Are you supposed to bring her along, or just pick 1 yourself?

Question

when you decide it's finally time to propose, do you think its better for her to come along for the ring selection, or you should choose for yourself? Only reason I ask is because I know some women prefer to pick their own ring, while others like the surprise. Which do you think is more appropriate?

Answer 1

maybe if she has any sister or girl cousins they could go with her to see what kind she likes then tell you. so you get her to pick it out but it'll be a surprise and what she wanted.

good luck! and congrats on the future engagement :]

Answer 2

Chances are if your are considering a proposal, you and your girlfriend have probably discussed marriage, and she has probably given you some idea of what kinds of rings she likes.  I say, make it a surprise.  Or, (if you are uncertain about what she likes) next time you two are out shopping, stroll past some jewelry stores and see if she points out or comments on anything.  Or, you could point out something and, saying "that's nice" (or whatever) and see how she responds.  In any case, she should love whatever you give her because you chose it especially for her.  Good luck!

Answer 3

I think if you know her you will know the ring for her.  My fiance wouldn't even let me show him pictures because he wanted to do it on his own and have it be a big surprise (whenever he was going to do it because he kept that a big secret too).

My ring is PERFECT, I honestly couldn't have designed it better myself, even the white gold trellis setting (he knew I liked white gold) was perfect, a little detail that I never told him was the trellis setting, but he just knew.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

its not about whats approptiate, its about her presonal preference.

If shes picky or ahnds on she would like to go, maybe not to buy it but at least to **** together.  you nkow what she wants and her size.

If she loves surprises then picking on for her is a great idea.  Just be sure you know what she likes for gold color and shapes.

Answer 5

I would say take her to the mall, walk by a jewelry store that has the rings in the front and see if anything catches her eye, if it does, go back and buy it. If the malls not your thing, give her a catalogue or something and see if she points anything out. Whatever you do, make sure you know what kind of metal she likes, if she hates gold, don't buy her gold. I'm sure sometime she's pointed out things she likes and doesn't like about a ring. Listen to her, that's your best bet.

Answer 6

The way my fiance did it was to propose to me without the ring. (he hadn't planned it, it was completely spontaneous) He then took me around to a few jewelry shops to let me point out what kind of ring I'd like. He took that information and then 6 months later he surprised me with it while on vacation in Nantucket.

You know your girlfriend best, so think it over and decide what she'd like best in regards to the engagement.

Answer 7

Personally, I'd rather he pick the ring for me and keep to the surprise. Heck, the whole point of the proposal is for it to be a surprise! If you're nervous about what styles she likes, ask the people who are close to her (just about all my friends know that I like silver-tone, princess cut solitaires just in case my boyfriend asks any of them, LOL!) If you think your girlfriend would rather be surprised, don't take her ring shopping. If she's the type who absolutely hates surprises, take her along.

Answer 8

The best thing to do is to find out from the people who know her.  Most women prefer one shape over the others.  Maybe one of her friends or parents can help you decide.  Then you can always bring it back.

Answer 9

Surprise her. Keep the receipt just in case though.

Answer 10

My fiancé chose my ring, which I told him I'd rather he do so it'd be surprise to me. I figured it like this.. If he didn't know me well enough to know my tastes then we should wait longer to get engaged. Ask your girlfriend the next time you start talking about  marriage. She probably won't even think a thing about it when it happens.

Good Luck

Answer 11

Most women are surprised. I think guys get clues over a long period of time about what she likes. First you find out whether she prefers gold or white gold/platinum then you figure out whether she likes round, square etc. I'm sure you know whether she is more classic in style and would like something more vintage in appearance or if she tends to prefer modern things. Take this information with you, or whatever you know to the store with you and the sales person can help.

Answer 12

It totally depends on the girl. Have you already been windowshopping? Has she pointed out one she really likes? If you know the one she likes, then get it, but otherwise, maybe drop some hints to go ring looking with her. She should still be plenty suprised when the moment comes.

Answer 13

If you trust her mom not to tell her you could ask her.

My first husband picked mine out and I loved it because it came from him and I was not expecting it.  

My second husband told me I could pick it out but I let him do it.  

The ring wasnt important to me. It was him asking me to marry him that was.

Answer 14

Both. I knew at a certain point that we were getting to that decision making time of whether to get engaged or break up. So i started leaving opening magazines with really gorgeous rings I liked. Or if I saw a celebrity got engaged and I loved their ring style I would show my FI. Or sometimes I would just leave up websites of rings I liked "accidentally" for him to see. In the end he picked on his own exactly what I wanted. But if if you think she has NO clue your even thinking about it, then ask one of her friends you can trust will NOT say anything. Or you start leaving web pages open of rings. She may get the hint that your looking and start leaving her own hints. If all else fails as her mom.