We have been together four years and his son is five. I have never really got on with his ex because she has never accepted me, and i feel she had turned their son against me( he crys if he doesnt get his way and makes up lies about me). She doesnt work and has a new boyfriend and child with him, yet she still rings at times she knows we will be alone or busy just to inform him over stupid things that can wait till he picks his son up. I used to accept it but lately she keeps changing the days we have their son, meaning we would need to rearrange our plans on short notice,(we work fifty hrs she doesnt an need time by ourselves also). I understand his son must come first and i entered into this relationship knowing this but feel im not even second best, i feel i come after his ex, he would rather risk arguing with me than his ex, because she threatens to say he would never see his son again if he didnt obey by her rules. She even gets us to babysit at her house so her and her bf can go out and we have to look after their new baby aswell as my fiances boy, even tho i offered to look after his son over night, but told her she would have to arrange someone else for their own baby as this is not my fiances baby, but again she played the dont bother seeing him again card and stop being a part time dad card. I love my fiance to bits and he like wise, but he feels his stuck between a rock and a hard place, Help advice needed on how to deal with situation, as arguing is taking place now, even though we love each very much.
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