As a parent, is there ever a good enough reason for kicking your child out of your house?

Question

Would you blame them for dis-owning you too, if you did kick them out of the house?

Answer 1

there are many good reasons, but oftentimes a child is misunderstood.

Reasons to kick out: Violent children that cannot be controlled. Defiant children that think they know better than their parents and refuse to listen.

But many times a child may lash out from frustration and a parent needs to take time and see what's wrong

Answer 2

I am not a parent but my friend had been thrown out because she got pregnant, and she was 16 just about to get to 17, and so basically my friend was homeless, she stayed with me for a night and there were a couple of night she slept in a park etc and finally she got in a shelter, i could never excuse kicking out my child for that, and i would not blame her for disowning her mum.

Answer 3

When they're 20 years old and the only source of income they have is selling marijuana out of your house while you're at work - that reason was good enough for me.

Answer 4

im 17 and i was given the option of leaving the house or getting rid of my baby at 28wks and my mam forced me into getting rid(illegally) and then kicked me out just to hurt me so at the end of the day the child has no say over wht happens it is ultimately up tothe parent.

Answer 5

to tell you the truth i have no idea all i know is i was kicked out when i was 15 i came back home a year later and the door was wide open for me

i thank my mother now everyday for doing that to me i was a horrid child i would beat her up .... anything you could think of i did it and when i came home i was a better person i believe in extreme conditions it just some times needs to be done if you have already done everything possible whats left?

as long as the parent still provides for the child (paying for school, money for food, money for clothing, and rent) then the parent has every right they are still providing what they need to ...

Answer 6

I'm 16 and don't think there is

when a teenager (or child) is having problems that are making you mad, its actually a cry for help that they don't know how to express, make them (and possibly yourself) see a counsellor

Answer 7

As a minor, there is not reason what so ever.

As an adult, yeah there are plenty of reasons to kick an adult child out.  A 30 year old living at home not paying his bills not working and spending what money he does have on drugs....   Does NOT need to be living in my house.

You want to disown me, fine.  But I am not going to enable that kind of c**p.

Answer 8

Yeah, sometimes with addiction problems in particular it is a catalyst for the kids getting help. Sometimes the bottom has to fall out for people to seek treatment, and that may involve a parent taking away financial support.

Answer 9

No. Only murder or some sort of child abuse is a good reason. Other than that they are your child and you should always have a door open for them.

Answer 10

depends on how old they are and what they have done or not done to get kicked out... if you are 20 years old, no job, not in school, and is pretty much living off of their parents... then I thin kthe parents should have a talk with the kid and say this is your deadline to get a job and get your own place be out in 2-3 months... but a 16 year old... they are still trying to figure out who they are and depending on what they have done you can either send them to boot camp or talk to them and let them know how you are feeling and what you feel are your options. good luck!

Answer 11

NO!!!!!!! That is horrible!

Answer 12

My mother threat to kick me out of the house when I was 17. I didn't wait for her to really kick me out, so I just packed and left. I didn't do anything stupid, I worked and earned my living, paied for my studdies and of course I have no respect for her. I bet she's very sorry right now.

By the way, she is a borderliner, wich I guess explanes a lot, and the reason why she threated me to kick me out is cause I was dissobeying her - but wich 17 years old doesn't? Looking back, I am happy I left. She would have eventually chushed me under her huge ego and her will to control everything

Answer 13

Parents have a legal responsibility for the welfare of their child up to age 18.  If you're experiencing problems, there are crisis shelters and intervention places that can help for a limited period of time. Youth in Need is a good resource.  Counseling is good, too.

Answer 14

If my child was under the age of 18 I would never kick them out.  I had the child, and as their parent it is my responsibility to take care of them until they are 18.  Now Im not saying as soon as they turn 18 I would kick them out, but if they were trying to live off me, no job, no school or anything thats a different story.

Answer 15

This depends on the age and circumstances, My son was asked to leave the family home,aged twenty after he decided that he could not live by the rules of the house.We lost contact for a number of years,but he eventually returned to the family having grown into a caring adult who realised that his earlier behaviour was not acceptable to society in general and not just to his own family.

At no time did he think of disowning us.

Answer 16

As a now-grown-up who was thrown out on several occasions, only to finally decide I wasn't going back at 15, I'd say no.  The first occasion was when I was 12, I went out with friends and was half an hour late because my dad forgot to pick me up so I had to run home in the dark, then my mum threw me out for being late!  I have a daughter now and I cannot imagine disowning her, no matter what she did.  I have now disowned my mother, and my father and I have a very poor relationship.  I just don't understand why some people bother becoming parents.

Answer 17

no that would be mean

Answer 18

It would be hard, but i have a short list of things that I would kick my children out for. It consists of violent crimes being committed (rape, assault, shooting someone) and consistent defiance of laws (like stealing) and abusing drugs. I will also kick them out if they are clearly abusing their ability to stay at my home, like if they are 25-26 not in school and refusing to get a job to support themselves. There are some things where a child needs tough love to learn what is best for them, this includes helping them get out on their own at an appropriate age and to help them get over their addiction to drugs. I would give them an ultimatum in the drug scenario: rehab or get out. Age is also an important factor in all of these things. A minor does not have much choice but to live at home.

I do not think I could ever "disown" my own child. I hope I can raise them to be good people where I do not need to worry about any of these things happening. I would never kick my child out for getting pregnant or being in love with someone I do not agree with.

Answer 19

Remember the story of the "Three Little Pigs"?  The pigs were not little any more but adults and they need to be set out to the world to seek their own fortune.

Some young adults need a nudge.

They don't benefit from disowning you but they would benefit from learning to fend for themselves.

Once the kids get into some kind of trouble they will always go back to you.  Its getting rid of the trouble they bring home that will be hard to disown.  

Kick the Children out when:

drugs, prostitution, illegal weapons, murder, kidnapping, breaking the federal and state law in your house because you could be put to jail or prison too.

Answer 20

Only if your *adult* child is using/ free loading off you. (i.e. - 18 or over, not going to school, no job, not paying rent, not cleaning, not buying groceries, etc)

That said, a parent's job is to love their child *unconditionally*. The above child I just described most likely needs *more* love, not less. This is where the term "tough love" comes in.

Answer 21

Well anytime you don't feel safe with your child in the home. You should all ways feel safe in your own home. So anything that revolves around safety, drugs both using and especially dealing, extreme violence, mental health (this is touchy it is not their fault and you need to stick by them but people with mental health issue are notorious for coming off their meds on purpose because they think they are better and depending on the illness they can be very dangerous to themselves and others)

Those are the only things i can think of off the top of my head.

Answer 22

i had extremely forgiving parents, they wouldnt have kicked any of us kids out of the house for anything and i hope to be the same way.

as far as dis-owning, it depends if it was a good reason i kicked them out or not