Aren't all preschool teachers supposed to be sweet and friendly?

Question

My son is going to this new developmental school (it offers regular academics with therapy and tutorials) and i think the school is really great. what i can't get are the impersonal teachers. they rarely smile at the parents when they bring their children in. whenever we ask them questions (and i even use my cheeriest tone), they'd be very formal, straight to the point, and frankly, a bit 'cold'. i guess i'm just used to preschool teachers being warm and bubbly and not too business-like. could it be their school rule to detach from the parents? shouldn't school be like 'family'?

Answer 1

Are they Special Ed. teachers or Preschool teachers? If it's the first, that may explain it. In any case, I would not want a child in any program where parents are not welcome and greeted warmly. If they cannot make the effort to be friendly that indicates a lack of respect and recogniyion for the important role you play in your child's life. Ask to visit and observe while the class is in session. If they refuse, that's a good indication that this is not a good place for children.

Answer 2

yes they r supposed to and don't go by what the kids say ask to stay and watch to see how it is. the little kid just what to stay home with his mommy so don't worry they will be ok  

Answer 3

i'd be concerned about this.  maybe it's that the tension in the school runs over to the parents/children.  could they possibly be having moral issues at the school?  low pay vs. high expectations and work load?

Answer 4

l personally wouldn't trust them with my child/children if they treated me like that...god only knows what they're like to the children. No one should be unfriendly, especially in the situation where you are putting your trust in someone to love and care for your child, not to mention the fact that you are paying the bloody b******s!

If i were you, i would go to the boss and ask them straight out why they're all cold b*****s and if it continues then you'll pull your son out!

Answer 5

I'm a student teacher and we are always told not to befriend our students. This is because students will not see us as authority figures if we are too nice. I always have a hard time with this, since I am a friendly person. Those teachers may be taking that rule to the extreme. Either that, or the school has certain rules and obligations that the teachers must follow. If I had children, I would take them to a school where they feel comfortable and happy. The learning environment is extremely important to the success of children. :)

Answer 6

As a former teacher myself, I would be VERY concerned with a preschool where the teachers are not welcoming and friendly towards the parents. If they behave that way towards you, imagine how they must act towards the children when the parents are not watching... Instead of worrying too much about the academics- your son has the rest of his life to learn- I would place him in a school where things like compassion, sharing, honesty, etc... where the focus. They are only little a short time and he will have to do his academics soon enough. Let him be the little guy that he is! I have 3 children and only our oldest went to preschool part time years ago. The school we placed her in was FUN. There was no focus on academics. Learning came from experiencing life- gardening, painting, playing with others, etc... Now, years later, she still talks about that school! Preschool is going to be your son's 1st experience with school. I would do whatever it takes to make sure its a positive one, or it WILL have lasting effects on him.

Answer 7

i am a preschool teacher and i found that a child responds better to happy face rather than a miserable or stern face. children are happier to detatch from parents when they feel wanted and loved in a place that is not their home. I have a great time at work because the children respond well to my cheery attitude. on the odd occaision we have a substitute teacher come in who is a bit of a sour puss and the kids will stick to me like glue. my aim as a teacher is to make the childrens day a good one that they'll want to go home and say "Mum, guess what we did today?" or "i had a great day mum" and i'm happy knowing i've made someone smile.