Are you the neighborhood mom?

Question

We moved to an apartment complex, and although I am ecstatic about my daughter making new friends, she seems to always bring them to our place, by the groups sometimes, and very rarely will she play outside which is what I encourage her to do, since watching TV all day is unhealthy. Well, it seem her friends always want to come inside, and one time I overheard my daughter asking if she could go to their place, and the kid said that his parents said they can't. Well, what am I? The new daycare of the area? Where's my paycheck? It's like these aprents are just dropping their kids off on my doorstep. One kid even said he couldn't go home yet because his mom went shopping. And we had to go somewhere.

Answer 1

i don't next to you and i don't know ask some close to you

Answer 2

say no then!

Answer 3

I'm too young to be a parent, but I'll give you the kid (o.k, technically teenager) perspective.

A lot of my friends would hang out at my house all the time and their parents would disappear just because their parents don't keep track of them - and they'd go off to work or something while the kid was hanging out at my place. And my place kind of became the place where we'd end up, partly because there was more to do at my house, and partly because my parents weren't gone and didn't get fussy about having other kids over.

I don't know how old your daughter is, but this started pretty early on in middle school and went on until the end of high school and they were already pretty independent by sixth grade; so I assume they were pretty young when they got used to this routine.

Answer 4

Perhaps that is God's way of relieving stress.....I simply enjoy being the neighborhood mom. I always have been since I was a teenager..I enjoy it better when I ask but lots of inconvenient times they just appeared or was sent without notice...I sincerely feel that I am needed and proud that the children selects me...It can be stressful,rude,and it may take away my personal time...The important thing to me is being there for them to teach,protect and give love where these things may not be felt......I will never forget my brother wanting to hang under me ALL the time,perhaps if I had let him he would not be in/out of jail ALL his life....Embrace being the Neighborhood Mom it is a Blessing for you and those kids,also yours are safer in the comfort of their own home...Btw my house was my friends hangout it keep us out of a lot of trouble until we moved into a smaller apartment,Come to think of it My granny/mom were Neighborhood Moms..Everyone and I do mean everyone even strangers knew Granny.....Blessings... Blessings Yahoo