Are you shocked by teenage pregnancy anymore?

Question

I can't help but get mad when I see 4 or 5 in one store. It seems to almost be the norm, and nobody seems to care. Am I just old fashioned? What are your thoughts?

Answer 1

Teenage pregnancy isn't a big shock to most people espeically in areas where it occurs alot...but people don't really care that much since it happens so often but the law still has the police questioning and investigating underage girls who have gotten pregnant just to make sure they weren't raped,etc... and its still a shock to see friends you have known or been to school with turn out to be pregnant you know not everyone who does get pregnant wanted to be...it is a problem though because of what millions of teens have to go through but things happen and not everyone is the same don't hold something like that against them they are people too and most of them should be able to learn from their own mistakes,even though some don't learn at all... instead of having people like us judge them which you should feel a little guilty about because your point of view on the world does seem a little "old fashioned" theres alot in this world that you probably never seen or experienced so you don't need to worry so much about what other people have to go through if your just going to talk like that about them,take pity when it doesn't seem like you care that much youself, and look down at them because that's what it's sounding like.

Answer 2

It doesnt bother me about the not being married part but it does bother me when your not ready to have a child. I am 21 years old and A LOT of the people i grew up with and are still friends with, inclusing my best friend, have children that they can not take care of! It makes me sad because that child didnt ask to be born into that. Everyone child is precious. It doesnt shock me anymore to see teens pregnant just because it happens to much and to people i know. My best friend had her fist child when she was 18 and now at 21 she's pregnant with her second!

Answer 3

Oh my ******* god! why does age matter with how you bring up your child? I was 17 when i fell pregnant 18 now and she is due in 5 weeks. I didnt planto get pregnant but i was on the pill and forgot to take one, a genuin mistake, i left school at 16 and went to college a week after i finished school i done 3 13 week courses and i was going to join the army. I have worked full time since i left college and have my own private rented flat. i dont claim benefits and my partner who is 23 is in the british army, we both have stable jobs and love to give our baby.

i am proper ****** mad at the last comment saying that teen mums are bad mums! shut ur ******* mouth!!

Im not being funny but the bad mums are women who have babys to get a house, claim benefits and dont get out and get a job they would rather sit on there fat lazy **** and use there kids as an excuse!!!!

Answer 4

that certainly isnt the "norm" where im from (a suburb of boston) I am gawked at as a 25 year old mother to a 10 month old.  I cant imagine the stares a teenage mother would get

Answer 5

More disgusted than shocked.  I live in a neighborhood where it's very common and it seems like people are having children without teaching them how to set priorities.  Then you see women who are doing a horrible job raising their children, being vicious and aggressive with crying babies, and you know it's the byproduct of their having reproduced much too young, and the babies pay the price.  It makes me sad and disgusted.

ZOE:

First of all, keep doing what you're doing.  You're trying your best to do the right thing with the situation you've created for yourself and I wish you the very best.  Second of all, the reason you don't understand what age has to do with being a good mother is because so far, all you've done is pregnancy.   Pregnancy sucked for me, it was incredibly hard, it wrecked my body inside and out, but it was a blissful shopping excursion compared to parenting.  I hope you have a very good support system around you and can count on help from your parents, because I think you have some major surprises ahead of you.  You've basically cut your 20s out of your life and driven straight into your 30s by choosing parenthood at this point in your life.  A lot of teenage moms, especially teenage moms raised by other teenage moms, especially in a poor, ignorant neighborhood like the one I live in,  find that it was more than they could or wanted to handle, but it's too late to escape, and they take it out on their kids.

Defend your own parenting but don't defend parenting a child when you're still a kid yourself.  I tend to think that in time, you'll come to know why some of us think you can have a baby too young.

Answer 6

no its to common moms don't watch there teens now a days what the worlds coming to babies having babies and grown women cant I just don't know

Answer 7

i know how you feel i understand i see it all the time i think the parents of the kids should really step up in thing like that they need to tell their kids to close their legs and do not open them until the right time i was taught right