Are you married to or dating a chauvinist?

Question

My husband thinks that things should always be HIS way or the highway. If I try to express my opinion, I am always bullied into shutting my mouth and accepting things the way they are.

I'm not allowed to have friends who, in his words, could "put ideas" in my head. Honestly, I'm a pretty smart woman who made a poor choice in a mate. I am better educated than my husband and I have the potential for earning more money than he does, but he does not allow me to have a job.

However, I have a plan. This weekend, I'm planning on secretly leaving the dolt and catching a plane to New York. I have a job lined up and an apartment waiting for me. This will rock his world, to put it mildly.

I wonder if it's too cruel to up and leave him with no warning, but I'm afraid that if I tell him that I'm planning on leaving him, he'll lose it and won't let me leave.

Answer 1

It's a pretty weak way to go.  It's funny but weak.  You can only be controlled if you allow it.  Don't make the same mistake again.

Answer 2

I wouldn't have had a second DATE with anyone like that.

I'm glad you're leaving, his next step would probably be physically abusing you!

Answer 3

Go for it. Just make sure you have your ducks in a row. Like your bank accounts are separate, your credit cards are separate etc. Because if he is in control of any of it you could be in for a suprise. Sounds very mean to just up and leave. But if he didn't treat you with dignity and respect as his spouse then why give it to him right?

Answer 4

If your afraid thats what will happen then dont tell him.  Sounds like theres no kids involved.  If he wasnt overbearing you wouldnt be sneaking off.

Good for you.

Good luck