Are you scared of leaving your child with babysitters? ?

Question

I don't think I asked a personal question to consider it a private info.

I'm just saying... me and my husband decided to watch our kids ourselves. We heard so many bad stories that we are simply scared. Wonder if anyone feels the same way. Thanks.

Answer 1

Oh gosh YES.  I don't trust anyone to watch my children.  I am a very over protective mother though.  I confess i don't even like to leave them with my mom!!  I have a hard time trusting people because my kids don't talk well enough to tell me if something happened(and im not talking about my mom on this).  Whn my middle sister was little she went to an abusive babysitter but was still a baby and could not talk therefore unable to tell my mom.  I had a school holiday but my mom did not have it off work so i had to go to the babysitters with her and i saw the whole thing, i was able to tell my mom what happened, needless to say that lady was ripped a new butt hole and my sister never went back!!!

Answer 2

Nope - because I would never leave my child with someone I didn't trust completely.  I can rest assured that if my phone isn't ringing, then everything is fine.  Having someone you trust is key.

Answer 3

i think thats a bit private...

Answer 4

YES!!!

YES!!!

YES!!!

YES!!!

YES!!!

...and no, I am not one of those over protective moms.  I'm acquainted  with a mother who had her three year old son taken by her babysitter and sold for human trafficking.  When she was reunited with her son 9 months later he had contracted 3 terminal diseases, was unable to hold his number two passings due to the continuous rape, and was brain damaged due to the amount of drugs he was forced to eat and the mental stress he endured.

On the flip side I'm sure 99% of the time it's harmless to leave your kid with a baby sitter, but if you are going to be the mom of that 1% it does become 100%.

This was the worst case scenario, but what about all the stuff in between, like unwanted touching, neglect, verbal abuse, exposure to p**n or other adult content, etc.  You should leave your kid with someone you know, well, very well.  Or, a very accredited sitting company where there is a sitting center with web cams.  Having more children around and or other care takers as well as cameras will usually prevent people from showing their bad side.

I love my kid and protect him from everything I can.  He still is his own person and is a very confident and able child.  No one has ever accused me of being over the top, just safe.

Answer 5

what about a younger family member? like a niece thats 15?

Answer 6

Completely. I have always been. The only people that have watched my girls are my mother and my friend and his wife. They have four girls of their own so we know we can trust them to watch our girls. Other than that I just stay home because I am afraid to leave them with anyone. You are always hearing horror stories about abuse and you never know what that sitter is doing while they are supposed to be watching your kids. I am just an overprotective mom and if I am bad my husband is ten times worse than that.  

Answer 7

Yes and I'm still pregnant with my first!

Answer 8

Yep. I usually try to leave my son with a family member I trust or a close friend I trust. I was molested as a child so I always worry about something like this happening to me child. Whats worse it that is usually happens with family members. If your going to look for a babysitter try to find one that other friends would recommend. Ask them to bring recommendations, credentials, etc. Make sure they know what they are doing and do it before you actually ask them to come watch your child(ren). You dont want the person to show up and then realize they arent someone you want to leave your kids with and have to cancel plans. Its a good idea to interveiw. Also its not a bad idea to put in a nanny-cam if you can afford it. The person may not be perfect or do everything you would like the way you would like it but at least you can see if they are mistreating your child. I totally plan on doing it.