not love myself at all. I simply do not rely upon others. I'm resourceful and intuitive.

Answer 25

Mostly, 98% of the time.  The times when I act in a codependent behavior is just sort of like a vacation from having to always make decisions.

Answer 26

Well I can't pass a mirror without winking at my image...what does that mean ....?

Answer 27

independent