As a father what would u do?

Question

my kids r real small now but many times as any other father I think of their marriage. i know Islaam encourages eary marriage. If u have kids what would u do & why?I'm not asking u if ur kids r gona make their own choice, I'm asking as a father's duty.

Answer 1

Tell them to marry a Muslim when they're mature enough. That's the only restriction you should impose upon them. Don't tell them which culture/race they should marry as that is not Islamic

Answer 2

Well, I will leave it upto them (when to decide to marry).

I will not force any of my children, but will give them advice ofcourse.

I will, ofcourse, choose the groom for my daughter, and the bride, for my son - as I think I know whats right for them.

The most important things are:

1) The girl should be Shareefa (a girl who is pious Muslim who does not go left and right or commit zina, etc.)

2) To be a Muslim

3) To be educated

4) To be able to support the family

Answer 3

Salam Alaikum Brother,

So you started thinking so early. I never thought about mine yet. Let's grow them in the best as we can and when time is ripe, Seek the proper ways of Marriage Insha-Allah.

Answer 4

as a parent your job is to set the best example and to guide and assist your children through their lives.  Inshallah when the time comes (and btw it does not have to be so early) then you will deal with it appropriately.  I have two teenagers and I can tell you raising kids is like a roller coaster ride.  So many changes, so you have to adapt along the way.