As a mom how to get threw the day?

Question

i have a 5 year old and a almost 3 and they fight all the time. About everything. Who gets in the bathtub first...who do I hug the last. This toy is mine...or no this isnt mine you play with it now. Or its the pinching or kicking. Then at night jumping on the bed. They either have to be totally wore out by the time bed times comes or they get up constantly. Please dont tell me how bad of a mother I am...I just want some advise. I have a schedule threw the day but I have to get them out of the fighting about everything.

Answer 1

Teamwork is learned. When they have fun together they forget about competing.

Give them projects to do things together. Make them work together to accomplish certain things. Have them take a gymastics class together (or some type of class that makes them have fun together).

Buy the same colored cups, spoons, everything to minimize your stress.

tThey love , LOVE, love YOU, and want your attention. As hard as it is  to do now (because I'm sure you can get really sick of them sometimes) make sure you spend separate time with each one daily. Set up a timer for 15 minutes, and let the other one know that when it goes off it's his turn...

Be creative...

Answer 2

This can be really stressful even when you are reassured that it is normal.  First, stay as calm as you can.  They will feed off your frustration and anxiety.  Second, try to make time to give each of your children "special" time where you spend time exclusively with them and make them feel like your special child by noticing all the wonderful things about them. "Special" time is not a time to answer the phone or do chores, nor is it a time to teach manners or good behavior.  It is just a time to be with your child - and you and your child will reap the benefits!  Lastly, give yourself a break!  Do you have someone that could watch them for awhile while you take "me" time?  YOu could go for a walk, go shopping alone, or even just sit at home and read a book.  Time by yourself is essential for you to have the patience to handle your two little monkeys!  Good Luck - and remember This too shall pass

Answer 3

I have a 6 year old niece who live with me and a 5 year old son and 15 month old daughter. Their constantly fighting too. their choices are be in separate rooms or share.