Aren't men always up for a lunch time quickie?

Question

i ran home for lunch to surprise my husband for a quickie, but once he realized that it wasn"t a sandwich i had on my mind he said he wasn't "feeling" it since he had not really been up for too long and then left out of the room. WTF? i mean we havent had s*x in five days.... i thought men were always up for this kind of thing. my confidence just took a drop kick! i'm a little confused. any advice?

Answer 1

Sometimes my horny horny husband, who is ALWAYS interested in s*x, will be overrun with stress and will occasionally turn me down.  Don't blow it out of proportion and try to accept it gracefully.

Answer 2

Well, you could be like us and never have s*x because you don't find each other attractive anymore. You should count your blessings, not to mention your lucky stars...

Answer 3

I think that is just a stereotype my husband has often surprised me with "no hun I'm not in the mood" don't let your confidence go down because of it because I'm sure there have been times where you have turned him down but he has asked again. all men get turned down. I would try your self to a mani pedi like I do and get your hair down by some s**y p.js and try again.

edit: sorry I ment to put treat your self

Answer 4

I think hubbie had s*x with himself before you got home and he wasn't up for the real thing so soon afterwards. Oops!!  

Answer 5

No offense, but offering someone the same thing that they can have anytime is not much of a treat.

Answer 6

Hmm, he hadn't really been up for too long?  So you mean that maybe he recently got up and wasn't sportin' the morning wood?  Don't let this wreck your confidence, this is on him for "burping the worm" when he woke up...frankly, I'd be pissed not hurt....talk to him and let him know that nooners are going to become a part of the sexual repertoire and to "be prepared" for another surprise soon.  Try it again and how much you wanna bet he'll be ready????

Answer 7

Oh the Nooner....it wasn't a sandwich you were bringing him. Kinda like what happened to Al...Peg called and said oh Al, come home for a nooner. Al got all excited, bragging to his co-workers that he was getting a hot lunch from his wife. Went home only to find Peg was the Nooner. He was downtrodden. Made for some funny tv....in real life though, it's just sad no? My man is always salivating for a nooner...or a daybreak love fest....or a 2am wake-up-and-s***w...or afternoon delight. He's just raring all the time. I can see how it would be disheartening for you. Talk to him about it, tell him how it made you feel. Tell him the lack of intimate encounters you are having with him aren't enough as of late. Communication. It is the single best solution to most problems.  

Answer 8

A lunch time quickie is the best, girl just throw it on him, give your man a s**y lap dance.

Answer 9

they sure are, an anytime quickie,

sorry but he may have just had web cam s*x, which to me is cheating of course.

or he just did himself in the bathroom,

not much else of an explanation

Answer 10

I've had to deal with this situation in the traditional "wife turns down husband" role.  I try to stay playful and upbeat.  It can keep the mood fun and intimate even without s*x.  And you could still bring him around if you hide your disappointment.  If he gives you the cold shoulder for just trying to cuddle with him, there could be bigger issues than him being "not in the mood".

Answer 11

drop the pounds and maybe he will want to sleep with you

Answer 12

oh, husband, never mind. i was going to suggest you go out to lunch with someone else and find out.

Answer 13

Don't worry bout it, it's not that he's not interested in you.  He's just not interested in s*x right now.

5 days is not a long time really, for a guy.  You stay married long enough it will probably dwindle down to once a month if his perscription for viagra is filled for him.

Oh wait, here is some advice, next time you try this on your way in the door grab stuff like cake, ice cream and heck maybe some lunch meat too.  Tell him your serving lunch, get on the table and cover yourself in the stuff, hey might work, he'll get his food and clean you up too.

Answer 14

I really want to answer this question for you because I have a higher drive then my husband & we women need to stick together.  I thought I'd go straight to the source & ask my husband but he's watching the Jets & can't be bothered.  Maybe your husband just wasn't in the mood.  Sorry.  I know how you feel.

Answer 15

I think it is a misconception that men are ALWAYS in the mood. I have also been in the position of wanting a lunch time quickie and he didn't! I've had conversations with my friends that had similar confusing moments as they were turned down by their husband/boyfriend. Don't let it effect your confidence! Men aren't always the stereotypical s*x addicts they are made out to be.....just as women aren't always the sexually indifferent creatures we are made out to be.

Answer 16

thats kinda wierd, however, my man doesnt really like quickies at all.. every now and then, but he's a cuddler!!! he likes to know he's loved and he likes me to know im loved

Answer 17

ouch... what is up with that? Not sure what his issue is. If it was me well...  

Answer 18

call me.  I'm always up for quickies. long timers, all days, all nights--whatever you want.