As a birth mother were do I start?

Question

I am due July 4th and up until a week ago(believe it or not) I have not even considered adoption because my mind was too busy thinking of new lies to tell my boyfriend as to why I missed every abortion appointment. It was so stressfull that I had to constentlly go over in my mind the excuses that I came up with just so I didnt have to go through that. Well, know that it is far too late for abortion, he agrees that adoption is the best solution because we have a 1 1/2 year old and (as much as I would love to) I connot provide for another child. I just dont know where to start. Where to get sound advice. If you have info that could help me strart this process I would greatly appreciate it. I already answered an add in my local paper but the attorney (i assume) answered and said he would give the woman who wanted to adopt the info and my number. Well she called once but I was busy and asked if she could call back. She hasn't yet so that makes me feel like she must not be intrested?

Answer 1

There are reliable adoption agencies in every community.  Check the phone book or the internet and you will find one easily.  They will give you sound advice about the whole process.  They will allow you to choose the adoptive parents, allow you to choose the degree of contact you want after the adoption.  They may even have a birth mother support fund that will help you financially in these last months.  Call and ask them all the questions you can think of.

Answer 2

I'm really happy to know that you didn't go for abortion.

My advice will be to call two or three lawyers or three different adoption agencies for example you can go to www.adoption.com and find information about adoption and maybe an agency or call your local county office, they may explain you the process.   Most important, find an attorney or agency you like and trust in the state you live.

And the good thing is that the adoption family will help you for all the hospital fees and any other expenses related, due to a high request for infants in the US.

Best wishes to you and your family.

Answer 3

there are all sorts of programs that offer assistance in order to help you keep your child

talk to social security

you may qualifiy for wic (this will help you and the babies with food) and food stamps or whatever else is offered

also most churches have a program for food and clothing

if you dont not want to give up this child dont you can get help

if you do want to give up the baby just talk to your ob and they will get you the info you need

Answer 4

Hi

I am a adoptive Mother of two my family and I are looking to adopt again,  You can do a private adoption, go through an agency or a attorney. You can have a open, semi open or closed adoption, You can decided on the parents  you want to raise your child.

We would love to talk to you. If you would like more information on us or about adoption please feel free to email us at vrs31proverbs31.

God luck and GOD BLESS

Answer 5

You are making a good decision by giving a life to someone who wants to share their love and lives with that little one. I bet the woman that contacted you is still interested just giving you a little space. Someone out there will want this baby and they will be loved. Even if this woman doesn't work out, you will find someone to raise this child.

Answer 6

Maybe she is afraid to call you back too soon and make you feel pressured.  It could also be that you did not sound as if you were too sure about giving your baby up for adoption.  I can tell just by reading this you are having a hard time, and it is very understandable why. If you have her email or phone number try to contact her again.  I know this is something I would do is wait for the Mother to call me in order to make sure it is her idea and not just mine.

Answer 7

http://www.americanadoptions.com/  

Call this agency ASAP (or look in the phone book for one).  They are wonderful and they will make sure that everything is done legally and that you get what you need.  You are entitled to your bills being paid and all medical bills as well as any other special needs you may have - if you need counseling, maternity clothes or any extras.  You can do open, semi-open or closed - depending on how you are feeling.  You shouldn,t be the one handling all this and you don't need to speak with adoptive mothers over the phone.  They will give you family info on several different families and you can choose the family you feel most comfortable with.  The best way for you to do this is through an agency.  I have been on both sides of this and I think you are very courageous to do this.  You don't know how special it is that you are doing this for a couple that cannot have their own babies.

Answer 8

you can call any adoption agency and let them know you are wanting to give your baby up for adoption, they will begin working with you to check on the health of the baby (and you) and then will give you your options (open adoption where you meet the family, can still talk with the baby, etc. or closed where you can pick based on personality, income, etc. but you won't meet the parents and won't have the option of seeing the baby).  Most planned parenthood centers can get you in contact with a local adoption agency