As Soon as me her dad or anyone Touch My 19 Month Old She Rejects us. Says No, Stop has this happed 2 U?

Question

Yeah i know this is maybe just Toddler Behavior, but my 19 month old daughter Rejects us. Not even when she wants to do something were stoping her from doing.

As soon as me or my husband go to carry her. Nooo Stoppp and we prob get a Smack in the face.

i have whole day without seing her she's getting strapped into carseat by her dad i go to simply rub her leg NOO STOPP and pushes my hand away and lifts her leg so i wont tuch it.

When is time to go home and daddy goes to carry her she screams NOOOOOOOOOO Stop and smacks him in the face.

She Spends most of her time with dad since he works at night and i work during day. So is not like she's picking this up from a babysitters or something.

We have never rejected her in any way for her to have learned this so is puzzling how she simply came up with this.

and Just recently she started waking up like this too that right when she wakes up we greet her & try to kiss her and she pushes us away

Answer 1

"time out" is not adequate for a little girl. They do not understand. It is a punishment that doesn't do anything but give you time. She is 19 months for heaven's sake. She might not like people touching her. It could just be her personality. When she smacks you or your husband just tell her it's not right and it hurts and do the same to her (obviously not hard). It's not so much the pain that hurts them, just the idea. Then just walk away and ignore her. She will soon want you to pick her up or hold her. My daughter was the same way.

Children, especially toddlers, like to play games with the parents. You just have to show her that they won't work. Hope everything turns out ok. Email me if you need anything else. God bless!

Answer 2

it sounds like she is developing some tactile defensiveness. Does she also overreact to things like having her face wiped or tags in her clothing? That is the kind of thing that my son does...except the smacking.  See if you can find the book "the out of sync child" it deals with sensory disfunction...and this might be her problem. Have you tried different touches....like hard or soft? the soft touches could be overstimulating her nerve endings to the point of pain where a firmer touch could be soothing.

Answer 3

Ok, I was raised old school and am raising my kids the same way, but I'd suggest you first try giving her time out (1 minute per year of age) and telling her this isn't acceptable behavior.

I honestly have to tell you, if she were mine, she'd get her butt spanked!  If you allow this behavior to continue, it's only going to get worse.  She's already setting a pattern to 'rule the roost,' and it's up to you to stop it.  The longer it's allowed to go on, the harder it is to change her.

My cousin has a child that's autistic and mainly avoids all contact, but she's never slapped her parents.  She may turn her head away and put her hands in front of her face, but she hasn't ever hit back at her parents.  She also doesn't, nor has she ever, spoke.  I'm aware that not every autistic child is the same.  Another acquaintance has an autistic son who talks up a storm, but freaks out if everything he has isn't in it's place or is the wrong color.  His color is red.

I'd take her in and have her checked out by your pediatrician.  If nothing's wrong, take further actions to correct the situation.  I know it can be bothersome.  Another friend's daughter acts this way.  She's now 4 years old and is worse than she was when she was 1.  I no longer have anything to do with them.  I don't like being around bad kids, and she's a pro at being awful to her parents and anyone around her.  I once babysat her and she cried from 6:30 PM to 5 AM...about nothing!  She wet herself and wouldn't allow me to change her, or so she thought.  I changed her and bathed her and she screamed like she was dieing.  At 5 AM, I couldn't take anymore, so I tore her butt up!  She shut up, calmed down and went to sleep.  I don't believe in abusing children, but when all else fails, your hand and their butt makes for gentle persuasion!

I hope you find common ground soon and your situation is resolved.  May God bless you!

Answer 4

some people misunderstand autism nowadays..just because a toddler doesnt wanna be touched doesnt neccessarily mean he/she is autistic..anyway, my kid is like this too but its only w/ other people..he doesnt wanna be touched except by me, his dad or his nanny and grandpa..my sister, his aunt, usually dangles him a toy so he'd let her close to him..try to give ur child something she'll like so she'll allow u to touch her till the attitude will go away w/c it will eventually

Answer 5

it sounds like you're letting her run your house, I think she needs a spanking

Answer 6

sounds like she has an attitude problem!

Answer 7

There is no need for spanking.  Whats going on is that your daughter is starting to realize about her space and when it gets invaded.  My niece is the same way and shes going on two this august.  All kids are like that because when I was younger I would hug my younger cousins by the head and they would cry and squirm.  I also do it to my niece and I had to ease on that becuase she cries if I do it for a long time.  My dad raised me not to be so physical with people because I was impulsive.  He wouldn't even let me console anybody who was crying because he was teaching me about people's personal space.  Now he doesn't get mad at me anymore because I learned how to control my impulses.

Answer 8

yeah could be an attitude problem, but have you google autism? ot sure what the symptoms are fr this young but having o emotional or physical contact or not wanting it from others is a good sign google it