Argh just had public argument with fiance so embarrassed?!?

Question

Help! I just had an argument in the middle of town with my fiance and I threw a sandwich at him and loads of people I know saw :(

What do I do? Im so ashamed I looked like a commoner :(

Also now me and my fiance are not speaking.

And before you ask i threw it at him because he was meant to meet me so we could go somehwere, and I bought us lunch as a suprise, but he just didnt turn up until he felt like it (v late and we missed the last bus) and it hurt my feelings so I threw the lunch at him :(

And believe it or not im not 14, im a 21 year old woman.Argh!

Answer 1

next time u go were u had a agument walk along like nothin happend,

and i dnt think u over reacted coz he should had phoned u or somthing

xx

Answer 2

Well...you said it best, I thought you were a lot younger than 21 by your actions. You need to develop more self control for one. Yeah, he shouldn't have shown up late, that was rude and I know it hurt your feelings. The best thing to do when something like that happens is just to walk away. He'll "get it" a lot quicker than you throwing a sandwich at him

Answer 3

I'll probably wait for an apology or get away from you.  

Answer 4

I believe maturityis not in the eye of the beholder

rather in how the communityresponds to your tantrum

I have a particular relationship to life that allows me to respond and not react to what has elluded mankind for centuries. . . ..... What does it all mean?

Answer 5

ask them WTF you lookin at, and say yeah i did it now what..?

Answer 6

If he is so inconsiderate now, it is only going to get worse with time.So unless he has a good reason for it perhaps you should not be worrying about the embarrassment of your behaviour, but the potential for further more serious let downs in the future

Answer 7

Keep on living....whats your ques? See if he calls...

Answer 8

it happens  

Answer 9

that was so immature of you. that you did that. u should've let that go beyond your head. you should take a deep breath and walked away

Answer 10

That's really funny! You SHOULD have chucked the sandwhich at him, he deserved it!

These things happen, you get caught up in the moment and end up behaving like a lunatic. Trust me, I've been there!

At the end of the day the people who saw it all will probably never see you again (obviously depending on the size of the town) and they were probably grateful of the entertainment!

What you need to do now is talk to your fella, explain that you were just pissed off, that you're really embarrassed and sorry and he probably forgive you and you'll both laugh about it and tell the story at your wedding.

Answer 11

Try to talk to him about why you were upset and tell him the reason you threw the sandwich at him. Then apologize to him and start focusing on your wedding plans.

Answer 12

Haha - it could be worse. One of my friends chucked a pint over her bf because he was two hours late - there are still together now. If he loves you he will forgive you. Just apologise but explain why you did it. Also when ya see the people you know - just laugh it off - its none of their business anyway.  

Answer 13

I know how bad you feel. I have been there (not lately).

I suspect the cited incident was not the first time he had been late and/or disappointed you in some way. Sometimes, when we have reached our limit, we just "blow".

In the past, I reacted immaturely and loudly at such times.  When I grew older I realized that I could and would change.  For the most part, I did.  I rarely "blow" even when having a one-on- one discussion. I never "blow" in public anymore.

It took me 20 years or so to learn that there was a better way.

and I did not start on that journey till I was 30 at least.

Forgive yourself; be patient with yourself.  You can do better and you WILL.

Answer 14

its your fault.you should have expressed your feelings through words , not  through action .meet him and apologise for what you did.dont show ego,afterall he's going to be your better half.

plz do meditation to control your anger.

all the best.

Answer 15

PMS? That's not really the most legitimate reason to throw a sandwich at someone. Did you give him a chance to explain why he was late???

Come on now! Women our age have learned how to manipulate situations like this!!! What you should have done was be extremely disappointed and show that you were hurt - maybe even have verbalized these feelings to him. He'd feel like the a.hole that he was being and apologize and/or make it up to you.

Anger solves nothing. Honesty (though most men call it manipulation) is the best route! :)

You should really apologize though... that is a little ridiculous =P

Answer 16

You two are getting married, both of you might rethink if this is a good choice.

You did not do right, but he did not either. Don't be to hard on yourself we all do things that are counted as not our best moment.  

Answer 17

Help you with what?

If  I were him I would never go out with you again.  You wouldn't get but one chance to do that to me.

Answer 18

:/.....ummm lolz....the only thing you can really do is apologize to him and just tell him it hurt your feelings.I know that you  might have been embarrased.....but there is no way you can take throwing food at him in public.

Hope this helps!!

Answer 19

apologize. period,

Answer 20

haha. I could see myself doing the same thing!

I would just laugh it off as you were pissed and the sandwhich was the only projectile you had.  It might be ebarrassing now but that won't last long.  

To help your current situation if someone is giving you a dirty look just ignore it. It's not their problem its you and your finance's problem and if you feel like you must tell them that do it.

I would be amused if I saw someone I knew chuck a sammich at a guy.

Answer 21

ha ha i would have probably done exactly the same and id be regretting it now aswel

you both have apologizing to do... him for being late and you for ur sandwich throwing.

it only takes a text or a phone call to let you no he was going to be late... if he didn't then thats just rude of him and he deserved to wear that sandwhich!

Answer 22

I take it this was your first public argument.  You need to apologize for your immature behavior, and explain to him why you were angry.  Assure him that you will never cause a public spectacle again, then stick by your promise.  Everyone looses it at least once in their life, just learn from this and keep a lid on your temper from now on.

Answer 23

confront him about your feeling and tell him you are sorry that you did that. if that doesn't work then you should not get married. since he loves you, you two will get over it. - no to be mean / rude or anything but that is a stupid fight (: funny too. but everyone has their days... good luck (:

Answer 24

that is so reasonable and you shouldn't feel ashamed! how dare he leave you waiting! you had every right to be mad at him!

you two will work it out and you'll probably laugh about it once you've made up :)

don't worry so much about it sweetie - what you did was understandable and maybe your fiance is just feeling embarrassed with what you done but you shouldn't feel ashamed AT ALL!

hope it all works out :)